Children's sexual education coping style Children are curious and confused: When children are about three years old, most of them will begin to wonder how they came from. When parents face their children's questions or doubts, they can start to explain them to their children in a more scientific way.
Children are simple-minded: children in this period are just curious about the origin of life and are also looking for the knowledge of "people". Moreover, the child's thinking is very simple, and parents don't have to worry that too detailed explanations will cause children to imitate.
Scientific explanation: You can tell your child in a more scientific way, for example, "After your parents fall in love and get married, your mother will let your father's sperm cells enter your mother's egg cells in addition to hugging and kissing, and then a baby will start to grow up in your mother's stomach."
Don't be perfunctory: don't feel shy or perfunctory when explaining to children, because it will make children more curious and even seek other ways to find answers, such as discussing with other children.
Pay attention to the way of expression: when explaining such problems, you should also tell your child that the pregnancy process of your mother is very hard, and the difference between boys and girls. The most important thing is to tell children in an objective, healthy and scientific way.
Strengthen the correct concept: tell children that the hard work of parents is to let them know to be filial to their parents and strengthen the centripetal force and love of the family; Telling children that men and women are different is to help them identify the roles of men and women.
Gender barrier: Now some boys are "feminine", quiet, gentle and hygienic because of family and other factors. Girls, on the other hand, will be more overbearing and picky, which are all bad tendencies.
Parents should set an example: parents should know that instilling children's sexual concepts is not as important as setting a sexual example! If parents are warm, harmonious and loving each other every day, that is the best education for their children.
Parents influence children: According to research, children's ideal heterosexual conditions correspond to their parents, so parents' behavior and performance will greatly affect children's interpersonal relationship and future mate selection direction.
Pay attention to hygiene habits: sex education should also pay attention to children's hygiene habits, such as the way and direction of girls using toilet paper in the toilet, and boys should know how to clean their reproductive organs.
Correct bad habits: If children like the late acquisition of sexual organs (especially boys), please ask parents not to use strong scolding, but to use reasonable methods, such as a large number of bacteria on hands and feet, which will make the penis sick.
Divert children's attention: or divert children's attention, play games with children, tell stories, etc. Guide children to like what, and over time, children will naturally get rid of bad habits.
Children's sexual enlightenment education strategy to do a good job in family relations: in addition to paying attention to the attitude towards children, the relationship between parents will also have a far-reaching impact on children. If the relationship between parents is tense, children can easily become the object of anger and resentment from one or both parents.
Education cherishes the body: as soon as a child is born, he experiences the world around him with his own senses. In the process of feeding children, parents' proper behavior can make children realize that they are concerned and learn to respect and care for their bodies.
Understand the difference between men and women: When a child asks, it is best for parents to tell the child the official name of the corresponding part, or add the name in slang to the official name, and gradually expand from these words, so that he can have a scientific and systematic understanding of sexual issues.
The four misunderstandings of children's sex education are very dangerous. 1. Gender perspective deviation: confuse male and female physiological gender with social gender.
Due to the different expectations of boys and girls, there is a phenomenon of son preference in the process of educating children, which puts pressure on children's future social roles. For example, we have always stressed that boys are the pillars of society and should bear more social and family responsibilities; The most important character of a girl is gentleness, gentleness, caring for her husband and educating her children. Although society has developed and women's social status has been continuously improved, many parents hope that? Children become dragons and women become phoenixes? However, in gender education, the gender concept that men are superior to women still profoundly affects people's different education for boys and girls.
In fact, sex education is education anytime and anywhere, not necessarily what you say and what I listen to. Like ancient times? Make fun of it? And then what? Fun to play with tiles? Said. ? Zhang? It is a kind of jade, a kind of ritual vessel, which will be used when offering sacrifices; ? Watt? It's a ceramic textile tool, which is superior and which is inferior at a glance. We are born in such a social culture, and many things about gender differentiation and gender role positioning seem to be established things, which seem to be taken for granted, and people will not think much about why this is the case. In fact, this is also a kind of sex education, and it is a framework of sex education given by society. For thousands of years, people have accepted the gender role orientation given by society since birth and have been following it. According to traditional gender roles, we unconsciously ask boys to be indomitable and strong; Girls should be gentle as water, delicate and considerate; These are not determined by the physiological sex of men and women, but created by social culture. With the development of society, the advantages and disadvantages of male and female physical strength in social division of labor are becoming less and less obvious. Women can create value in social life and share the results with men, and the constraints of traditional values on women are also changing with this change. The trend of neutralization also proves that the division of gender roles between men and women in traditional society is not determined by superior physiological conditions. Therefore, in the process of sex education, we should pay special attention to the guidance of ideas.
2, ashamed to tell the child the correct name of the reproductive organs.
At the age of two or three, children will have a certain sense of gender, and adults will answer their questions enthusiastically. Fortunately, many parents and teachers can correctly tell their children that the difference between men and women lies in the distinction between reproductive organs. Few people say that girls don't have penises because they are disobedient and the penis is eaten by a puppy. Such an answer will make many daughters feel inferior to their biological gender. Now many adults will tell their children that boys have penises and girls have wombs. That small house is where babies are born, and men and women have their own strengths.
However, when telling children that men and women are different, many adults are afraid to name their genitals. Most of them use penis instead of penis, small house instead of uterus, and small breasts instead of breasts. Basically, no parents can tell their children honestly? Vagina? This word.
It is very important to say the correct name of genitals accurately and frankly, which will make children think that this is a serious matter, just as we can say the eyes, nose and ears accurately, which shows that the reproductive organs of the human body are the same as other organs of the human body, and there is nothing special and shameful to play their functions. If hidden, it will strengthen children's excessive attention to reproductive organs, and those nicknames can easily make children form a wrong understanding of reproductive organs.
For example, many people like to always tell their children when they are learning a language? Eat? ,? Sleep? Something like that. When the child grows up, these words will not apply, and the child will have to learn again? Eat? 、? Sleep? In fact, there is absolutely no need to teach children like this. Children's understanding ability is far stronger than we thought. Therefore, if you want to educate your children, you must use accurate language, and don't worry that your children don't understand.
And when telling children this, you can use the pictures in the book, or you can directly use the bodies of children and adults.
At home, it is very beneficial to take a bath with your child and expose your body properly. A scientific understanding of a healthy body can form a correct concept in a child's mind. The body is unnatural and not dirty.
3. Sex education is not only physical education, but also cultural education.
The physiological difference between the two sexes determines the difference between the two sexes in social life, and determines that people must deal with the relationship between the two sexes in this life. Social culture is attached to physiology.
When it comes to sex, it has four meanings: men and women in nature; Men and women in human society; Sexual behavior; Sexual intercourse. Sex education is an important part of life education. In fact, in the process of children's growth, adults should let children accept their own gender, respect others' gender, understand the feelings between the two sexes, handle gender relations and have safe sex.
Family sex education first needs adults to correct their concepts. For example, modern people should have a correct view of masturbation. Masturbation is not the whole of sex, but as long as it doesn't hurt others, it has the same meaning and the same value judgment as orgasm obtained by other means, and there is no need to laugh at yourself. Desire can be released like this, not whether you should do it or not, but how you treat it. Many people are hurt by the idea that masturbation is harmful. The problem is not the body, but the mind. If children know that classmates and parents will have such problems at this age, they will not panic and fear, and may find someone who can help them.
Other children comfort themselves because they are in some kind of fear and anxiety, because they will encounter contradictions and conflicts that they cannot solve. Observe words and deeds and find out the real meaning of hidden problems, such as study anxiety or difficulties and pressures in interpersonal communication.
There is also the problem of homosexual orientation. Because secret topics are not easy to discuss openly, and the expression of the opposite sex is not satisfactory, homosexuality in adolescence is a very common phenomenon in the process of growing up, which is not a mentality with homosexuality.
An open social environment is a favorable condition for cultivating children's healthy sexual psychology and personality. What adults need to do is to guide them to explore sexual knowledge in depth and how to realize what more functions and values sex has on a person's life. This is a challenge.
You should give children a kind of sexual beauty, make sex a kind of love, and make love a kind of strength.
4. Mom is in charge of sex education for girls and dad is in charge of sex education for boys.
Nowadays, many parents and teachers can realize that they should give their children some sex education. However, in the implementation of education,
Shame to give the opposite sex children the right guidance. It is often the mother who tells the girl and the father who tells the boy that no one will think there will be any problems. In fact, it is like a child sending such a message that sex is mysterious. In many families, fathers and daughters, sons and mothers gradually alienate after children enter adolescence. When they want to know the opposite sex most, their parents shut themselves off from them.