Wei Zhuanggong's son Zhou Xu was spoiled by his father since he was a child. He likes fighting, but Wei Zhuanggong never stopped him. For this practice, Dr. Shi Vinegar advised: "I heard that taking care of children should be taught in the right way, and children should not be allowed to have improper requirements and behaviors." If children are arrogant, extravagant and dissolute, they will naturally go astray. And the reason why many children have these four problems is entirely the result of parents' doting! "

2. Ceng Zi kills pigs

This is a famous family education story. Ceng Zi's wife is going to the street, and her little son is crying to go with her. She coaxed him and said, "You go back and wait. I'll come back to kill pigs and let you eat meat." As soon as my wife came back from the street, she saw that Ceng Zi really wanted to kill pigs. She quickly stopped: "I'm just joking with the child to coax him." Ceng Zi said, "You can't joke with children. Children are still young and have little knowledge, and they will imitate their parents everywhere. If you cheat him today, you are teaching him to cheat like you. This is not a good way to educate children! " So Ceng Zi killed the pig and cooked the meat for the children.

3, when it comes to things, just teach.

Emperor Taizong attached great importance to the education of Prince Li Zhi. His educational method is "teaching in times of trouble", that is, in daily life, he can grasp what he encounters at any time and place and carry out corresponding education. When the prince was eating, he said to the prince, "If you can know the hardships of producing food, you will often have such a meal." When he saw the prince riding a horse, he said to him, "If you can know that a horse should rest instead of exerting all its strength, then you will often ride a horse." When he saw the prince in a boat, he said to him, "Water can carry a boat, but it can also overturn it. People are like rivers, and kings are like ships. "

4. Jean Zhong Yong

Once upon a time, there was a boy named Fang Zhongyong who could improvise poetry when he was still illiterate. His literary talent and meaning were superb. The local people were surprised and called him a "prodigy", then treated his father as a guest, and some even gave them money. His father thought it was profitable, so he dragged Fang Zhongyong to meet celebrities and perform poems every day, but he wouldn't let him study hard.

Gradually, by the age of 12, Fang Zhongyong's intelligence was not as good as before, and his poetry was very common. By the age of 20, intelligence has completely disappeared and become normal. This story tells us a truth: Fang Zhongyong's cleverness is given by heaven. But he finally became an ordinary person because his father was greedy for money, failed to let him receive training and education in time, missed the best education period and eventually became mediocre.

5. Meng Mu moved three times.

Once upon a time, when Mencius was a child, his father died young, and his mother kept a festival and did not remarry. At first, they lived next to the cemetery. Mencius often learned to bow down and cry with the children in the neighborhood and played games to deal with funerals. Mencius' mother looked at it and frowned: "No! I can't let my children live here! " Mencius' mother took Mencius to the market and lived near the place where pigs and sheep were slaughtered. When they arrived at the market, Mencius and the children in the neighborhood learned that businessmen were doing business and slaughtering pigs and sheep.

Mencius' mother knew this and frowned: "This place is not suitable for my children to live in!" "So they moved again. This time, they moved near the school. At this time of the first day of the summer calendar every month, officials go to the Confucian Temple, bow down and treat each other politely. Mencius learned to remember what he saw. Mencius' mother nodded with satisfaction and said, "This is where my son should live!