In fact, people with different identities look at and understand children from different angles, and your judgment from the perspective of looking at children also depends on what kind of relationship you have with him.
If you are a stranger, what is your first criterion for him? Fat or not? Are you handsome? If you know him, do you think he is more like his father or mother? Lively or introverted? If you were a teacher, would you judge whether he was clever or not? How is your academic performance? What is the ideological quality? If you were a mother, would you be worried about his day? Did you eat well? If you were a father, you would. ......
Just like the scene of "Anna skipping rope" in the article, if you are a passerby, you will see the same figure and the same action; The moment she jumped rope may remind you of your childhood and feel and recall those days that are gone forever. But her teacher looked at her in a more subtle way: the nervous expression when skipping rope. What the teacher saw was a lonely girl. Because she has a mother who wants her daughter's phoenix nirvana, this girl often measures herself by the standard of competition, so she can only keep in touch with her classmates. Moreover, the teacher hopes that this girl can have her own room for growth and development and develop her own social interests, not her mother's.
Comparatively speaking, teachers have an educational tendency towards children's life. From the perspective of pedagogy, he can't help but regard this child as a unique individual, a person who is shaping himself and growing up.
Therefore, as an excellent teacher, you can't equate yourself with others only from the superficial phenomenon, you can't equate yourself with experts only from the professional point of view, and you can't equate yourself with parents only from the perspective of thinking about children. But from the perspective of an educator, from the perspective of children, from the perspective of children's long-term development. I wonder if this is a unique educational perspective? Is it from the perspective of pedagogy?
Teachers have an understanding of children's growth, in which restraint and reservation, closeness and alienation coexist. On the one hand, he (she) must carefully observe and take care of the children, and at this time he (she) needs to devote himself wholeheartedly. On the other hand, teachers must observe the limitations and possibilities of children in various fields, and at this time they need to keep their distance.
-Fan Meinan