Q 1

Hello, teacher, I'm a girl of 17 years old. I want to consult. I have been learning table corner masturbation since primary school. My neighbors and sisters have taught me for six years, and I still want to stop, but I can't help it every time ... what should I do? Is this a good way to masturbate? Do you have anything like this? Thanks, teacher.

A:

Masturbation is one of the ways for the human body to satisfy sexual desire, which is natural and normal. Masturbation itself will not cause harm to the body, and there is no need to "stop". There is no "good" or "bad" way to masturbate, as long as it suits you. But masturbation is a kind of private behavior, which needs to be carried out in private personal space (such as bedroom and bathroom). Don't let others see it, otherwise it may make others feel uncomfortable. Pay attention to hygiene when masturbating, and don't hurt yourself.

Q2

Sex education for children has always been a difficult problem for parents. How to have sex education with children has not yet been decided, and the baby will "masturbate". Recently, I encountered a very difficult problem, which is hard to say and helpless. My daughter is five and a half years old. A month ago, I noticed that she always touched her lower body with her hand and asked her if it was itchy. She said no, because the child was young, I didn't consider other aspects, thinking that unclean things might stimulate her to scratch, so I washed her ass carefully every night when I took a shower.

Soon after, something happened that shouldn't have happened at her age, which made me dumbfounded and couldn't believe my eyes. I really saw what I didn't want to see: I saw her lying on the bed, her hands twitching inside her thighs, her body writhing, her face flushed and her eyes closed. She didn't see me then. I was shocked!

A:

We prefer the word "masturbation" to "masturbation". Masturbation can occur at any age, even young children. Your daughter is five and a half years old. Masturbation is normal, not "should not happen". Parents should treat this matter with a normal heart.

Just like our parents, we should pay attention to our children and don't let them hurt themselves when masturbating.

If you can talk to your child about sex, you can tell her that it will make her feel comfortable, but you should pay attention to hygiene, don't touch the reproductive organs with dirty hands, don't hurt yourself when doing such actions, and tell her to do such actions in her own room, and don't let others see or influence others.

Q3

Son 13-year-old junior two boy. Recently, he was found to have frequent penile erection at home, and it lasted for a long time. I tried to discuss the problem with him, but he seemed unwilling to discuss it. I'm afraid it will affect his life and study. How should this situation be handled?

A:

Hello! Thank you very much for your question! We understand your concern, if we ignore the erection phenomenon of adolescent boys, it will not be conducive to the healthy growth of children. Your question is very important, and your answer is as follows:

Erection means that the penis becomes hard and erect. Men can erect penises all their lives, even babies as old as a few months will erect, and they will enter puberty more frequently. Erection can occur at any time and any place. When boys or adult men think of sex or some sensitive parts of their bodies being touched by others or by themselves, penile erection may occur; It may also happen when you are nervous, excited or afraid, stressed, or even when you have no specific feelings or thoughts. This is all normal.

Your son 13 years old, is in adolescence. Boys and girls who enter adolescence not only develop rapidly physically, but also undergo many wonderful psychological changes due to the increased secretion of sex hormones in the body. Physiologically, when men are extremely excited, they show scrotal contraction, penile erection and ejaculation; Women show congestion and swelling of clitoris and vaginal wall, and increased mucus secretion; When these physiological changes occur, psychology will also produce feelings of excitement and happiness; Some people feel this way about the same sex. These are natural and normal phenomena in the process of adolescent sexual physiological development and psychological development, which need our correct understanding and scientific treatment.

After the erection of male penis, if there is enough sexual stimulation, semen will be ejected from the urethral orifice of penis, which is called ejaculation. Erection is a necessary condition for ejaculation, but erection does not always lead to or trigger the final ejaculation, and many erections will subside on their own.

In addition to masturbation, there are some ways to help relieve sexual impulses or resolve embarrassing situations, such as covering them with schoolbags or loose clothes; Go to the toilet and leave public places; Think about other things in your heart and divert your attention; Usually form a good habit of going to bed and getting up on time every day, relax your sleeping posture and don't oppress external reproductive organs; Change clean and loose underwear, and insist on cleaning the external genitals with clean water every day; Cultivate a variety of hobbies, keep happy, etc.