The "dormitory relationship" in universities is always subtle, especially after the post-90s college students gradually become the main force, and the coordination of dormitory relationship has gradually become a highly discussed topic. In fact, whether it is after 70, 80 or 90, it will be more or less troubled by this problem. Then, how to deal with the dormitory relationship may be a problem that we need to pay attention to. In fact, for universities, putting students, three or five students or seven or eight students in one room at the same time may not only consider the insufficient allocation of school resources. Even if the school has enough spare rooms, the school will let the students live in groups. In high school, everyone may come from the same city or even the same area, with almost the same living habits, speaking the same dialect, almost all of them go home after school, and all the time at school is used to cope with learning. Therefore, communication with people is almost blank in the study and life before college (from the cartoon version of "We were lovelorn together on graduation day" painted by Hu Huili). Therefore, from this perspective, universities allow students to live a "social life", which can be regarded as training or cultivating students' interpersonal skills to some extent. This is the problem. Because there is almost no training in this field before going to college, it is obviously an extravagant hope to expect to have a good relationship when entering college. Of course, there are many subtle factors that cause the rigidity of dormitory relationship, and we can analyze them one by one. First of all, the psychological transition from infancy to maturity takes time and events to hone. At present, the age of college students is generally around 18 years old, which is a transitional period from adulthood to adulthood. Especially in the background of the majority of only children, most students are self-centered in psychology or personality, and there is no room for objection and opposition in their eyes. In dormitory life, all we need is tolerance and cooperation, because everyone comes from different regions and has different habits, not only the habit of getting up and sleeping, but also the habit of reading and reading aloud in the morning. Maybe everyone in the dormitory is very different. Among the students who are still maturing in the psychological period, these opposites have become sand that can't be contained in their eyes. Everyone does this, and the dormitory naturally becomes a battlefield with frequent disputes. Secondly, lack of independent personality and team spirit. Contemporary college students lack independent personality and team spirit to a great extent. This is not only the lack of education in paying attention to students' spiritual level, but also the influence of various factors such as the only child and social atmosphere. In high school, most students only pay attention to their studies. Good grades are good students, so you can cover up all ugliness. At the same time, most students live a life of "mouth to mouth, clothes to reach out" and are very weak in how to deal with the problem of self-care in daily life. This is almost the root of most students' psychological naivety and dependence on their parents and families. After entering the university, the geographical barrier makes the condition of relying on parents basically lost, and there is no new alternative to rely on. So the small temper broke out immediately and became an unsociable factor in the dormitory. At the same time, due to the fierce and cruel study competition and the lack of relevant education plans before college, students nowadays generally lack team spirit. In the small group in the dormitory, they have no habit of thinking of others, and always look at and understand their roommates with colored glasses. This way of doing things is bound to become the fuse of dormitory relationship problems. Finally, the loss caused by the gap between ideal and reality. When every high school student enters the university, he will always hear his brothers and sisters say that "the university is heaven and the high school is hell". Obviously, in the eyes of prospective college students, the university is a free, open and relaxed place, and that kind of environment is what every high school student yearns for. But after entering the university, I suddenly found that the pressure on my shoulders was not small. Needless to say, such distant things as employment and postgraduate entrance examination will take some time. Although you can graduate with a diploma, the social evaluation standard is there. If you want to find a good job and have a good career, you still have to work hard in reality. Moreover, a large number of college students are excellent local students before entering the university, confident and calm. After entering the university, the elites of the whole country gathered together and suddenly found that their level was not as high as expected, and they did not have an advantage in front of their classmates. Slowly, they may become withdrawn and inferior. This will affect the psychology of college students and worsen the dormitory relationship. In fact, in any case, dealing with the relationship between people is itself a profound knowledge. It is impossible to describe it clearly in just a few words. For those students who have a bad relationship in college dormitories and prospective college students who are about to go to college, it may be the most important to handle their own mentality and prepare themselves well. Even if there are several types of people summarized above in the dormitory, don't worry too much. An important factor in dealing with relationships is communication. After all, living under the same roof for several years, communicating more and resolving contradictions skillfully will naturally have good results.