As a Chinese teacher, what kind of parents will I admire? It is not easy for parents who know their children's learning situation, are willing to spend time and energy to solve their children's learning problems, and can communicate well with teachers. Because you should not only understand children, but also understand education, get along with teachers, and always help children and themselves solve educational problems. I have also met parents who can really do these three things, and their children's Chinese scores naturally have nothing to say. However, some parents will ask: I am really responsible, and I am also very concerned about my children's study, and I have spent twice as much time and energy. But why don't our children's grades go up but down?
Parents who are used to reflection are excellent. Parents who usually spend time and energy often doubt the Chinese teacher at the first time after discovering that their efforts have not brought much improvement to their children. This Chinese teacher is no good. No matter how hard parents try, it's useless. They have to rely on teachers. Bad luck, met this teacher with poor teaching ability, and parents were filled with indignation. In fact, as long as these three points can be achieved, children's Chinese scores will not be bad. The reason why there is no improvement is because of parents' excessive tutoring and learning. What's the problem with serious consultation? Teacher Kojima also reflected on his own teaching experience. Let's see what went wrong.
0 1 the performance of overteaching
What is overteaching? Is it wrong for parents to help their children with their studies? Is it wrong to guide the study seriously and pay attention to it meticulously? Parents don't care, the teacher said that parents don't cooperate with education, and students study too poorly, which is not the teacher's responsibility. Parents are in charge, and the teacher says that it is not the teacher's responsibility to care too much and the children's grades are not good. In short, neither is parental guidance, and it is even more wrong not to guide. Parents are really embarrassed. In fact, excessive counseling comes from parents' anxiety about students' grades. I am never satisfied with my children's Chinese grades. I got 80 points this time, and I will get 90 points next time. If I get 90 points, I will get 100 points. Endless demands are actually the cause of parents' excessive counseling.
So how to define over-teaching? Parents can never tell which learning tasks should be completed by their children and which should be assisted by their parents. In short, parents will do all the learning tasks for their children, and they will also feel a certain sense of security psychologically during the education process. For example, parents should recite texts and write compositions for their children, and take notes for their children's counseling during the exam, so that the review efficiency is high and the reputation is good. Parents have finished all the Chinese review contents that should have been completed by their children, and then explain them to their children. These are all over-consultations.
In Chinese learning, dependence is not a good thing.
Parents' excessive counseling and responsibilities are most likely to bring their children dependence on learning. No matter what learning task, parents will do it themselves at the first time, so that children can think that primary school learning is like this. My parents help me write my composition, my parents help me make handwritten newspapers, my parents help me print my study materials, and my parents help me write my speech for the speech contest. All the honors I have won in Chinese are my own efforts. Such overconfidence makes children rely on the guidance of their parents, and their ability to resist setbacks is very low.
Excessive tutoring by parents can help children improve their Chinese learning ability at a certain point, but once they develop dependence, children will not learn Chinese by themselves. If one day, parents let go of their children's study, their Chinese scores will soon drop from 90 to 70 or even lower. Let children learn independently and grow up by themselves, which is a guiding principle that our parents must make clear in the process of guiding learning. If you can't do this, parents will never know what's wrong with spending so much time and energy.
How should parents stop loss in time?
When some parents see this, they will reflect that they do have excessive tutoring behavior. What should they do? Stop loss in time, communicate well with children, what do parents do in the learning process, what is your learning task, and clarify their respective division of labor. Just as we do our job well at work, parents and children also have their own positioning in the learning process, and set a dividing line, so that children can experience it themselves, work hard in the learning process and gain the confidence to return. And provide children with ways to seek help when they can't solve their learning problems.
Excessive counseling for children's learning is that parents do not control their anxiety and intensity. It takes time and practice for children to learn and grow. Don't be afraid of failure, let children establish a sense of responsibility for learning. This is the real purpose of remedial learning. Understanding children, understanding children and helping children are what our parents need to do. Do you agree with my view on over-tutoring? Welcome to leave a comment.