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Reading notes in 2022

Reading notes are aimed at the following three starting points:

First, the ideas in the book, enhance their own educational ideas;

Second, it is worth learning from the book to improve their educational skills;

Third, the beautiful sentences in the book, aiming at the philosophical sentences, enhance the language charm and educational and cultural level of their articles.

Notes by Xu Li, the author of Pedagogy of Children's Books;

? 6, behind the problem behavior, those positive forces.

-What if a child refuses to tell an adult anything and still lies and steals?

59. Only when parents and teachers truly understand the child's situation from the heart, sympathize with the child's inner helplessness and entanglement, and make full preparations to share the pain and sorrow with the child, can the child's secret be revealed. If you expose and point out the child's secret in the name of "for your own good", it will make the situation worse.

"Children begin to keep secrets" is a milestone in their growth. But being able to bear and keep secrets is also a manifestation of a child's growing inner strength and inner universe. Adults should be happy for their children to have this ability, not afraid.

6 1. In the process of children's psychological healing, secret actors play a vital role. Having a secret means "only I know this", which can prove the uniqueness of "I" and help children establish their self-identity. Self-identity is like a fulcrum of our hearts. Starting from this fulcrum, greater power is gradually born in our hearts.

62. Adults who try to correct and curb lying and stealing usually destroy this power by exposing and punishing, creating fear and making children never dare again, at least by making verbal promises. Adults seldom realize that it is everyone's lifelong career to distinguish between internal and external contradictions and learn to reconcile internal and external conflicts.

Miss Urban understands Harinka's struggle, pain and anxiety, and he is willing to "stop talking". This is not indulgence, but trust after knowing.

Kawaguchi said: "Evil" is defined as "evil" when some forces in the heart want to break through, are not bound, or are released inappropriately.

65. Attacks, bullying, lies, secrets and sex are all unavoidable "evil deeds" in the process of children's growth. Keeping these "evil deeds" instead of killing them is to preserve the inner strength of children and let them have a transcendent life in the future. Just like Edward in Edward, the scariest boy in the world, when your understanding changes and your thinking changes, your behavior will be different. Edward is still Edward, but he has become the cutest boy in the world.

66. Jerry's Quiet Space, written by Dr. jane nelsen, is also very influential as a tool set of positive discipline. The book tells the story of a little boy who fell into an emotional problem. His mother helped him and solved the problem with him. The whole story consists of mother-child dialogue, in order to cover 14 positive discipline tools.

Adults should realize that it is wrong to always deny the suppression of children's emotions, and then try to make children feel the support from adults. At this time, adults and children convey respect and respect for children.