No one can doubt the love of parents for their children, no matter what parents do to us. Even being beaten is right. Yes, you are right! Because that was the best way parents could think of at that time, and they loved us the most! Besides, we are not qualified to discuss "We forgive our parents".

I am a girl who was beaten badly since I was a child. I was beaten by my mother with a towel, and there were pinstripes. All my disobedience will be beaten. I want to go out with my mother, who won't let me go. In the end, it will be solved by a beating. My mother refused to do what I wanted to do, and ended up being beaten ... Everyone in the village knows that I was beaten by my mother when I was a child. Even now, even when I grow up, there are still relatives shouting "Forget it when I was a child" and "Forget it when I was beaten". Haha ~ among the five or six cousins in my grandmother's family, I was beaten the most. My mother believes in "a dutiful son comes out of a stick". Even though she is almost 30 years old now, she will say, "If you are not so old and shy, it's time to fight." Yes, this is what my mother said to her daughter who is almost 30 years old!

My childhood experience is complicated for me. When we were young, we really didn't have any family education, and the disobedient children just didn't get enough beatings. Just shoot it. My primary school classmates didn't hand in their homework, but they beat other students at school. When they go home, their parents tie them to posts or whip them with belts. Simple and rude, you can't beat it! I should have been beaten the most among the girls at that time. Since childhood, my stubborn personality has led to no less beatings!

Now that I think about it, sometimes I can still remember the scene of being beaten. Although I have never hated it, sometimes I don't understand it when I think about it. Because my mother is really good to me, too. Until one day, I heard teacher Fan Deng say, "Parents are always right, even if they hit you. Because that was the best way they could think of to love you at that time. " I understood in an instant, really. We are not qualified to forgive our parents, because each parent expresses love in a different way. Not every parent is an intellectual and highly educated, so not all love will be expressed gently. For example, my mother beats me every day, and my handwriting is ugly. My mother tore up all her exercise books and was beaten.

So, what kind of family education do we need? I stayed at home and was beaten by my mother. I have a sister who is 12 years younger than me. Looking at her, I had some ideas and applied them to her, which made me feel very rewarding.

In our family, first of all, we give our sister full freedom. She can choose whatever she likes at will. There is only one principle that she wants to do, that is, she can't tell others without violating morality and law. I support all her dreams. She wants to read a book. I bought her many books that she wanted to read. She said she wanted to be a writer and write novels in the future, and I supported her. She said that the university wants to study design, and I also support it; I support whatever she wants to do! Unconditional support. Because I want her to know that there will always be me behind her, life is a one-way street, and I have no chance to go back to 18 to do what I want, so I don't want her to regret it! Do everything with your heart. Moreover, this society does not need people who can only read. People with active thinking and novel ideas are more popular in companies and teams. Now is the self-media era, and society needs all kinds of talents. Only when everyone is wonderful can we see the spectacular scene of a hundred flowers blooming. Therefore, family education should vary from person to person.

The second principle is that she came into this world alone and will leave alone. No matter what she does, she does it for herself! No one will accompany her for a lifetime, and nothing is worth remembering for a lifetime. When she thinks I will be angry, I will only express my love for her. Learning is her own business. I can only try my best to help, and the rest is up to her! When she and her friends are unhappy, I will help her analyze that different people will have different ideas when facing the same thing. As for what to do, you decide for yourself, because that's your friend!

Third, gradually stand on your own feet with my company. I didn't stop her from doing her own thing because of her poor health. As long as she can do something that is not dangerous, I will try to let her do it. A girl needs to stand on her own feet before she can be strong. A giant baby who can't take care of herself, I don't think this society needs it. My mother really hit me, and she was really strong, but she really spoiled my sister. After all, it is common for my sister to be hospitalized for medicine and injections when she was a child. As long as my mother is not ill, she can ignore everything. However, I don't agree. So my sister and I are relatively independent, taking care of ourselves and taking care of me at the same time. I think this is good, when two people can take care of me, when one person can take care of himself!

Fourth, kindness has its own edge. Be friendly to people, but those who pick things up should also bring their own edge. Blindly forbearance and accommodation will only encourage evil forces!

Fifth, life is not a mother and will not spoil you! So everything happens for a reason. If it is solved, it will be accused and successfully enter the next level. If you don't solve it, you will be KO, and the game is over. Even girls should be strong inside. Only in this way can we solve the immediate problems and grow up step by step. Children always grow up, always face life alone, it is better to adapt early!

Sixth, life is paramount. At any time, life is the most important. Don't hurt your body for anyone or anything. When your life is threatened, you can ignore everything.

Based on the above six principles, we 14-year-old adolescent girls have not rebelled yet! Sometimes I get angry with her doting mother! But it's all minor problems.

Finally, about puppy love, I want to say that parents should not stand on the height of their elders and should not judge puppy love from the perspective of adult love. Think about yourself. I didn't come from the age of 14 or 15. Didn't I have ignorance of love when I was a teenager? Is there really nothing left? Don't stifle children's exploration and pursuit of love. Adolescence love should be the purest emotional expression in their life. You should enjoy it, but you should tell them clearly that girls should protect themselves, boys should be gentlemen, and everything should be shared with their parents aboveboard, not left to fend for themselves!

Well, there are probably so many tutors in our family, not necessarily good, but suitable for our children! Children will not compare you with other children's parents, so parents should stop thinking that other children are good! After all, no matter how good other people's children are, they won't call you mom and dad, and they won't give you a pension! Our own baby is the best! Just find the right method, baby is not a machine part, so there is no way to model it. Growth is not assembling machines, and it doesn't need to be precise in every step. Let go of the anxiety of being a parent for the first time and accompany your child to grow up, and the child will grow up soon.

The best family education is companionship and example!