The so-called visual cliff experiment refers to an experiment conducted by Walker and Gibson in 196 1 year, which was later called one of the classic experiments of developmental psychology.
In this experiment, the researchers made a flat chessboard pattern, constructed the illusion of "visual cliff" with different patterns, and covered the glass plate above the pattern. In this way, the eyes look like cliffs. The purpose of the experiment is to see if the baby dares to climb to the side with cliff characteristics.
Putting the belly of a 2-3-month-old baby down on the side of the "visual cliff", it is found that the baby's heart rate will slow down, which shows that they have experienced the depth of the object.
When the 6-month-old baby was placed on the glass plate and his mother greeted him on the other side, she found that the baby would not hesitate to climb the side without the illusion of depth, but would not climb the side that looked like a cliff.
Some time ago, a TV program in South Korea designed a link similar to the experimental scene. In an environment with a visual cliff, put the child and his mother on both sides of the visual cliff to see if the child will behave differently under his mother's different reactions.
In the first group, the mother looked at the baby without any expression. The baby found "danger" (visual cliff with fireball effect) in the process of climbing to his mother. At this time, the baby looked at the expressionless mother and stayed at the edge of the cliff, afraid to go forward. After a while, the baby went back the same way. The same thing happened to another child, who went back in the same way.
In the next experiment, let the two babies pass the cliff experiment again. Only this time, when the baby was facing "danger", the mothers all showed warm smiles, affectionately called the baby's name and waved the child over.
The result is surprising. Although the babies also saw the height of the cliff, after seeing their mother's smile and movements, they climbed in the direction of their mother without hesitation.
The power of safe love.
Many people are moved by such experimental results. Although some people have questioned this experiment, thinking that it may confuse children's cognition and undermine children's judgment in the face of danger, I believe more people have remembered this:
Yes, a mother's warm smile can help children overcome their fear of "cliff" and "sea of fire" and successfully pass the visual cliff.
After reading this experiment, I can't help but think of the very famous Italian film "A Beautiful Life". This film touched many people and won the Oscar for Best Foreign Language Film.
It tells the story of a Jewish father and son who were sent to a Nazi concentration camp. In order not to hurt the child's childlike innocence, the father claimed to his son that they were in a game, and everything the child saw in the concentration camp was designed by the game, which was not true. In the end, the father died tragically, but he wove a love lie for his son, shielding the child from the most evil part of human nature.
What kind of life can you give your child in almost complete darkness? I think this great father gave a perfect answer: stable and secure love.
Facing the cruelty and darkness we can't imagine in the concentration camp, my father worked so hard to create a sense of security for the children. With the support of this safe fatherly love, children can calmly face the darkness and danger around them, still maintain their innocence and kindness, and calmly face the evil in the world.
Psychologically, it can be interpreted from man in the mirror's point of view. The positive emotions presented by parents have a strong influence and appeal to children, and children can learn the courage and strength to face difficulties from these positive and safe emotional messages transmitted by parents.
03 enlightenment
First of all, it is said that "parents are a mirror of children", and what parents say and do will have a far-reaching impact on children. In many uncertain situations, children often search for emotional information from their parents and then take action to approach or avoid it.
For example, when a baby is 9 months old, he begins to spontaneously develop the ability to understand or interpret adult facial expressions. The baby will take his mother's facial expression as emotional information. If his mother is angry, he will be angry. If mother and baby are happy, he will be happy, which is the most direct initial reaction.
Therefore, parents give their children more positive love and proper attention, and children will also give back positive emotions and behaviors.
Secondly, when it comes to loving children, I believe every parent will say that they love their children. But first, we should make a clear distinction. Do you convey safe love or unsafe love to your children?
When insecure love is transformed into specific details, it is usually a reprimand to children, impatience of parents, and violence to vent anger. Then the message the child may get may be "Mom is angry again", "Mom is impatient again", "Dad hit me again" and "I don't need and don't want such a father".
Naturally, children's behavior feedback to their parents is that no matter how you hit me, scold me, criticize me and accuse me, what you say goes in one ear and out the other, I won't listen, because you haven't done well yourself, you are not an example, and I don't need to do well.
And love with security can make your child feel your positive emotions and efforts, and make him believe that no matter what situation he is in, he can always find acceptance and support from his parents.
So, when the child's test scores are low, can you comfort the child who may have blamed himself and carefully analyze the test paper for him instead of scolding him loudly?
When the child is doing homework, can you put down the phone, turn off the TV and stay with the child quietly?
When the child wants to stay in bed in the morning, can you wake up your little angel with the aroma of breakfast or caress, instead of flying into a rage and invisibly passing on his anxiety to the child?
Education is not simple information transmission, but words and deeds! Is the child a copy of his parents, an upgraded version or an eliminated version? It all depends on the parents' teaching.
Please show more positive behaviors and emotions when facing children. Children who grow up in criticism often give up on themselves; Children who grow up in fear often worry; Children who grow up in hostility tend to be more indifferent. Smile more, give children positive energy, and face life with a positive and optimistic heart.
If we can't give our children a better world than facing Nazi fathers, we should at least complain less.