When a child enters the kindergarten, especially a child who stays in the kindergarten for 7-8 hours all day, he should get along with the children in the kindergarten, understand the teacher's words, eat two meals in the kindergarten and take a nap. In other words, children's eating, drinking, Lazarus and communication habits will be seen or touched by others!
Therefore, the first three years of a child's life are really crucial, and parents can't attach too much importance to it!
It is said that the best way to love someone is to eat with him many times!
1, let children get used to eating with their families.
Our parents in China can have three meals a day, which is very important to cultivate their children's eating habits! Breakfast saves time, you can eat simple milk cereal, you can eat hot rice at noon, and when dad comes back from work for dinner, the family will spend more time eating together.
If the whole family can eat at the dining table in the morning, noon and evening, then children will soon get into the habit of eating at designated places! In fact, this habit is very challenging, not every parent can do it!
In Germany, many parents think it is more important to let their children play. For example, in Germany, it is 9 o'clock in summer, and children don't want to go home when they are playing in the playground, so their mothers have no time to cook dinner. Therefore, children may have to chew bread and eat yogurt at night. We Chinese mothers all think that this can't be eaten!
2. Let children like to eat with their families.
If there are brothers and sisters, everyone should at least get along well when eating. No matter who you are, you can't talk too much or vent bad emotions just because you are in a bad mood today, which will ruin the good mood of the family to eat together!
To do this, parents should also take the lead. Remember that eating is the best time for a family to enhance their feelings, not the scene where parents preach or finally make their children cry.
When eating, parents or children, in principle, put their mobile phones in the chicken farm. Everyone can talk about interesting things about children's school or topics that everyone likes, and don't argue about a certain point of view or something at the dinner table.
3. Let the children eat happily with their families.
First of all, let the children eat happily, without pressure, burden and distraction! When I was young, children loved to eat while playing. After the age of three, you should learn to gradually concentrate on eating and express happiness!
Here, Xia would like to thank my husband in particular. He is a staunch advocate of "the whole family should have dinner together", so we have to sit at the table every day. Even if you order takeaway pizza occasionally, you will set plates, knives, forks and cups, and the family will sit down and have a leisurely meal!
2. Get along with family: Communicate smoothly with others and feel at ease at home.
There are many ways for family members to get along with each other, and every bit in daily life may become a candy or Huang Lian between family members!
1, scientific toilets also need to be studied hard, and the performance of others should also be considered.
German household cleaning is basically done by myself. The general division of labor is that men do kitchen or garden work, and cleaning the bathroom or washing and ironing is undertaken by women in principle.
I thought Diego could use the toilet normally when he returned to Germany at the age of four and a half. Our request to him is that every time you stand to urinate, you should pump up the toilet seat, otherwise the toilet seat is dirty and everyone can't sit down and use it! The funny thing is that he did it when the toilet seat was inflated, but occasionally he forgot to flush it!
My mother once shared her experience with him seriously, flushing before going to the toilet and lifting her pants after using it, which is not easy to forget. The little boy smiled shyly and said that the teacher also said, "No matter boys or girls, please flush the toilet first and then lift your pants!" " "
2, can manage their emotions, talk appropriately, and have strong expression and communication skills.
I remember that we spent half a year learning "the correct way to lose our temper" from our son, and then slowly corrected his shortcoming of "everything comes first". Later, he laughed more and more, and he became more cheerful and sunny. When I graduated from kindergarten, he was the teacher's best assistant. At home, he was also my sister's favorite brother.
My sister was sulking all the time when she first entered kindergarten at the age of 3. When we find out, we will role-play or draw with her, so that she can learn to tell others when she is angry, speak out when she has ideas, and share the reasons for crying boldly!
3. Have a sense of security and be at ease with your family.
The two brothers and sisters were two years apart, and the two children soon became each other's closest friends. The two brothers and sisters were in a mixed-age class when they went to kindergarten, so both children can consciously do "brother takes care of sister, and sister helps brother" at home or outside. Even if there are disputes or emotions, they will solve them immediately!
My elder brother is 100% boy and my elder sister is 100% girl. They are so different, but they are all so different. They go out together at school every day. If the school hours are the same, they will make an appointment to go home together!
Three: The life track of you and your children, whether prosperous or lonely, is the sum of your different habits.
Finally, share a story about the toilet lid:
She cried her eyes out, and the toilet seat was just an innocent medium.
Yaya is a post-80s generation who grew up in Shanghai. She is an only child. Her mother is an official cadre, highly effective and knowledgeable! Her father comes from a remote rural area. After graduating from college, he stayed in Shanghai and was assigned to work in an office. My father is five years older than my mother, tall and powerful, with strong professional ability and eager to learn. His career was once bright.
Yaya has been envied by other children since she was a child, saying that her parents are very powerful, but only she knows what kind of suffering her parents have experienced at home, that is, after closing the door!
Yaya's mother loves cleanliness. There are not only tablecloths and sofa cover at home, but also bedspreads for beds and even warm flannel covers for toilet seats! As Yaya grew up, she repeatedly saw her father maliciously stepping on the carpet in his outer shoes, or leaning on the bed to watch his mobile phone without changing clothes. When she screamed like a mother, the middle-aged man looked provocative: "I am like this, what can you do to me!" "
In order to keep the toilet seat clean, my mother specially bought a light color one. When Yaya was in her teens, her father often forgot to pick up the toilet seat, and even splashed it on the toilet seat flannel when she was standing to urinate. Every time my mother bent down to wash the dirty toilet seat, Yaya saw her father whistling proudly more than once!
Yaya advised her mother to divorce. This man is not worth changing the toilet seat again and again! Mom said that your father is now in a critical period of promotion, and divorce will ruin his bright future!
Until Yaya 18 years old, my father's career was stable, my mother calmly bought another suite, and all the furniture was decorated. Yaya and I packed up some delicacies, left the house keys on the table and signed the divorce agreement!
Yaya and her mother lived alone for several years. Later, she had a boyfriend. She went to her boyfriend's house for the first time and used the bathroom after dinner. She found a flannel cover on his toilet seat. After careful use, she used it to lift the toilet seat again! She paused for a moment, thinking that she hadn't seen her father for years. I wonder if the toilet seat he is using now has a flannel cover!
She cried when she remembered it!
After going out, her boyfriend saw her eyes were red and swollen, so he went to the bathroom to check and asked her, "Did you just lift the toilet seat?" Yaya was quite surprised, and her boyfriend smiled. "The three of us, my father and I put down the toilet seat after going to the toilet, and let my mother use the toilet directly!"
Fan Xiao, nicknamed hero, media person, German parent-child parenting tutor, vice chairman of Sino-German Nature Education Society, and personal brand consultant of mom. Raising children 15 years, wrote three best-selling books on parenting, with over 2 million fans on the whole network, and was also the initiator of "Towards 100 years old"!