Children shape their own character according to their parents' appearance from an early age. Parents are the template of children's "personal design", parents are their first teachers, and family is their lifelong school.
No matter how old they are, children will always use their parents' words and deeds as a reference to think about things and deal with problems.
What kind of example parents set, what kind of person children will become. The formation of children's self-awareness is closely related to the influence of family education.
Self-awareness is the foundation of self-esteem and self-confidence. How to build it depends on learning from parents at first, and gradually transforming it into your own personality and consciousness through imitation.
Then children will find other imitators through life or art media. For example, children will call themselves "Monkey King", "Spider-Man" and "Peggy Pig" from an early age.
All of the above are the process of children's self-cognition. Parents should pay attention to this ability and don't think that children are "talking nonsense". In fact, they are building their self-awareness through imitation.
If there are more positive examples of children's energy at this stage, his self-awareness will be more positive and his growth will be better.
On the contrary, if there are some bad images or negative information around you at this time, the child may go astray in the process of growing up, because he will unconsciously imitate in the environment and use his imagination to shape a bad self-awareness, and then he will become less suitable for the positive energy of society.
We now advocate positive energy, and people with positive energy are accumulated and precipitated from life. Simple "cultivation" is impossible and can't be done easily.
Because positive energy is closely related to self-awareness, the formation of self-awareness permeates every little detail of life. You can't change it in the last training class.
Parents are willing to give their lives for their children, but they are unwilling to spend time and thoughts to build their children's positive self-awareness. First, they must know what children really need. Parents expect their children to become talents and give them the best education. They would rather scrimp and save, but they should also let their children go to school, attend cram schools, enter bilingual kindergartens and train all kinds of talents from an early age. When they go to school, they will be full of cram schools on weekends, and they will never be soft on spending money on it.
Parents are usually busy earning "education funds" for their children, but they ignore the time with their children. In fact, learning and playing are inseparable. Many parents subconsciously think that only by studying well first can they have fun, make rules for their children, learn how long before they can play, and even regard playing as a reward for learning. In fact, this puts learning and playing on the opposite side.
But in fact, if we can combine play with learning, children can not only learn faster and more solidly, but also bring this attitude to their future work. This process needs the guidance and companionship of parents, because children will not understand this truth at first.
For example, when children are young, parents can teach them a lot of truth and knowledge in games. When children grow up, they can still take them to museums and participate in meaningful activities to cultivate their positive self-awareness.
Don't always put children in the classroom to study, use grades to assess their academic performance, and then only use material and money as rewards.
How can a child form a good personality without a positive role model environment? Children without role models will seek excitement through other channels, such as indulging in online games or making friends with bad people to find their "role models".
Establishing a healthy emotional connection with children, paying more attention to what children like now, and communicating in depth are all high-quality companionship, which can be done without much money. Spend a third of your time earning money with your children.
Wear a suit, gentleman, and you will be a parent when you have children. No parents are born perfect. Like children, parents need to learn to educate their children correctly.
In the process of educating children, parents experience the most anxiety. They are worried that their children will not be able to go to a good school when they are young, and they are worried about their grades when they go to school. Worried about children working and getting married when they grow up.
Anxiety can cause many problems. First, parents will become "eager for quick success and instant benefit", lose patience with their children and want to keep them in their own hands. As long as their behavior is slightly "deviated", they will yell at their children.
Parents' concern is always that children are not doing well, and doing well is a matter of course.
Parents should learn to let go of their perfect expectations for their children and let them experience choices and experiences instead of making decisions for them. Only by going out with your own feet can you have real gains.
Children will be playful and lazy, which is human instinct. Parents should learn to let go and let their children grow.
Accepting children is not to observe with eyes, but to listen and take care of them with heart.
Parents also need to learn how to raise and educate their children. Only by doing well can they set an example for their children and love them correctly.
When a child comes into this world, it is not his choice that is responsible for the child, but his parents' choice. This point should be considered before deciding to create a small life. Since parents are responsible for their children's life.
This kind of responsibility is not to take care of everything, but to cultivate children's independent ability. In the process of children's growth, we should teach them how to learn, how to be grateful, and how to unite and cooperate.
Giving birth to a child is not an act of fulfilling marital obligations, and it is not a gift given to satisfy the wishes of the elderly.
Life and support are inseparable. Only a life without dependence can make a child an "orphan" after birth, which is disrespectful to life and irresponsible to the child.
The concept of "raising children to prevent old age" has not adapted to the needs of modern social life. Children have a long way to go in the future and need their parents' company. In a sense, children are the extension and continuation of parents' lives, and they let parents know the deeper meaning of life.