In the eyes of parents, children just don't know anything, so they don't care about their psychological activities when they speak. In fact, children also have a bottom line and self-esteem. What parents don't know is that this practice will leave a mark on their children's hearts and ultimately affect their future growth. In education, especially for boys, parents must not touch these four bottom lines. Otherwise, it will not only alienate parents' feelings, but also make children break pots and fall, and no longer listen to their parents' teachings.

The first bottom line: criticize children in front of many people. Criticizing a child in front of everyone will make him feel ashamed and lose his self-esteem. He will feel that everyone is watching his jokes. Even though it has been a long time, when he saw the people present at that time, he felt that others would laugh at him, which would lead to breaking the basin, no longer caring about other people's opinions and easily going astray.

The second bottom line: turn over old accounts. The child clearly knew that he was wrong and corrected it, but he kept nagging. Especially for boys, boys hate their parents, because every time you mention it, it is equivalent to exposing his scars. After a long time, children will be impatient with it and even deliberately oppose you, which has the opposite effect of education.

The third bottom line: habitually deny the child's thoughts. "You are still a child, what do you know?"

Do you often say this to children? At the age of two, children began to have a sense of independence. He is eager to express his thoughts and positions to his parents. If parents are always sarcastic, children will feel that they are not respected and valued. In fact, children hate their parents' practice, because once parents mention it, it is equivalent to exposing their children's scars. Over time, children will become impatient and even deliberately oppose their families. This kind of education has an impact on children.

Many parents are educating their children for the first time and are also exploring. Parents don't always learn from scratch, but always learn slowly and sum up experience. Try to guide or distinguish children correctly, so that children can get correct training when they are young.

Therefore, try not to touch the above three items. Parents should pay attention to these three bottom lines when educating boys. This practice is likely to cause children to lose confidence in themselves, and children will give up on themselves and never listen to their parents' instruction and guidance again. Otherwise, it will not only affect the growth of children, but also make the family relationship between children and parents drift away, which is not worth the candle.