You just want to vent your anger and teach her a lesson. You think it will make you feel better and fairer.
But does tearing a mistress really help you vent? Does beating and scolding mistress really help you start a new life? It will backfire in the end.
First of all, let's take a look at how cleaning up a mistress can help vent anger.
People's emotions also have memories. There is a place in our brain called amygdala, which controls memory and fear. When you go to clean up the mistress, your mind will constantly see the scene that you were hurt by your husband, your brain will constantly remind you of the unusual relationship between your husband and this woman, and even you will involuntarily think of the picture of them together, so that your emotions will become more and more excited, and sad past events will come to your mind one after another. This will only make you emotionally immersed in your husband's affair. The more I think about it, the angrier I get, and the more I think about it, the more wronged I am. So cleaning up a mistress is not good for your emotional stability. What you need is not to let yourself remember the pictures that make you sad. That will only immerse you in pain.
Secondly, let's take a look again. Will cleaning up mistress help you start a new life?
Divorce means the end of marriage. He is no longer your husband, so mistress naturally has nothing to do with you. Don't waste time and energy on
People who have nothing to do with your good life. When you love, do your best. When you leave, be crisp and neat. Don't procrastinate. Don't let your husband's mistakes affect your later life. You deserve a better life. So, don't pay attention to people and things that have nothing to do with your good life. What you need is to re-plan your life and take a more exciting road.
Keep your head up and move on. I wish you happiness!