Question 2: How do parents educate their children? The habit of impressing children with emotion is mostly formed in the early stage, and the family is the initial place for individual activities. Various habits in the family are the first behavioral norms that children come into contact with, which have an important influence on the formation of children's behavioral habits. How do parents correctly cultivate their children's behavior habits? I think we should pay attention to the following points: first, correct the concept of education. Childhood is an important transition period for the formation of good behavior habits. Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a great thinker of people's education, once said: "Most of the important habits and attitudes needed in life can be cultivated successfully before the age of six." In other words, the most important period of personality cultivation is before the age of six. The development of children's good behavior habits cannot be separated from the family's attention. Many parents hold the idea of "looking forward to the success of their children" and "looking forward to the success of their daughters", and take care of their children in every way in their study and life, but ignore the cultivation of good behavior and let themselves go. Some parents even think that if I send my child to kindergarten, it doesn't matter if I let him learn more. These misconceptions of parents not only greatly affect the effect of teachers teaching children good behavior, but also indirectly reflect them in children's minds and become children's ideas. There is an English proverb: "Action forms habit, habit forms character, and character determines fate." It can be seen that habits play an important role in a person's life, which requires parents to establish correct concepts. While studying, don't forget to cultivate children's good behavior habits. Second, use scientific educational methods. 1, forging children's good behavior habits in practice. The formation of behavior comes from practice, and the formation of habits depends more on practical activities, which is the key to the formation of children's good behavior. Due to the reasons of ideas and feelings, some parents still adopt the infant education method for their children aged four or five (even older). For example, parents dress school-age children, wash their faces and feed them, and do what they can for them. This kind of arranged substitution behavior of parents not only deprives children of all kinds of exercise rights, but also makes their dependence psychology more stubborn. If this goes on, children will become lazy, arrogant and even incompetent. How to develop good behavior habits? 2. Training should be persistent. There are also some parents who pay more attention to the cultivation of their children's good behavior, but they don't have enough patience to cultivate and teach their children, which is contradictory to asking their children to form good behavior habits. Therefore, parents should cultivate their children's independence, try their best to let them do what they can, let them learn good behavior habits such as eating, sleeping, washing and interpersonal communication independently in daily life and interpersonal relationships, and let them get an understanding of "how to do it", form a series of behavior patterns, and constantly practice and strengthen them in practical activities, making them a natural habit. This requires parents to have enough patience to teach their children and let them develop good behavior habits. Step 3 tell the truth. Reasoning is a way to raise awareness. The ability to distinguish right from wrong in early childhood is poor, and it is inevitable that you will do something wrong. Severe lessons and criticisms may harden the relationship between parents and children. At this time, parents should patiently and meticulously reason with their children according to their understanding level, and let them find their mistakes through concise language. At the same time, they should be careful not to use negative tones such as "no" and "no", guide them from the front, avoid criticizing and guiding his bad behavior, and tell him directly: you should ... For example, parents should tell him that it is wrong to rob someone else's toys. As a child myself, I have heard a lot of truth, and a good code of conduct naturally has a place in my heart. 4. Appropriate encouragement and praise. Encouragement and praise are a kind of spiritual nutrition that children need in the process of growing up, and also a good way to strengthen good behavior habits. Children like to listen to good words, like to be praised, and know themselves in people's evaluation of him. Educator Professor Chen Heqin once said: "It is easy for anyone to be inspired to reform, but it is even harder to be punished to reform." Therefore, parents should give priority to positive encouragement and praise for their children, while negative criticism will only discourage them. Parents should encourage and praise their children according to their age characteristics. Children under the age of three should be encouraged to praise more. For example, when a mother sees a child fall, don't rush to help him up. She can immediately say, "The baby is so brave. If he falls, he will get up by himself and won't cry. ......& gt& gt
Question 3: How do parents set an example in family education? Parents and children will establish very sincere and deep feelings in their daily lives, and parents will therefore become the most easily accepted and imitated people in their children's minds.
It can be seen that in family education, parents' "example" is much more effective than "example". The influence of parents' inculcation on their children is not as subtle as in daily life. A convincing evidence is that in the psychological consultation clinic, it is found that two-thirds of children's psychological problems are directly related to their parents' behavior, and their growth and development is a reflection of their parents' behavior and behavior norms to some extent. From the psychological point of view, children's behavior process has obvious concreteness and randomness. Children lack knowledge and experience accumulation. They first know external things through feelings, that is, intuitive appearances. Children's learning style is mainly imitation, and the first object of imitation is parents, so parents are not only their first teachers, but also their first role models. The reason why many children behave like their parents is not so much heredity as the result of early imitation. Morality is a kind of value judgment and code of conduct. The influence of parents' words and deeds and family environment on children plays an important role in the formation of children's character. Parents' ideological and moral qualities and parents' attitudes towards beauty, ugliness, good and evil, right and wrong will all affect children. If parents are sincere, polite and civilized, children can see and learn, which will play a role of edification and infection over time. If parents are rude and ill-bred, it is impossible to raise children into educated people.
Parents are role models for children, and children are the reflection of parents. Family education is not as standardized as the school education system. Parents' behavior will affect their children intentionally or unintentionally. Parents don't do what they say. No matter how he (she) preaches to children, it is difficult to convince them, and even make them rebellious, thus adopting a cynical attitude towards life. As parents, we should check our words and deeds anytime and anywhere and educate our children with our own code of conduct. Parents must first believe the truth that children are required to believe; What parents ask their children to do, what children do first; Don't do what parents ask their children not to do. Even if parents do something wrong carelessly, they should put down their parents' face, explain their mistakes to their children and correct them, which will help them distinguish right from wrong, correct them when they know their mistakes and seek truth from facts. If the basic method of family education is to follow good advice and reason, then teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, as Confucius said: "It is right but not ordered; His body is not right, although he is not obedient. " Therefore, every parent should set an example and set a good example for their children.
Question 4: How do parents educate their children to set an example? Parents' example is more important than words. What kind of person do you want him to be? You must do it first.
Question 5: How do parents educate their children to fall in love? A man's father, a woman's mother, education, haven't mom and dad ever been in love?
Question 6: "As parents, how to educate their children to get better development? As the old saying goes: "If you don't teach, it's your father's fault;" Teaching is lax and teachers are lazy, so many parents always think that strictness is good. However, there are also some parents who indulge and spoil their children in every way, so that their children can eat and wear warm clothes with one mouth within reach. These are not good family education.
Question 7: How do parents educate the next generation? The key to educating children is parents! There is no doubt that parents are the children's first teachers, their legal guardians and the first responsible persons for their education. Therefore, education is not just a school matter. Under the condition of market economy, what society needs is talents with innovative consciousness and personality, not just scores. This is also the biggest gap between China's education and western education, and the fundamental reason why the country has attached importance to quality education in recent ten years. In school, there are fifty or sixty students in a class, and it is impossible for a teacher to pay attention to the personality development of each student. The school's work focuses on students' studies, while students' personality development and personality cultivation are mainly in parents, which is irreplaceable by the school. As parents, we can't always hold the traditional concept of the past, put the responsibility of educating our children on the teachers, and pin our children's lifelong hopes on the school. This is extremely irresponsible. The expectations of the school should not be too high, and parents should be duty-bound to assume the responsibility of educating their children. Whether a child can succeed depends on the joint efforts of parents, schools and society. Schools only provide scores, and society objectively provides a stage for activities. How children subjectively apply the natural science knowledge learned in school to society mainly depends on the education of parents. Therefore, the level of parents and the ability to continue learning are extremely important. A child, from kindergarten to university, has changed countless teachers, but his parents' teachers will not change. Our parents are "class teachers who will never retire". Therefore, parents should have a profound understanding, have the ability of continuous learning and improvement, and really grow up with their children in order to complete the great and arduous glorious task of educating the next generation. In the west, when mothers are still pregnant, they go to study the education after the birth of their children. When the child is six years old, she will learn how to educate a nine-year-old child, usually three years in advance. So as to cooperate with the school and social discovery to cultivate children's personality, hobbies, specialties and psychology, and lay the foundation for successful social development. Therefore, we should also change our concepts and constantly improve the quality of education. From this perspective, it is reasonable for parents who have had experience in the army and going to the countryside and have certain knowledge to educate their children relatively more successfully. They entered the society when they were teenagers, and their hard experiences created their personality and creative consciousness. Let the children think more! The last article talked about how to pass on success to the next generation. The key to educating children is parents. This article is about children themselves. In recent years, the society has emphasized on strengthening quality education for students, and various cram schools such as painting, music and physical education are overwhelming. In fact, these are still far from quality education. The core of quality education is to cultivate children to have good thinking habits from an early age. If a person's thoughts are not good, not only his cultural study is not good, but also his cultural achievements are ok. He is just a bookworm under the market economy, and he can't make great achievements in his career after entering the society. There is a so-called tenth place phenomenon in schools. In fact, most of the tenth place are children with good thinking habits. Their book performance is not top-notch, they are "playing" reading, but their thinking habits and ability to use their hands and brains are absolutely first-class. Many parents always think that their children are too young to understand and are willing to replace everything. I want to say that from the moment a child is born, his mind will actually perceive everything outside. For example, two or three-year-old children sit on the bench and stagger down. Western parents will let him try to get up by himself. China's mother, in order to coax him not to cry, said while hitting the stool that it was the stool's fault that the baby didn't cry. This actually makes children form an idea from an early age, and everything is someone else's fault. Children educated in this way can easily push problems to others when they grow up, never find their own reasons, and never want to improve themselves. At present, there are many highly educated unemployed people in the human resources market, and many of them are "waiting for the sea". They are literate and have two hands, but they always complain about others, scold their parents, or find a job at a loss. Why do they pin their hopes for work and survival on others and give them control? Isn't this your own business? In the army, the superior gives the task, and the answer is always the same sentence: "Yes!" The task is there, how to complete it by yourself. We can't always say, "It's not that we are incompetent, but that Tuba Road is too powerful." People with this habit can hardly succeed. Because success and failure are just a word difference, "active" or "passive". Anyone who blames others is passive. He is good if others are good, and he is bad if others are bad. This is > >
Question 8: How do parents educate their children? Qualified parents can't just think about educating their children. Are we really capable of educating them? It's better to get in touch with children and grow up together.
1. Be your child's friend, give him equal respect and understanding, understand his troubles, and let him know yours. Discuss various problems with your child and let him think with his brain as soon as possible;
2. Establish a warm family environment. The family takes time to chat every day (the best time to eat) and talk about the interesting things that happened that day. No matter how young the child is, don't ignore his opinion, let him participate in your conversation and give him a chance to express himself.
3. Establish a positive learning atmosphere. If children want to study well, parents should also keep learning. Don't indulge in entertainment and TV, read their books with children and cultivate their reading habits.
4. Establish a positive and optimistic family mentality. The whole family is positive and optimistic. Only when they encounter difficulties can the children have positive guidance, not pessimism, not complaining, not complaining.
How children are depends on how parents are. If you want to teach your child what kind of person to be, you must be that person first.
Question 9: How do parents educate their children? First, establish self-confidence.
Most of us parents have the desire to "expect our children to succeed and our daughters to succeed". This wish
In line with the law of human development and the pace of the times, how can this wish be put into practice? I believe that children should believe that they are the cleverest children, believe in schools, believe in teachers, and believe that society is getting better every day. Because among my friends, some people always blame their children, because their grades are not as good as other children, and their children can't get X-ray awards. Some things are like, "Why are you so stupid? You see how great people are, how can they be so bad? " In the case of a class, this creates an illusion in children's minds that I can't compare with others, and others are always better than me. Let children always feel inferior, so that they have no motivation and are not motivated. Encourage children to win without arrogance and lose with grace. All children have their own advantages, but they also inevitably have shortcomings and mistakes. Therefore, parents should grasp the scale, which is very important for the establishment of children's self-confidence. Second, establish learning objectives.
Different stages of life have different goals, and the realization of goals in each stage means a new step in life, and short-term goals should be combined with long-term goals. Although some children have set goals, they are too long-term to achieve them in the short term. However, children are often anxious and hope to achieve any goal as soon as possible. If they don't see the results in a short time, they will be discouraged and this set goal will be lost. Therefore, on the basis of long-term goals, plus a few short-term achievable goals, let the long-term goals be realized as much as possible, and gain confidence from small successes again and again. Only in this way can we succeed step by step. Third, let children complete various tasks or homework independently.
Cultivate the ability of self-discipline from an early age and do everything yourself. Today's work must be finished today, don't put it off until tomorrow. Develop such a good habit, never pay off your debts in your study, give full play to your own characteristics, always keep interested in new knowledge, and make your love for learning full of energy. This is very necessary for children to set foot on society and work in the future. Fourth, lead by example, parents should lead by example.
Parents should not only work hard, but also study often and influence their children with their own practical actions. Since childhood, children spend the longest time with their parents, and a day or two is nothing, but the habitual behavior of parents for several years or even longer will become a psychological hint to children. So that children will unconsciously imitate their parents' words and deeds. If parents have bad habits, they will affect their children day after day. Some parents know that some of their habits are wrong, but there is nothing they can do. They always say "don't learn from me" to their children, but this has planted a bad result in their hearts, which cannot be erased by a few words of "don't learn". Therefore, parents' words and deeds play a very important role in children. Fifth, give back children's self-esteem.
Parents and children should always respect each other. Give them more encouragement and guidance when they encounter difficulties. Cultivate children's self-esteem. I always think that parents and children should be equal. Children should be regarded as equal subjects from an early age, and parents should not adopt a condescending attitude. Sixth, cultivate children's competitive consciousness and interest.
Modern society, full of competition and fast pace, requires people to have strong adaptability and adaptability, so it is necessary to cultivate children's "strong temperament" from an early age. Cherish and encourage every little progress, so that children can give full play to their advantages, fully affirm and self-confidence, and carry out "feel good" training. Make a practical plan "one step at a time". A famous American psychologist believes that the most important personality of today's children is (1) self-confidence (2) enthusiasm (3) compassion (4) flexibility (5) hope: to see the light in the dark and dare to meet challenges. In addition to asking children to finish textbook homework carefully, they should also pay attention to cultivating knowledge about hobbies, such as attending interest classes, or teaching children to learn all kinds of ball games and chess to carry out comprehensive quality education. Seven, family members should have a division of labor.
Father should undertake more ideological and political work, and mother should care more about life. Children's task is to learn, and only learning can make children happy. Don't let children take learning as a burden, let them feel that learning is working like their parents. The family should create a good learning environment for children, let children often feel the warmth of the family, and often establish a good learning atmosphere from the bottom of their hearts. ......& gt& gt
Question 10: How do you feel as a parent? How to educate your children that their parents are their first teachers is very important for their lifelong development. Therefore, communication between parents and children is very important. Regarding how to communicate with children, I will say the following:
First of all, teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. Parents should first pay attention to their own cultivation and establish their own prestige.
A parent who doesn't like learning and only cares about eating, drinking and having fun, a parent who knows nothing, a parent with bad conduct, vulgar behavior, selfishness and disrespect for the elderly, will not cultivate good children.
Secondly, it should be noted that children in parenting education are very concerned about whether their parents have made great efforts for their growth. Although some parents stay with their children all the year round, they may not always communicate with each other. Most parents neglect parenting education on the grounds of being busy. Parents' parenting education should be ahead of their children's physical and mental development, so parents should devote themselves to their children's education, keep learning and improve their ability to educate their children, so as to win their respect and love.
Third, create a good knowledge environment. Children's learning should have a good small environment, not high-end products, but atmosphere. When studying, students should avoid unnecessary family chats, get together with friends more, and try to tolerate shortcomings. Look at the child with a magnifying glass. You know, there are no perfect children in the world, even perfect children have their own shortcomings. Parents' unconditional trust in their children is an important basis for communication with their children.
5. Praise more and criticize less. Appropriate praise is a stimulant and lubricant for parents to communicate with their children. Parents always understand, appreciate, praise and encourage their children, which will enhance their self-esteem and self-confidence. Remember: praise and encouragement make children progress, and criticism and complaints make children fall behind.
Sixth, when correcting children's key shortcomings, we must pay attention to maturity, choose the best place and opportunity, and finally ask parents to remember the following sentence: the premise of educating children is to understand them. Appreciation leads to success, and complaining leads to failure.
How to communicate with children? How to cultivate their children and communicate with them unimpeded is a problem that every family and every parent is very concerned about, and it is also a very difficult problem in today's social environment.
When communicating with children, parents need to adjust their psychology first, and hint to themselves: I have such a lovely child, we will grow up together, we will face many problems together, and we will live happier and more fun than others. Only in this way can we establish a good foundation for effective communication with children.
Frankly speaking, the birth and growth of children today are all "sound and light", which is completely different from the reception system of parents when they were young. If parents still tell their children what to do with a single voice, they will find it particularly boring. Today, many children can watch TV, listen to music and do their homework at the same time. Because he grew up in a family environment with various household appliances, he has this habit and skill of overcharge. This system * * * is much stronger and more effective than the simple language symbol * * *, so if parents are complacent and still educate their children with their own original education mode, it is bound to fail to arouse their interest. On the contrary, even in the eyes of children, parents often become boring symbols;
On the other hand, the endless stream of high-tech products profoundly affects children's living environment and thinking habits; Today's children also have the ability to accept international advanced consciousness, such as knowledge of sexual knowledge, which may be difficult for parents to talk about when educating their children, but children actually know a lot. The dilemma of communication is a realistic premise that every parent must face up to.
Learn to design heuristic questions. Many parents' understanding of communication problems is often in a misunderstanding, that is, as long as parents say what children listen to, this is communication. Due to the limitations of various factors in the growing years, parents are relatively poor in educating their children's language and thinking. For example, a child complained that his mother said six words to herself in one day: "Hurry up, or you will be late for school"; The second sentence is "You have to eat some breakfast anyway, or you won't be able to hold up the morning class", the third sentence is "Be careful when crossing the road and watch the car", the fourth sentence is "You must work hard when you get to school", and the fifth sentence is "The school lunch is not very delicious, but you are growing up, so you must eat more"; The sixth sentence "Do your homework first when you come home from school, and watch TV in no hurry". It's natural for a child to get bored by saying such things day after day, but the result is just the opposite.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with their children, learn to design questions, and communicate with their children by asking questions, and try not to ... >>