First, why are children stubborn?

1, because of personality.

Just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, every child is born different. They not only have different appearances, but also have their own distinct personalities. Some children are naturally quiet, while others are naturally active; Some children are smart and quiet, while others are aggressive. Therefore, some children have a stubborn temper, which may be due to natural perfection and his personality.

A grumpy child always has an extraordinary insistence on what he cares about, revealing a temperament of "never giving up until he reaches his goal". If some things in life do not reach their ideal state, these children will use their strong subjective initiative to achieve it, which is a kind of "bad temper" in the eyes of others.

2. Controlling parents

There is an old saying: "Children are a mirror of their parents." This means that some children's performances are actually copies of their parents' usual behaviors. If the child is stubborn, there may be a pair of strong parents behind him. Because parents are the nurturers of children and the closest people to accompany them, they have an extremely important influence on their words and deeds.

Through observation, we can find that a pair of parents with strong desire for control always control their children in life, and sometimes even reduce their freedom. In the long run, children will feel oppressed and have a certain rebellious mentality. The concrete manifestations are as follows: parents point to the east, but are determined to face the west; Do what your parents forbid you to do.

3, self-awareness.

As children grow up, their self-awareness will gradually increase and their spirit will become full directly. Therefore, when children have some "grumpy" behaviors, parents may want to think about it: Is the child's self-awareness increasing?

When children are young, parents always think that children have no self-awareness and need their parents' full guidance and education. As we all know, the germination of children's self-awareness is a process. In this process, there will be some contradictions and conflicts with parents' education. Parents and friends must respect their children's self-awareness, so as to treat their stubborn temper correctly.

Second, what setbacks do children who are prone to losing their temper suffer?

We can't deny that sometimes, if we want to accomplish something, we really need the spirit of "not hitting the south wall and not looking back" and "though there are thousands of people, I will go on". However, Marx once said, "Everything has two sides." Children's bad temper, on the other hand, will also bring some obstacles and setbacks to their lives.

1, opinionated and inflexible

Some children are naturally stubborn and stick to their own opinions, so it is difficult to listen to other people's opinions or suggestions. This kind of behavior is actually dangerous, because if you are too stubborn, you will become blind and can't hear different voices, which means you will lose another vision, which is fatal to success.

2, miss the opportunity

Now the world is changing rapidly, and time is opportunity. If a person is too stubborn in one thing and delays too much time, he will miss the best opportunity to change his mind and succeed. Therefore, if a child is stubborn from an early age and has not been properly corrected, then when he grows up, he may miss the opportunity because of this personality characteristic, thus adding some obstacles to his success.

3. How can smart parents help their children get rid of bad temper?

1, give children a good demonstration.

Practice is the best education for children. If parents want their children to get rid of bad temper, they can set a good example for their children. For example, in life, parents encounter thorny problems and can solve them in many ways.

Ask more, collect more information, listen to other people's opinions, and then make a comprehensive judgment and think calmly. Such an idea of solving problems can help children learn to be flexible in specific cases, so as to get rid of stubborn opinions in a subtle way.

Step 2 stick to principles

Sometimes parents spoil their children too much and promise them whatever they want, so that they will become more and more powerful. Therefore, parents should establish some hard principles and standards while loving their children. If the child crosses the line, parents should immediately give him a clear warning and punishment. This can make children understand that things in the world can't be solved by their bad temper.

3. Give children more choices.

A child with a bad temper is actually equivalent to walking into a dead end. At this time, parents and friends as bystanders can help children have more choices. For example, if a child is clamoring to go to an amusement park in the scorching sun, parents can discuss with the child, "It's so hot, you go out for heatstroke and feel uncomfortable, and then go for infusion. If we really want to play, why not choose a comfortable weather? " Through such guidance and choice, children can learn to be flexible and learn to make the best choice.

Only this trick is needed to change a stubborn child.

First, when the baby loses his temper, find the reason for starting his temper.

Babies of this age still lack expressive ability. They can only express what they want and don't want, but they can't express why.

At this time, what parents need to do is not to completely deny it, but to calm down and find out why Chu Baobao did it. After finding out the reason, give the child a patient explanation. If it is right, parents should support it. If it is wrong, parents should communicate with their children. Don't force them with a tough tone. This will aggravate the child's rebellious mentality and will be more resistant to parents. This period is also a period of shaping children's character, and the guidance of parents is more important.

Second, children are stubborn and look for reasons from their parents.

At this stage, the baby is in the imitation period and will imitate the behavior of parents to some extent. The baby can't tell which is right and which is wrong. For example, when father and mother get along, they can't communicate very gently, and maybe children will choose a more rude way to get along. For example, mothers often accuse their fathers, and perhaps children will follow suit. The family atmosphere in which children grow up is more important to the formation of children's character.

When parents feel that their children's stubborn temper is bothering them, they will also look for reasons from themselves, whether some of their own practices have given their children the wrong guidance.

Third, in the face of children's bad temper, you can neither treat them coldly nor spoil them blindly.

This requires parents to balance their relationship with their children. When a child loses his temper, if the parents ignore the child, the child will feel unloved, but if he is completely satisfied with crying, the child will feel that his crying has played a role and will be more serious next time. Spoiling is sometimes the root of bad temper, which is more obvious in intergenerational education.

This process requires mastering a degree. For example, when a child is crying, it can be treated with cold treatment first, so that the child can cry for a while and vent his emotions. Then parents can hold their children and tell them that it is wrong. If you are a principled parent, you must adhere to the principle and establish a correct sense of independence for your child.

In the matter of educating children, parents play a very important role in their childhood and are also very important for their future growth. It is necessary to master the correct parenting methods and cultivate their high emotional intelligence.