Often when the elders and their own views on education are different, the relationship between the two sides is tense, but looking back, is it really that bad for the elders to spoil their grandchildren? This is a letter from Tina Plantamura to her mother-in-law. She disagreed with her mother-in-law's beliefs. After her mother-in-law left, she discovered that what the children always miss is not toys and ice cream, but a grandmother who always opens her heart and tries to accompany her with love. ......

The following is from Tina Plantamura:

Sometimes doting is too much, because children will remember your love for them. You always steal my thunder; Give them whatever they want, and never say no.

Extra snacks; Eat candy before dinner; Play more when taking a bath; Pay for ice cream. As long as the child talks, you do it. I am deeply afraid that if this goes on, they will become selfish, don't know how to wait, and learn to take turns and share. How hard I tried to show my respect to you when I tried to make sure that you wouldn't spoil your children.

You must let every child fall asleep in your arms before you let him go to bed. Don't you understand that they need to learn to sleep by themselves? Even if the children only make a little noise, you must go and see them, so how can they learn to calm their emotions?

I hate it when you buy the best and most expensive gift for your child's birthday or Christmas. How can I compare with you like this? What do you think when children know that the best gift they expect most is not from their parents?