To tell the truth, it's really not easy to be a parent now! Indulge in the internet, do not like learning, do not like sports, etc. It is a great headache in educating children.
The child made a mistake and was furious to death. He doesn't know if he should hit the child, but he doesn't know where to start if he wants to. ...
Our peers all believe that education without punishment is incomplete. This is especially true for parents and teachers. If the children are wrong, don't let them go. If preaching is really useful, why do you need the police?
Education is painful.
Herbert? Spencer once said: "Education is to make children become happy people, and the means and methods of education should also be happy."
Is our education really happy? No, education must be painful.
When I first entered primary school, there were a lot of books, and my small body had to carry a heavy schoolbag half the size of my body.
In junior high school, the study is heavy and the difficulty is increased. I often do exercises with a pen during the break after class, and I dare not relax at all.
When I entered high school, people around me were running and studying, attending classes, doing exercises after class, turning off the lights, reviewing morning reading and so on. In three years, the school became a second home and the teacher became a new "parent".
How can such study be painless? How many parents of students looked at their children's tired appearance and insisted: "Come on, children, stop it!" Then turn around and silently feel sorry for the child. The ancients often said that, therefore, the sky will drop to the people of Sri Lanka, suffering their minds, working their bones and muscles, and starving their bodies and skins. Therefore, if children want to learn something, they are indispensable!
2. Education needs "fighting"
Nowadays, most of the education is to warn parents not to hit their children. Parents who hit their children are not good parents.
In fact, this view is not correct. Parents who slap their children directly if they don't obey, or parents who let their children kneel down to admit their mistakes when they make mistakes, are really not good parents, but extreme parents. The way they educate their children is absolutely unacceptable.
Then why did I say that education should be "beaten"? Nowadays, children can't scold, say or criticize, and they can't accept a little setback! How can such a child get married and do great things when he grows up? In the end, most of them rely on the protection of their parents and spend their lives in mediocrity!
Therefore, we can't blindly accommodate children, and we need to treat them severely within a certain range. It is allowed to slap the child's palm, punish the child's thinking, and prohibit the child from playing with what he likes.
It not only punishes children, teaches them what they can and can't do, but also makes them deeply remember that they made mistakes, so that similar mistakes can be avoided next time, and it can also change their temperament. At the same time, it is also conducive to standardizing children's behavior and cultivating an excellent child who knows his mistakes, can correct them and be reasonable.
Moderation is the best education.
Many people say that education is unfair in China, unfair in China and unfair in the United States. We can only lead our children better and achieve better children on the road of seeking certain fairness!
In the face of their children, parents should have their own set of educational ideas, adhere to an educational method, and implement it for a long time, combining hard and soft, and don't be soft-hearted when children steal, disrespect their elders, and fight with their parents. ...
The tough must be tough, the punishment should not be less, and the beatings should be moderate. Don't blame when you are soft, such as children being bullied outside, being criticized by teachers, forgetting to bring things ... Don't blame at this time, comfort and encourage children and cultivate their self-confidence.
The best education does not necessarily make your children, and the worst education does not necessarily destroy your children, but what children need most must be the right education.
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