1, don't haggle over everything-this will destroy emotions and interpersonal relationships.

Haggle over every ounce is a state of mind, which shows that everything should be true and everything should be ugly. In fact, there are many things that are irrelevant and have no conflict of interest with themselves. It is a waste of time to care about everything. At the same time, it seems that it is not easy to confuse your emotions, and it will also destroy the relationship between people and even affect your future.

2. Avoid wrangling with others-unnecessary disputes that hurt others and are not good for you.

Competing with others, winning will inevitably hurt each other, and only an empty victory will be obtained; However, if you are at a disadvantage, you will feel depressed, and neither outcome will do you any good. It can be seen that fighting for the wind is really a meaningless struggle.

3, don't be impulsive-a hot head is easy to get into trouble.

There is an old saying in China: endure for a while and be calm; Take a step back and broaden the horizon. It is said that people should not be impulsive and impulsive under certain special circumstances, because it is very easy to get into trouble without careful consideration.

4, don't try to be brave-too ostentatious will only make people hate.

Being competitive and striving for the top in everything shows that it is understandable for a person to work hard, but there is a "degree" in everything. If you change from being competitive to being brave, you will go to the opposite side, not only failing to do things well, but also being annoying because you are too ostentatious and showing off everywhere, and even killing yourself.

5, smug but not complacent-stay awake and rational.

When you meet happy things, you can't help but get carried away. This is the performance of getting carried away. Getting carried away is the taboo of being a man. Being carried away by small victories and joy is doomed to great things, so I advise you to be carried away when you are proud.

6. Dare to eat small losses-only by eating small losses can you have a chance to take advantage of big ones.

To suffer is to harm one's own interests, so no one wants to suffer, and everyone wants to benefit. I don't know, Zhu ate a small loss just right, and took the initiative to give up some benefits that he usually deserved. At the critical moment, he can often take advantage.

7. Make more friends-with more friends, the road will be easier.

There are many variables in a person's life, so people must make long-term plans and leave more ways for themselves. In endless social life and complicated interpersonal relationships, only by making more people and making more friends can we make our life easier and broader.

8, can forgive people and forgive people-killing everyone is not good for anyone.

Today's friends may become tomorrow's enemies, and today's opponents may become tomorrow's friends. Therefore, when dealing with people, we must be able to forgive others, forgive others, and be reasonable. Don't drive our opponents away, otherwise it will be bad for both sides.

9. Put yourself in other people's shoes-don't just use your own abacus.

People who give their love to others and think for others can get help from all sides in times of crisis; But everything is up to you, selfish, and will inevitably be isolated and helpless, making your life path narrower and narrower.

10, respect other people's hobbies-making others happy is the easiest way to get convenience.

Everyone has his own interest in things or topics. We should have a little insight to cater to each other's interests and actively help others do what they want to do, so that we can get the goodwill of others and get more help with half the effort.

1 1, save enough face for others-face is for each other.

Face is given by others and lost by yourself, so we must be careful on the issue of face. Nobody is stupid. If you give him face, he will give you face in return, because face is for the other party.

12, peace is golden-extreme stubbornness is bound to get narrower and narrower.

It is undoubtedly a valuable good quality for a person to have his own opinion and brain, not to pitch with others and not to rise and fall with the world. However, this should be based on the premise of not being opinionated and not being extreme and stubborn. Extreme personality and emotions are defects that can't be ignored in communication with people. In dealing with people, harmony is the most important thing, and extreme stubbornness has many disadvantages.

13, don't use others as stepping stones-be careful to climb up and fall down.

There are many people who like to take shortcuts, and there are also many people who use stepping stones to improve themselves. It is understandable to borrow foreign things reasonably to improve yourself, but don't take others as stepping stones.

Because people who step on others will be stepped on sooner or later.

14, don't expose people to them-it's easy to cause future trouble if you plant a curse.

As the saying goes, "if you hit someone, you don't hit him in the face, but if you curse him, you don't expose him." If you want to get along well with others, you should try to be considerate of others, safeguard their self-esteem, avoid the "minefield" of language, and never expose their shortcomings and poke their pain, because a moment of happiness may lay a curse for the future.

15, don't hit a person when he is down-a dangerous game that is not worth the candle.

This is an act of stabbing others in the back when they are in trouble. This practice of taking advantage of others' danger is not done by a gentleman. Because what people need most when they are down and out is understanding and help. If they don't hold a grudge against you, even if they don't help him, you should understand him, and there is no need to hit someone when he's down.

16, stay away from bad friends-reduce the probability of going astray.

Hurting a friend, as the name implies, is not good for yourself, but only hurts a friend. If we have a similar friend around us, I advise you to stay away from him as soon as possible, or cut off contacts, so as not to be influenced by it and go astray, and then regret it.

17, talkative is easy to lose-right or wrong is just talkative.

Speaking is a science, you can't blurt it out, you should think twice before you act. Don't talk too much, because many disputes and conflicts are caused by talking too much. As the saying goes, right or wrong is only because we talk too much. That's the truth.

18, leave three points on your lips-stop to protect yourself.

As the saying goes, the bitter taste of good medicine is good for illness, and the advice when you are unhappy is good for action. However, after all, the suggestion is hard to hear and accept. Therefore, you should keep your mouth shut when giving advice or criticizing or accusing others. What you say should not only hit the point, but also hit the point at once. You should abide by the principle of three-thirds mouth, so as to convince others and protect yourself.

19, don't gossip about others behind their backs-gossips are annoying.

Gossip is the best test of a person's moral character. If a person always makes irresponsible remarks, it shows that this person's personality is not perfect, which can also detect his attitude towards life. Therefore, don't discuss people's right and wrong in small talk, and show off your breath, lest you become an annoying gossip.

Be careful when joking-it's not worth hurting people unintentionally.

Jokes can enliven the atmosphere and enhance each other's feelings, but jokes should also be measured and not involve personal privacy or embarrassing things. Otherwise, the joke will become a bad word, unintentionally hurting others, violating the original intention of the joke, and making trouble for yourself for no reason.

2 1, do as the Romans do-be able to adapt to various environments.

Different nationalities and regions have fixed customs and habits, and only by doing things according to customs will they be popular; By the same token, in different occasions and different environments, you should do as the Romans do, so as to communicate and do things like a duck to water.

22. Don't promise easily-don't take your dignity seriously.

You can't make promises easily, and you can't make promises immediately when you are happy, regardless of the consequences. Because promises are easy to honor, the consequence of casual promises is that they lose their credibility, are difficult to gain a foothold in society, and are easily eliminated by society.

23, put an end to deception-a lie should be rounded with a hundred lies.

I told a lie for a temporary gain and a temporary need, but in order to maintain the truth of this lie, I had to tell it with a hundred lies, which made me exhausted. It can be seen that cheating is not worth it.

24. Burn more incense at ordinary times-someone will help you when you are in trouble

As the saying goes: As you sow, you reap. Then plant feelings, and you will gain intimacy. China is a country of etiquette, and always pays attention to human etiquette. Then burn more incense at ordinary times, be kind to others, treat others with sincerity, and someone will lend a helping hand at critical moments.

25. Please remember that timely assistance is the lowest-cost emotional investment.

Life will inevitably encounter bumps. If you help others in extremely difficult times, it is equivalent to giving them timely help. He will remember your kindness and repay you double. While others succeed, they will not be taken seriously, and may fall into the name of persistence.

26, usually owe less debt of gratitude-it is difficult to ask for help when you are in a hurry.

Human feelings are like deposits, which cannot be abused. Once the deposit is abused, it's time to really use the money. So is human feelings. If you usually owe others a lot of favors, how can you tell others when you encounter difficulties again?

27. Dare to admit mistakes-save face with tolerance and courage

Don't be too sensitive in life. If you cling to your feelings, you are afraid of doing something wrong and losing your job, and you are afraid of losing face, then you can do nothing. Being wrong is not terrible. Only when you have the courage to admit your mistakes can you really win face.

28, don't judge a person by his appearance-judge a person by his appearance, the sea is immeasurable.

As the saying goes, people can't judge by appearances, and the sea water can't be measured. Judge a person not only by his appearance, but also by his real ability, so as to learn how to be independent of his appearance.

29. Don't be a good person-beware of both sides.

Many people like to be good, and no one offends anyone. They don't have their own opinions and principles, nor do they object to what others say. But this kind of nice guy is very tired when he is acting, and sometimes he will fall into a mouse and drill into the bellows-both ends suffer indignities.

Don't seek fame-why live too hard?

No one wants to be a bright and dazzling sun, a bright moon surrounded by stars. So ... people are running on the road to fame, and some people even go astray by hook or by crook in order to become famous.

3 1, attach importance to small things-big things are made up of small things.

In the living environment of each of us, countless little things are being staged every day. A small fish died in a fish tank, an apple fell to the ground, and a dazzling flash of lightning. Many small things happen naturally. However, it is these little things that have achieved many great things for you and laid the foundation for their great things.

32. Don't take advantage of petty advantages-love will suffer big losses if it takes advantage of petty advantages.

Take advantage of small things, that is, take a needle from others today and steal a melon from others tomorrow. Over time, you will form a habit of taking good things for yourself, and if this greedy psychology becomes stronger and stronger, it will lead to another serious consequence-taking advantage of small things and eating big losses.

33, spend money carefully-money should be used on the cutting edge.

There is an old saying: frugality leads to failure, luxury leads to failure. It means that most successful and rich people have a good habit of thrift, while some down-and-out and failed people may spend money lavishly. People without calculation, their money is not used in the right place. If you spend money without a plan, you will have to eat even if you are guarding a golden mountain.

34. When you are embarrassed, you might as well laugh at yourself-leave yourself a step.

Humor has always been called the language art that only smart people can master, and self-mockery is also called the highest realm of humor. It is safest to laugh at yourself without hurting anyone. Can be used to enliven the conversation atmosphere and eliminate tension; You can also ask for steps in embarrassment to save face.

35. Remember other people's names-paying attention to others will be valued by others.

Everyone is interested in his name. Therefore, remembering other people's names and calling them out easily is equivalent to giving people a very clever and effective compliment. Remember his name, which shows that you attach great importance to him, and those who value others will be valued.

36. Listen more and talk less-keep yourself in the initiative all the time.

As the saying goes: if you talk too much, you will lose. Talking too much will naturally reveal your thoughts. Therefore, only listening is the best way. You can not reveal your secrets, but also know what others are thinking, and you can show respect for the speaker. You can kill three birds with one stone. Why not?

37. Look at the problem from the other person's standpoint-know this and that, be thorough and clear.

People are usually used to looking at problems from their own perspective, so their horizons are not enough.

Open, comprehensive and one-sided. Then, how about looking at the problem from the other side's point of view? You will find what Lao Xu can't see and what he can't see at all. Only in this way can we know this and that, and timely things can be handy.

Don't act smarter than others-comparing others is short-sighted.

People can accept the gap in appearance, height, income and status, but rarely accept the gap in intelligence. So, you can be smarter than others, but don't show it, so as not to compare others. Because comparing with others doesn't mean how smart you are, but it shows that you are immature and makes your image ugly.

39. Think twice before you act-improve your chances of success.

Think twice before you act, which is the truth drawn from countless practices for thousands of years. After careful consideration, it is easy to succeed. Think twice before you act, and avoid hasty decisions and blind actions, which will undoubtedly increase the chances of success.

40. Complain less-it is better to live up to expectations than to be angry.

Dissatisfied with people, things, and life, so full of complaints, complaints, and even negative slack, but these will not change the problem at all. Just complaining will only make others sad. It is better to take positive action than to complain. Only by changing yourself can the problem be solved.

4 1, don't be too weak-people are good at being bullied, and weakness can't solve the problem.

The law of the jungle is a common phenomenon in the animal kingdom. Weak animals are always blocked by powerful animals -fM. This phenomenon also exists in human society. The weak are always bullied, bullied and play the role of doormat everywhere. It is not enough to be too weak in real life. Weak people will always be used or bullied.

42. Be introverted and don't brag-bragging will only completely discredit you.

Truly successful people don't brag, because other people's eyes are discerning, so capable people let others say that they can't sell melons and brag, and those who don't know how to restrain bragging will only lose face and completely lose their reputation when the truth comes out.

43. roll your eyes less-treat people equally, the more friends you have, the better your popularity.

People with their eyes up and their eyes above the top are nothing more than a little power, money and self-righteous capital, so there is no one in China, posing as a self-centered. I don't know that the higher I look at myself, the heavier I fall. Only by lowering your head and treating others equally can you make friends all over the world.

44. Be flexible and be a gentleman-love face and bear hardships.

People are face-saving, so sometimes they insist on doing things that are difficult for them to face, regardless of the actual situation. As a result, they are exhausted, miserable and unworthy. A gentleman should be flexible and do what he can, and don't torture himself for the sake of face.

45. Smile at people-smiling is the most effective way of interpersonal communication.

We can't completely change our appearance, but we can choose to decorate ourselves with a smile, because a smile is the most acceptable gift, the most precious intangible asset and the magic weapon for success. Smile at people often, and you will be greeted by others' smiling faces.

46. Everything should be in line with others-don't set a trap for yourself.

Seeing others wearing gold and silver, drinking foreign wine and driving a good car, regardless of whether it suits them or not, regardless of their financial ability, follow the trend or want to surpass others. This is a psychological comparison. In the long run, you will lose your nature and become the shadow of others.

47. Don't be too honest-self-defense is necessary.

There must be a limit to everything, beyond which it will be counterproductive. We advocate honesty, doing honest things, being honest with others and being filial to others. But honesty should not exceed the limit. If you are too honest, you will become the object of being used and trampled by others.

48. Fiona Fang is not cunning-cunning and deception will be spurned.

Fiona Fang is an art of dealing with the world and an indispensable survival skill and great wisdom in life. Cunning is synonymous with treachery and distrust, so people can be modest, but not cunning. Cunning people will not be welcomed and liked by anyone.

49. Don't talk nonsense-a good reputation is the cornerstone of success.

It is very important to communicate with people, keep your word and keep your promise. Those who are popular will often show their own characteristics to people in various ways, the most obvious of which is to keep the contract and keep the promise at all times, because good reputation is the cornerstone of success.

50, from the other side of the topic of concern-a good way to close the distance between each other.

Everyone wants the attention of others, and everyone wants others to pay attention to themselves. If you can pay attention to others first, pay enough attention to the things and problems that others care about, or pay attention to the topics that others are interested in, others will be interested in you and pay attention to you, so your goal will be easy to achieve.