If you want your children to go into battle lightly, as parents, you should not put too much pressure on them, especially some unrealistic expectations. Appropriate pressure can be turned into motivation, but excessive pressure will only consume a little energy of children.
Therefore, parents should give a reasonable expectation according to the real situation of their children, instead of comparing with individual "other people's children" everywhere, and don't constantly ask their children to exceed his/her current ability because they hate "losing face". Moreover, although the senior high school entrance examination is important, even the college entrance examination can't really determine a child's life, let alone just the senior high school entrance examination. Therefore, it is suggested that parents treat the senior high school entrance examination with a tolerant and relaxed attitude, so that children can have a better attitude to move forward, and maybe they will play their potential far beyond our imagination.
2. Learn to really care about children, not just "grades"
Many parents have such a "common disease". As soon as their children came home, they asked, Did you eat well? Is it cold? Is it hot? What's it like to study? ..... However, it is difficult for children to feel warm about some greetings, but it will make them feel that their parents are tracking down their grades again, which will make them feel more stressed.
At this time, as a proper silent parent and a listener, children may feel the warmth from you and make them believe that under great pressure, home and parents will be their harbor to regain confidence.
3. Give children the confidence and motivation to forge ahead.
Many parents not only never give their children the confidence and motivation to move forward, but also often make their children feel lost. Anyone who encounters failure and pressure wants to gain trust from somewhere. However, many parents make things worse at this time, such as: how can you be so stupid; Not even as good as XX. What are you doing alive? ; This is how you repay us. Do you know how hard it is for us to support you? ..... This kind of adults have bad feelings when they listen, and bomb children without cover.
I believe we have all had this experience. When we are faced with difficulties under the trust and blessing of our family, we will feel particularly relaxed, and the opportunities for extraordinary play are far greater than usual. Therefore, in the last year of junior high school, it is far more useful for children to sprint with warmth and support than to struggle with shame and burden!
4. Take responsibility as parents.
There are two kinds of "irresponsible" parents. One is to leave children to schools and teachers, who only care about the final result. As long as they are not satisfied, it is the problem of the school and the children. The second is to report cram schools to children crazily, regardless of whether the children have time and energy. As long as other children are in cram school, you have to give me lessons. Tired and annoyed are excuses!
These two kinds of parents represent two extremes, one is extremely irresponsible, and the other is excessively "responsible", but they all have one thing in common, that is, they rarely spend time on their children's learning methods, learning thinking and mental health, and they all intend to leave their children to others or even their own children, just waiting for their children to grow up healthily and healthily, and they will grow better than others.
As the saying goes, no pains, no gains. Educating children is like planting crops. Farmers can only get a good harvest if they know the season, solar terms, climate, soil quality, seeds and other aspects and pay close attention to the growth of crops every day. As parents, if you want to educate your children through extensive planting strategies, you can get much better harvest than others when you need it? Farmers will laugh at you.
Therefore, as parents, it is necessary to understand their children's specialties, preferences, psychological conditions, etc., and help and accompany their children to grow up together. The scope of growth goes far beyond academic performance, including psychology, etiquette, world outlook and so on. In short, parents should be good at observation, analysis, learning and listening.