How to educate children to be teachers first, criticize naughty children and pay attention to art.
I often hear colleagues complain: "The' naughty boy' in our class is criticized every day, but he just can't change." As soon as I heard this, I thought of "criticizing often" but it didn't work. Maybe they criticize children with the same "lines" every day, so it is natural that they are useless. Related research shows that when the same stimulus continues, it is easy to produce a kind of "insensitivity", and then it will not be felt as stimulus. Naughty children themselves are often criticized by teachers. If teachers keep the same criticism every time, they will turn a deaf ear. If the old teacher's criticism is changed in a different way, it may give them some fresh stimulation and let them receive unexpected results. For example, Henry likes to rob his partner's toys. Teachers often criticize him for "being rude just now and often robbing other people's toys". It's better to say, "Frank is really nice. He never steals children's toys and plays with his own. We believe that Henry can be like Frank. " After hearing these words, students feel that the teacher still trusts himself and will consciously restrain this behavior of robbing their companions' toys.
A scholar came back from an investigation in the United States and said earnestly, "American preschool teachers swear in a clever way, unlike some of our teachers who only yell." They often squat down first, flush with the child's eyes, and then slowly hold the child's hand. Start talking softly. At this time, the child will feel incredible and novel about the teacher's posture, and naturally listen to what the teacher said. "The effect of this method is mainly because' this kind of squat' not only narrows the distance between the teacher and the child in space, but also brings the child and the teacher closer psychologically. Especially for naughty children, they want to be close to their teachers. When the teacher squatted at the same height as his eye contact, they felt how kind and lovely the teacher was. Naturally, it's easy to listen to your advice.
Naughty children are particularly rebellious. When he does something wrong, if the teacher just scolds and scolds blindly, the effect can only be counterproductive. It's like a mother yelling hysterically at a crying child, which will only make the child cry louder and louder. If the child does something wrong, he knows that he will be scolded by the teacher. At this time, if the teacher doesn't scold him, or even keeps silent and ignores him, the child's psychology will be nervous and he will rethink his mistakes. In this way, give the child a period of time to calm down and talk to him later, because the child has reviewed his mistakes, so he can be calm.
Second, give naughty children more care and encouragement.
Love is an important condition for children's mental health development. Practice has proved that children who are rejected by adults often give up on themselves and form inferiority or rebellious psychology. For example, some naughty children like to make trouble and often fight in activities. This is often because we don't pay enough attention to them. Some of them want to attract teachers' attention and get teachers' love by making trouble and fighting. Therefore, for naughty children, teachers should not be stingy with their own language and expressions, but should express our love to them through various forms. Even if it's just a knowing smile, a caring word and a few kind touches, they will feel that "the teacher still loves me, and I want to listen to the teacher."
Although children are small, they have strong self-esteem, especially naughty children. Teachers should stick to the viewpoint of dividing them into two parts, try to find out their bright spots and encourage them to make progress. There is a "naughty king" in my class, who often asks questions suddenly without raising his hand in class, interrupting the teacher's words and causing classroom confusion. Although the author has been educated in many ways, it has achieved little. After careful observation, I found that he has a strong desire to express himself, but because he is not good at controlling himself, it often backfires. So, when I talked about "a good doll with discipline" in the morning, I praised him in front of the whole class and asked him: "You are smart and witty, and the teacher likes you very much; If you can be a disciplined doll and raise your hand to ask questions after the teacher finishes speaking, the teacher will like you more. "Since then, he really got rid of this bad habit. Therefore, I asked him to work in the corner or be a "librarian" after lunch. He is serious and responsible, and perseveres to the end. The children spoke highly of his performance, which made him experience the joy of defeating himself. From then on, he stopped moving around in the corner or running around after lunch, making trouble everywhere. It can be seen that giving some encouragement to naughty children in time is easy to get twice the result with half the effort.
Third, strengthen family ties and unify educational strategies.
Children are like a mirror of a family. What kind of family is easy to raise what kind of children. Therefore, for the education of naughty children, we should pay more attention to the important link of family contact. Starting from the family, understand the children's family environment, the quality of parents [Weibo], ways and means of educating children. Through home visits, parents' questionnaires, telephone contact and other channels, we will discuss with parents the methods of educating naughty children. On this basis, we should have a clear aim and complement each other's advantages to form the best resultant force. Naughty children are full of energy and cannot fully "vent" at home, so they are particularly naughty. Some people even play with toys under the quilt when they sleep, which worries their parents. In fact, naughty children are eager to communicate with others, but now only children have no companions to play with at home. So when they are at home, they will play with all the toys to "vent" Therefore, we suggest that parents take their children outdoors more and let them have fun, which usually leads to unexpected gains. Usually at home, you can also let them do more quiet activities. Such as puzzles, painting, hand-making, listening to stories, reading books, etc. Through the combination of static and dynamic, arouse children's interest and change their bad habits.
During home visits, parents often hear their children say, "The child is so young, sometimes he is not sensible, so he must be beaten." At this time, we told parents that beating children is not a good way to discipline them. If a child is beaten once and then makes the same mistake, he will hit harder. As a result of such a vicious circle, not only will children never meet their parents' expectations, but they may also turn into children's resistance or talk back to their parents' discipline. We set up parents to adopt the method of "cold treatment" and spiritual encouragement, so as to achieve the consistency and tacit understanding of family education methods, and timely feedback each other's situation at home in the park, so as to obtain good educational results. Practice has proved that after a period of family cooperative education, most "naughty" children's behavior habits and various performances have made obvious progress.
As a teacher, how to educate children to meet at the beginning of the semester and make a clear attitude?
It seems that there are many things in life, and attitude determines everything. Parents' attitude is everything when it comes to communicating with teachers. As parents of China, we have to do everything for our children. People all over the world can't compare with us. But when facing foreign teachers, if your attitude is very conservative and passive, or very self-enclosed. Then there are great obstacles before you start communicating with the teacher.
My experience is that at the beginning of the semester, talking to the teacher alone can be long or short (even if the language is not very clever), so that the teacher can understand the general family situation of the child, and more importantly, the attitude of the parents. In this kind of dialogue, parents can simply communicate their children's living conditions, life background, personality characteristics, advantages and disadvantages with teachers. At the same time, you can also understand the teacher's personality through simple conversation. Is he outgoing or introverted? Parents who understand these situations can prepare for the next communication arrangement in a targeted manner.
So, don't ignore this simple communication. If parents are willing to communicate with the teacher, talk openly with the teacher, exchange information about their children, and help the teacher, it is also their job. No teacher is unwilling. One more thing, if children feel that teachers and parents have the same attitude, they will have a stronger sense of right and wrong and a deeper impression of what to do and what not to do.
Second, meet regularly.
French schools have parent-teacher meetings every year during the semester, and subsequent meetings depend on the children's situation. My experience is that I meet my teacher once in the semester and see you again in the semester 1/3. In addition, when I send my children to school and pick them up from school every day, I often say hello to my teacher, so that I can communicate with my teacher in time about problems that need parental assistance. If parents who are overseas feel that something is wrong, they must be familiar with the teacher as soon as possible. The meeting between teachers and parents reminds children that adults are United front, and they often exchange information, so as a small classmate, you should be aware of being responsible for your actions and don't talk about heavy topics when adults meet.
Third, respect teachers from the bottom of my heart.
French teachers may not be so kind, but most of them are very dedicated. Therefore, no matter from which angle, our parents should be full of respect for teachers. 30 students per class in France is the upper limit, which seems small, but think about their parenting philosophy. Don't be afraid to express and argue? What is national training? Freedom, equality and fraternity? So under the guidance of these general directions, everyone will have more or less in the collective? Self? In this case, it is really not easy for teachers to straighten out the daily content. To put it simply, these children are difficult to teach. Therefore, I always tell my children that it is not easy for teachers to work hard. I will never defend my children and say that the teacher is wrong, let alone that the teacher has assigned too much homework. School is the first social platform for children, so it is very important to get along with teachers in a friendly and trusting way. At the end of last semester, my son and daughter personally made cookies for the class teacher. The son has only one class teacher and life teacher, and the daughter not only gave it to the second-grade teacher, but also reminded her to give it to the first-grade teacher. Although foreigners don't emphasize it? One day as a teacher, one life as a father? But I hope my children respect teachers and their work. After all, on the premise of respect, everything will be easier.
Fourth, trust, real trust!
Since you have given your child to others, you should choose the method of trusting teachers and teachers. I'm not talking about superstition. I'm not saying that I don't have my own judgment in front of anything, but I can look at the actual situation fairly and objectively after judgment, so as to make positive digestion and feedback. Shunshun's head teacher is a teacher who likes to leave small notes. Although she hasn't left him a note, it can be seen that she is a person who loves to take everything seriously and is a little picky. I remember once, I sent my second child to school, and the child jumped into the classroom because he was happy to go to school. On weekdays, I am very strict with my children's behavior in public, but I really didn't think it was too much that day, but his teacher greeted him at the door of the classroom and said, be quiet, you are in the classroom now, you know? Be quiet. Also, did you say hello to me? The first thing you come in is to say hello, okay?
She is right, but the way is too blunt and the tone is too cold, which reminds me of other parents' comments on her: picky and perfect. I really wanted to go in and ask her about the situation, but suddenly I saw Xiao Er, listening attentively to the teacher and nodding his head, indicating that he accepted the teacher's way. Yes, it can't be said that children can do whatever they want at an early age. Isn't learning acceptance an important part of the school? Accept the rhythm of collective life, accept the rules of collective life, accept the instructions given by managers, accept the time to leave mom and dad's sight temporarily, accept sharing toys with other children, and even accept the criticism and guidance of teachers. So, I didn't say anything, looked at it from a distance, and then turned around and left.
When you have something to say, you must pay attention to the wording and the timing.
I think that many times, communication between people is not smooth because of the wrong way of speaking, the wrong way of wording and the wrong time of speaking. Speaking of the last time I saw the teacher being so strict with Xiao Er, my heart thumped for a long time. Although I convinced myself to accept what I saw with my own eyes, I still felt I needed to say something. I searched for a Friday morning, and not many parents surrounded the teacher's time and easily asked the teacher about his daily behavior and habits. This dialogue is an introduction, a dialogue driven by great emotions.
The teacher said some advantages and characteristics of Shunshun, and it can be seen that the teacher is very satisfied with all aspects of Shunshun. I followed her words: Shunshun is a boy after all, and sometimes he dances when he is excited, and I don't know if it will add extra burden to you. I saw him enter the door upside down the other day, and I didn't say hello to you. You stop him and explain the rules in the classroom and the importance of saying hello to the teacher. So he can remember it clearly, right? !
The teacher probably didn't expect me to see this scene that day. Speaking of which, I was shocked. Then I smiled gently and said, yes, the building materials structure of our classroom is very special. If each child's voice is a little louder, the echo will be particularly loud, so in order not to affect other children, I ask everyone to walk quietly as long as they enter the door.
I think, if I didn't take this opportunity to talk to the teacher easily in this way, it would probably be the result that a teacher thinks parents are picky and parents think teachers are harsh; But in another way of communication, I not only understand the teacher's difficulties, so as to understand the teacher's position, but also remind the teacher that parents also have their own channels to see what they want to see.