1, the child's ability will "change" after being yelled.
Parents' verbal violence and excessive criticism will increase children's hormone levels and lead to changes in brain structure. Parents often yell at their children, which will make their understanding and expression worse to some extent.
2. After the child is reprimanded, his personality will "change"
If you criticize too much, children will gradually feel inferior; If you are too picky, children will have an excuse: if you are too forced, children will start to confront their parents.
As the book Poisoned Parents says, children always believe what their parents say about themselves and turn it into their own ideas. "
A sweet-tongued mother always loses her temper like this.
1, tell the child honestly: "Mom lost her temper.
Tell your child the real reason why you are angry. It's not his problem that his parents lose their temper occasionally. It's the parents' own emotional problems. Everyone will have improper emotional control and need mutual understanding and care.
2. Tell the child clearly, "What do you want him to do?"
Clearly express what you want your child to do, for example, mom wants you to keep the good habit of brushing your teeth carefully. Mom wants you to finish your homework before playing. If you clean the toys with me, mom won't be so tired. Can you clean with mom?
3, objectively describe the status quo, don't blame don't vent their emotions on children:
"I told you hundreds of times, don't throw toys everywhere. Why not listen? " Just tell me why you are angry. Mom saw that your toy was not put back. Mom is too tired from work today. If you can form the good habit of going home after using it, mom will be very happy to go home!
4. Try to understand children and give them time to grow up.
If you care too much, you will fall into anxiety, and if you expect too much, you will be anxious for success. If you are too impatient to educate your children, it will easily lead to a vicious circle of "the more anxious, the less efficient"