1, reducing expected value method
Lowering expectations doesn't mean giving up children, but by lowering psychological expectation Q, we can do a good job in psychological construction ahead of time. For example, after the child finishes the exam, we may ask the child to score more than 95, but we can set a lower value in our mind and tell ourselves: If there is no 95, I can accept more than 85.
2, when there is a problem, take the method of calm isolation.
This is the method I often use now, and it is also the method agreed with Xiao Xun. As long as we don't talk about study, we are as good as brothers and sisters. Once we started doing our homework, sparks between us began to splash around. Therefore, the best way is to isolate the contradictions first, calm down and then come back to sum up, reflect and educate.
3. Listen to the child carefully and accept the fact that the child failed the exam.
It is a great comfort for children to tell their parents that they didn't do well in the exam after they finished it. Parents listen to their children carefully. Parents' attitude of accepting children will make children feel that they can express their true feelings in front of their parents without being too nervous. The listening and acceptance of mom and dad will give the child a strong sense of security and make the child feel that no matter what his test score Q is, it will not affect his love from mom and dad. The establishment and stability of a sense of security is very important for the healthy growth of children.
4. Parents should communicate with their children's teachers in time.
On the one hand, children need to find out why they failed in the exam. On the other hand, parents and teachers also need to communicate frequently to keep abreast of their children's learning at school, especially in the classroom. In view of this exam, parents can seize the opportunity of holding a parent-teacher meeting, look at their children's papers and listen to the teacher's overall analysis of the exam.