It is harmful to give children the wrong sex education.
Suppress children's curiosity. Children will ask questions such as "Who am I?" "How was I born?" When asking questions, they are only interested in "sex", but this is only a reflection of their thirst for knowledge. Highly developed thirst for knowledge is the driving force for their unswerving pursuit of truth. Instead of answering, parents reprimand them, which will stifle their children's curiosity. There should be no end to exploring knowledge and learning, but suppressing your thirst for knowledge will only lead to ignorance, just like eating. If they have no appetite, they won't want to eat anything. At the same time, it also creates an impression that children will feel that they can't ask questions, and if they do, they will be scolded, which will cause them to feel mysterious, guilty and dirty about sex from an early age, thus affecting their healthy development of sexual physiology.
Take deception as an example. It is unwise to tell children that they picked it up by themselves, because the truth will always be seen by children, indicating that adults are deceiving them. Therefore, they will become hypocritical, behave themselves and deceive others, which will promote the development of hypocrites and make children no longer honest and naive. Of course, you can't blame the child for this result.
When children's words and behaviors involve sexual issues, such as playing house games, touching genitals with their hands or swearing, parents often reprimand and abuse them, which leads to children's cowardly behavior, dare not stick to the truth and unable to form independent habits.
When children enter junior high school, they often like to talk about gender issues and talk with dirty words. They often express their masculinity and maturity in this way. The more secrets adults keep, the more they talk about, which will lead to the prevalence of misconceptions among teenagers. If they don't take the attitude of imprisonment, but carry out scientific and timely sex education, then there is no need to talk about it. The normal communication between some young men and women often causes teachers and parents to be overly sensitive, reprimanded and abused, and as a result, under the influence of rebellious psychology, they are pushed aside and become more and more strict.
Ugly sexual behavior, describing sex as obscene, dirty and indecent, and advocating "the way of all evils, the filial piety of all virtues first" will cause children's aversion to sex, which may seriously inhibit normal sexual behavior and sexual response in adulthood. Even if the child has puppy love or even outrageous behavior, he should not take drastic measures, which will only hurt the child's self-esteem and promote the child to sink. We should adopt a tolerant and guiding attitude and give correct education and help. If the atmosphere of social Taoism is too strong and harsh, it will easily lead to psychological conflicts and may destroy them.
Pornographic culture often excites immature children who lack sexual knowledge and psychological preparation, which may increase the possibility of sexual crimes. However, what is pornographic culture should have a scientific basis, and how to divide it is controversial. It is reasonable to classify children's works and adult's works.
So, how to correctly implement children's sex education?
Correct methods of children's sex education
Let children know how to respect and protect their bodies.
Usually, when taking a bath for your child, you can easily tell the child where all parts of the body touch, such as kissing the cheek, but only for relatives. When a third party is present, you can hold hands with others, but under certain circumstances, the genitals must not be touched, even through clothes and gloves. Teaching children to protect their bodies is not limited to girls, but also to boys, because in the current social news, there are more and more little boys who are violated by mentally abnormal elements. In addition, children should be taught how to protect themselves from strangers' interference in life, between going in and out of the house and in a strange environment.
Discuss sex with your child in a positive manner.
Parents should take the initiative to propose topics related to reproduction and sex that are suitable for their children's age, interests and understanding. For example, when a relative or friend is pregnant, it is the right time to explain to the child how the baby is stored in the mother's body, and use the correct terminology to explain, for example, the baby is born in a woman's womb. Moreover, it is necessary to correctly describe that the uterus is a special place where babies are born, such as a hotbed. A more positive attitude is that the mother told the child that she had some feelings and expectations when she was pregnant with him, pointing to the child's navel and saying that this was the part that had been connected with her mother. This is an objective and personal way, which will make children have a correct view and meaning of sex, no longer vague and no longer have too many illusions.
Don't dress up girls as boys.
Some parents dress boys in skirts and girls in boys. As everyone knows, children will have obstacles to their gender cognition and even cause "transsexuality." A couple came to consult. Their daughter is gay. They are desperate.
The psychologist realized that the family wanted to have a boy, so he raised his daughter as a boy from an early age. The family is also centered on the wife, which gives the daughter a misunderstanding: "the father should be the mother and the mother should be the father." When she was young, her gender role orientation was biased, and her parents did not correct it in time, which made her develop into a gender role identity disorder in adolescence. In this regard, psychologists suggest that parents should downplay their expectations of their children's gender and establish the concept that "boys and girls are equally good". We should choose the way to treat children according to their gender, so as to prevent them from forming a wrong gender consciousness. If the child has gender consciousness deviation, it should be corrected and adjusted at the age of three or four in the first negative stage.