I mean why some parents are always keen on suffering hardships, especially when they have a washing machine, to show thrift. Besides, they have to force you to wash by hand. If you use the washing machine, you will be called lazy. If you don't eat fresh fruit, you must pick rotten fruit and eat rotten fruit from beginning to end. If you throw away the rotten fruit, she will be angry with you and scold you for having too many good days outside. When I was young, I didn't eat all the moldy things as usual, and I didn't see any problems. You can take a taxi in summer, you have to walk, and then when you are tired, you are called bad and uncomfortable. You must take her to the hospital. She was one hundred people who didn't want to spend that money, saying that she was seriously ill and crying that she was miserable. If you don't eat fresh vegetables that are fried now, you have to eat leftovers. I can't wait to heat them three times a day and even drink soup. Take them out for a trip, without playing or eating. What you are concerned about is a consumption concept. I see you eating, drinking and having fun, and I scold you for not living, so I spend money outside. It seems that in their eyes, it is a crime to be lazy and enjoy happiness, and comfort is a crime. Eating well, dressing well and using well are all sins. We must control our children by arousing their guilt through self-abuse. Excuse me, are we forcing you to teach this kind of self-moving sadness?

In our life, sometimes we have to face a situation, that is, our parents may put pressure on us that we may not like but think is necessary. This may be manifested as a kind of "suffering education", the essence of which is to influence our attitude towards life and life through parents' failures or setbacks. To put it bluntly, although it may make us feel uncomfortable or anxious in a short time, we must understand that the essence of this kind of education is for our own interests and may have a far-reaching impact on our future.

First of all, we should understand that parents may take their setbacks or failures as a lesson in our growth. They hope that we can learn from their experiences and avoid repeating the same mistakes. This kind of education is reasonable to some extent, because we can learn some important lessons from our parents' failure, such as how to avoid risks and how to better cope with the challenges in life.

Secondly, this kind of education can help us understand our parents better. When we see their setbacks and failures, we may know more about their lives and experiences, thus establishing deeper ties and emotional ties. This connection can not only help us get more support in the face of difficulties in the future, but also help us better understand our parents in the future.

Finally, this kind of education can also help us understand life better. By seeing parents' setbacks and failures, we can better understand the ups and downs and uncertainties of life. We can learn to accept failures and setbacks and learn from them, so as to better cope with future challenges.

In addition, we have always heard our parents say "it's all for your own good" since childhood, which seems to be the magical language that parents use to control us. But in fact, this is the most annoying "spell".

First, it should be clear that everyone has his own life and decisions, and these decisions should be based on free will and independent thinking. If parents always use "all for your own good" as an excuse for their actions and decisions, then they are actually depriving us of our freedom and rights.

Second, the reason "all for your own good" is often used to cover up parents' own selfishness and mistakes. They may think that their decisions are out of love and concern for us, but in fact, their decisions may have a great impact on our lives, not always positive.

Thirdly, we must also realize that parents' decisions are not always perfect. Their experiences and lives may be different from ours, so their advice and guidance may not always suit us. We have the right to make our own decisions and choose the way we think is best.

In short, the reason of "all for your own good" is the most annoying, although it is well-intentioned. As children, what we want is understanding and respect, not passive acceptance and coercion. In the relationship between parents and children, understanding and respect should be the most important cornerstone, not the self-righteousness of parents and our helplessness.

Also, why do we hate suffering education so much?

In our society, education has always been regarded as an important process, which helps us acquire knowledge, improve skills and shape the future. However, sometimes, the form of education may cause controversy, especially when it is too strict, which may even damage our physical and mental health. This is what we call "suffering education".

Suffering education, as its name implies, is an educational way that emphasizes discipline, obedience and sacrifice. Under this educational system, we are often asked to do a lot of repetitive work, or face extremely high study pressure, and may even be forced to accept physical or psychological pain. The original intention of this kind of education may be to shape our character and cultivate our tenacity and perseverance in this way, but its actual effect is often unsatisfactory.

First of all, we need to understand that education is not only a rational process, but also involves emotions and personal experiences. When a person feels pain and pressure in the process of learning, it will undoubtedly affect his enthusiasm for learning and mental health. Moreover, when this kind of pain and pressure is not effectively relieved, it may also lead to long-term mental health problems.

Secondly, suffering education often obliterates a person's creativity and critical thinking. When we force ourselves to learn according to a fixed pattern, we may gradually lose our curiosity about the unknown and our ability to think deeply about problems. These two abilities are the driving force to promote social progress and personal growth.

Third, suffering education may hinder our personal growth and development. Everyone has his own learning rhythm and interest. Forcing us to learn according to the standardized model may hinder our personal development. Moreover, this kind of education often only pays attention to our external performance and ignores their personal interests and potential.

The reason why we hate parents' hardship education lies in its negative influence on personal physical and mental health, creativity, critical thinking and personal growth. Therefore, we should seek more humanized education methods, respect everyone's individual differences and pay attention to our all-round development.

Generally speaking, although we may hate our parents' hard education, we must realize that the essence of this kind of education is for our benefit. This kind of education can help us learn important life lessons, build deeper relationships and emotional ties, and better understand life. So we should accept and understand this kind of education as much as possible, not resist it.