Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are famous model couples. The meeting in front of Tsinghua University Gu Yue Hall is the beginning of all stories. At this glance, the two have never been separated. Behind this enviable love is their mutual tolerance, love and constant running-in.
"I love you and you are free", and mutual respect is the foundation of a lasting and mature relationship. When Qian Zhongshu struggled to listen to his family's opinions or choose his own job, Jiang Yang didn't interfere too much, just put forward his own suggestions, because "going to a person's birth is a lifelong event. When I choose by myself, I can only explain my truth and should not interfere; In particular, he should not be forced to rebel against his parents. " Jiang Yang's respect for Qian Zhongshu and his family is beyond the reach of many partners. The most common mistake we make in love is to be too selfish and treat our partner as a part of ourselves, not as an independent person.
? Plain and regular is the normal state of life, but if two people can have fun together in life, then the small details in life will become the catalyst of emotion. Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang studied in England together after they got married. How to save money, how to move, how to study, how to have a daughter and so on all appear in the book. There is no flashy luxury, only real life. The two men slowly groped for how to make Chinese food with simple kitchen utensils and missing ingredients. Soy sauce is bitter and salty, shredded pork is cut with scissors, yellow wine is replaced by sherry, and matches are used to make a fire ... "We keep inventing and experimenting, and gradually move from primitive cooking to civilization and enter the stage of civilization." Life is dull and trivial, and the conditions are slightly difficult, but they are very satisfied, because they can enjoy cooking and learn life skills in the dull. "At that time, we were very happy, as if we had built a world." Love that can resist life and reality must be put into daily necessities. Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu provide us with an answer to how to keep the fun of life and the interest in love day after day and year after year.
The birth of daughter Qian Yuan brought new surprises to this family.
Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang never regard Qian Yuan as a child who is not sensible. On the contrary, they don't feel "condescending" when they look at money far away. They regard the child as an independent person. She was not only loved by her relatives, but also learned how to love others. Qian Yuan was very good at taking care of people since he was a child. "Zhong Shu lives in the city, but she didn't let me take care of Ah Yuan, but told Ah Yuan to take care of her mother. A yuan promised responsibly ... it's ridiculous to say that A yuan is such a small child. I am accompanied by her, just like Zhong Shu, I am not afraid at all. " Once grandpa fell asleep in bed, woke up to see Xiao Yuanyuan at his feet, tucked his horns and covered his feet, and then read quietly. Xiao Yuanyuan's understanding and cleverness won grandpa's love. As an only child, Qian Yuan was not taken care of excessively. She does what she can consciously. "Ah Yuan goes home every weekend and never refuses to take dirty clothes home by the list for aunt to wash. She learned to take a bath by herself. "
Nowadays, the society is so eager for quick success and instant benefit that even children should be encouraged to "don't lose at the starting line". Parents have become the potential starting line for children, and parents have become the key to their success, but many people ignore the exploration of their own potential, such as self-confidence. Qian Yuan was in poor health and dropped out of school at home. Jiang Yang personally served as her mentor. "Algebra is getting more and more complicated, and I want to be lazy. I said to a yuan,' mom can't keep up, can you do it yourself?' She is obedient and can teach herself. One day I asked her if she could teach herself, and she said yes. I am not at ease in a few days. Tell her what's the problem as soon as possible, or I really can't keep up. She confidently said that she would. "Later, Qian Yuan got full marks in algebra. Jiang Yang's education of children inspires us to reflect. Nowadays, parents always think that children are not smart enough, not good enough, and have insufficient trust in their children, which leads to too much management and less time for free growth.
? "From then on, we will only die, and there will be no separation." Qian Zhongshu, Jiang Yang and Qian Yuan made the best footnotes for "love" with their lifelong dependence.