In addition, many people's life values are constantly changing, and the combination of parents at that time may be the best choice. With the passage of time, their views on marriage and social consciousness have changed.
However, children cannot be victims of marriage. Children's education should be paid attention to even if they are divorced and have not reorganized their families. In fact, the problem of children in single-parent families will occur in many complete families, but the problem of single-parent children will be more prominent. They will have more psychological problems because of their parents' divorce, which will lead to more obvious behavioral characteristics.
1. Emotional fragility
Children feel abandoned because of their parents' divorce. This emotional fragility is generally reflected in girls. Because one parent thinks that the child should be compensated, they all spoil the child, resulting in poor independence. They want adults to do everything for them.
Because their parents' love makes them feel vulnerable, they also have more demands and demands on their parents. After a long time, they will not be able to bear great setbacks and pressures, and will become more sentimental. They are also the one who needs to be protected in the interaction with their peers. I hope others can accommodate themselves and feel sorry for themselves.
be scanty of words
This situation mostly happens to boys from divorced families. Such children watched their parents' divorce silently since childhood, and saw the pain caused by divorce, but they were afraid to communicate with their parents. They use silence to protect their inner hurt. Usually, one parent may be busy and have no extra time to spend with their children, which leads to many things that children just watch and don't say.
Taciturn children have no channels to talk, so they often fall into a state of melancholy or lack of vitality. They are not interested in their parents, classmates or study. Because they are young, they can't change the fact that their parents have separated, so they deeply feel that they can't change the reality. Although you can play with your classmates for a while, once you calm down, you will fall into a melancholy mood.
Silent children generally have strong self-esteem and sensitive hearts. They don't want to talk about their parents with their classmates, let alone themselves. Although they have strong self-care ability and strong sense of independence, they can't change the fact that they are still children. Taciturn children will go to two extremes in their studies, either with particularly good academic performance or always failing.
3. Bad personality
Most of these children divorced during adolescence. At this time, children will use more intense words and deeds or psychological state to oppose their parents' divorce. There is also that both parents have no time to take care of their children. Over time, due to lack of discipline, children have made some outrageous behaviors.
Their children were hurt emotionally by their parents' divorce. In addition, when parents have no time to spend with their children, they will find other things to fill their inner emptiness. They often go out to play with friends and classmates or indulge in online mobile games. Parents don't know their children's current friendship or study status, even if they know that their children have made mistakes, they don't know how to discipline them.
These three types are typical children with problems in divorced families, but there are also a large number of children who can learn and grow well under the care of single parents even if their marriage has broken down. As long as parents can realize that divorce does great harm to their children and adopt active and effective educational methods in family education, it is not difficult to minimize the impact on their children, and even single-parent families can educate excellent children.
For emotionally fragile children, parents should not indulge in facts and spoil them unprincipled, but should give them more confidence.
For taciturn children, let them know that even if their parents are divorced, their love for them has not diminished. Parents should let their children feel their love and communicate with them more often. The age of children determines that they still like to play and enjoy entertainment. If parents can often participate in activities with their children to make them feel happy and safe, their children's personality will be more extroverted.
Parents of single-parent families should be both parents and mothers, so that children can get balanced care and give perseverance and courage, so that their personality development will be more complete.
For children with bad personality, parents should find the right way of education, so that children can know the importance of responsibility first and bear all the consequences of what they have done. Tell them that life will be different without a family role after divorce, but try to face and adapt.
Parents may not have much time to get along with their children because they have to take care of them, but no matter how busy they are, they should set aside some time to communicate with their children every day to master their learning and life dynamics. It is because of the divorce that the remaining two people should work harder to overcome the difficulties in life.
Let children know that they are a member of the family and have the ability and obligation to stand with their parents, not the other way around.
Suhomlinski once said: Understanding is a good way to change paranoia. ?
Only when parents and children can understand each other can they face life better. Parents need to understand their children so as to be tolerant and give them more love. If children have a better understanding of their parents, there will be no resentment and revenge.
Due to the divorce of parents, children in single-parent families actually need the care and warmth of family ties more than children in ordinary families. In the face of children, what parents should do is to know more about children and guide them more.
Is there a cloud for Xue Ji? Know his heart, and then you can recover his loss. ?
What children need is the love of their parents, because one of their parents is gone, and children are actually afraid of being abandoned. Such family changes are very serious for children, so there will be some psychological deviations. Parents should calm down first, don't spoil their children too much or be too strict with them because of divorce, and it is best to get along as before, so as to meet their basic needs, but there is no need for children to think that parents will obey themselves in everything as compensation.
There are many opportunities to earn money, but the time to accompany children to grow up is gone forever. We should take a realistic view of children. There is no need to make compensation for children after a failed marriage. We should be strict with children, let them get ahead, and even become tools to show off each other.
Cultivate children's sense of independence, let them have better self-care ability, pay attention to their reactions at any time, and communicate with them more.
Help children deal with all kinds of interpersonal relationships, let children get along well with classmates and teachers, encourage children to communicate with others more, and let children make up for the loneliness caused by family breakdown through collective life.