Communicate with two people

Chen Jingli Jianlin

Understand the basic situation and encourage support (emotional connection)

1. I'm very busy at work recently. How's it going?

Share one's feelings

1. Affirm students' behavior (approval)

2. Tell your family that marriage is a big deal (enter life) (give real support to gain trust)

3. Write a summary of the conversation (learn to be grateful for good habits)

The next day Shen Xiaoting

First, the current problem design question: I feel unprepared and look for specific reasons to support it.

Preparing students to tell the truth may stimulate you to know without telling me.

1. Children's situation 2. Husband's situation

3. Work situation

The two tutors shared their feelings.

1. Give students specific requirements (interact with the group) to see if they are determined (attach importance to the direction of trust).

2. Look at what she has really done and give strength support (encouragement).

3. Give the teaching assistants another chance to communicate, one hour more than other teaching assistants. Let the students feel that the tutor is responsible for him and cherish it very much.

the third day

1. Hong Erbin

How do you feel after listening to their communication? (Understand students' expectations)

Recognition increased by 70% compared with last year (positive)

Student: Why did you choose me? Everyone else is excellent. What can I do?

If you are well prepared, you will have the opportunity to follow Mr. Li. You got lost and thought that anyone who knew you would help you. I saw your determination at the meeting (cherish recognition)

Student: I feel that I am not doing very well, just starting from scratch.

Understand the students' situation

1. What's your plan for this half year?

Major+Influence Teacher Li's books are worse than some scholars, and his previous studies were not solid.

Affect the teaching assistant work of Oriental Moon. Can everyone recognize me? I haven't thought too much about how to do it.

The park has a certain influence in the local area, so that more people know whether to be a community or not.

2. What did you do during the two weeks with the teaching assistant?

Establish links, introduce yourself, guide students to discuss (refute the difficulty of registration, organize exercises), and cooperate with assistants. Half of the students are not active because they are busy with their work.

3. How firm is the road to education? What is an ideal education?

Along this road, Oriental Rain is falling all decided to do family education before coming out. She wants to learn education from Miss Li and spread it all over the country. It is also possible that Oriental Rain is falling all will work with her tutor. I didn't know what to do until six months ago, when I saw her life rising. Discuss with your husband why you should do education. I want to help others. I'm tired of hearing about making money. I hope to be a mentor in the future.

Second, sharing

Will you meet Miss Li? Ask yourself.

Now it's my turn to talk. There are still 9 minutes (which will be cherished by the students). What I say will stimulate you and let you see how big your adjustment will be, how strong I will be and how confident I am to help you.

Observing what their children want to do, they will say: but many, their desires are great and ambitious, I want to do it, but I hesitate? You can't see Da Li unless you change it. You need to walk step by step and cross the river without building a good boat. You imagine yourself crossing the river, and your own practice is not correct. What kind of psychology do you hear? Understand the students.

What exactly should I do?

I won't tell you, you can find that you have the heart to help others that others don't have.

Dali education knows but can't do it, and it will blame itself. This is my bottleneck.

I can't tell you. I told you it was my decision. What kind of psychology are you in now? There is no way out, and this problem must be solved.

Give yourself a day, comb it well, send it to me when you finish, and I'll tell you.

Psychological extreme is very good, I want to find a reason to live in the middle and don't want to do it.

This morning's harvest: find the villain in the dark. You push me behind my back, I can't retreat.

It is the person who pushes you behind your back who is moved by you to become a mentor.

How responsible you are to yourself, I will be responsible for you and share your gains with the group.

2. Lu Lili

The job I asked you to give me last time? Busy? Or have you forgotten? I haven't forgotten. I'm preparing carefully.

1. What did you think after the phone call that day? I'd love to Mentally, there are delays and unwillingness, and I want to improve myself.

2. Talk about the family growth of individual children, 10 minutes.

domestic

Communicate with parents and think that it is too casual to take care of children, such as talking about children at the dinner table. My mother and I communicate more, so we need to communicate more. My father always criticizes, studies and educates. Why should he take care of the children? Psychological discomfort

Children have difficulty taking a nap.

Grow up? There is a special major that I don't want to take for graduate school, but I still don't understand that I don't have my own ideas in front of authority and have no sense of boundaries with my husband and mother-in-law. I have adjusted this point after the quarrel. I am good at studying psychology and pedagogy now. Seeing the feedback from everyone in the group, I feel that I am growing too slowly.

3. Feedback to the General Assembly's own speech

By understanding the situation of students' homework, we should lead them to demonstrate to Ba Xueyuan first and let go. Don't feel rushed. I feel that students are less preaching and treat children. The same problem makes students feel that they are not only earning credits, but also benefiting from their own growth. Seeing others sharing, grasping the rhythm and introducing yourself are already halfway through.

4. Do you plan to join the teaching assistant within six months?

Please take half a day off at home every week and do it at a fixed time. Allow yourself to make mistakes and don't entangle. It is better to put your daily work in the morning, improve your study and share it with your parents.

In terms of energy and time, it is possible.

5. What is the specific increase? Two minutes

I can accept other people's advice and look at problems objectively. With Miss Li, I will see that my mind has improved and my sensitivity has improved. I need to improve my major and relax my tone when communicating with others.

Feedback for 20 minutes

Talking to you, we are so much alike. In a few years, we will become like me. Before I was blessed, I lived for others. Now I live for myself. Your work will be adjusted and realized in the second half of my life. Life is arranged.

Pull you back, work is more important than children, and you should follow the laws of nature. All study and work is to be a good mother. There is no such thing as doing the most important thing for a mother. Students give their children feedback.

If you don't adjust your child's 10 age, there will be problems and a deep connection with your child. If you don't understand her, the child will despair.

Choosing you alone is too much like me, just like my nervous and stupid mind is blank in front of Miss Li. I have crossed the barriers of my parents and need to go door to door. I put 50% of my efforts into my children. The greatest competitiveness in this world is children. When you receive things, you will go all out and put them down again and again, and they will grow.

How much help I can give you depends on your actions, how much confidence you have, and how much effort I will give you.

Your stage is to explore emotional boundaries at the age of 4 to 5, and a person ends at the age of 0 to 6.

Today, when I go to buy a skirt, I often wear a casual scrub to exercise. I feel a girl's heart. When I am 50 years old, my children will be very happy. My mother is so beautiful that my husband will think my wife is very feminine.

When you meet me, you feel that you are right and kind, otherwise your future life will be simple and rude, short and dull, and you will collapse at a bottleneck, feeling that many people don't understand you.

You did well, but you didn't realize it. How tight do you tighten your own screws? You left your child's husband behind. Life is thinking with your brain, but education is thinking with your brain. Next summer, you will be on the same frequency, which will not affect our communication. You are pursuing the quality of the soul. We will learn to relax at the same frequency in front of me. Don't worry. Our chat will make our minds brighter. We have a lot of things in our heads.

On the 6th, I will set myself up in two time periods and tell me what to do next. I will tell you that the company has made great efforts to train teaching assistants to be completely relaxed, open and strong with me.

Thank yourself for being kind and wise, meet the same people, learn to communicate, learn to ask for help, and learn to show weakness.

The fourth day

Li Jianli

One? Understand the students' situation

1. What was the meeting that day?

Didn't you do anything? But their own positioning, what is their role? Some people are worried and afraid. After listening to the meeting, they relaxed a lot and interacted with the group attentively. Don't think too much. A student is staggered, and a student pays in the group irregularly. When he sees a problem, he will interact. The two male students have no private contact and communication. The reason is that they are not confident and afraid of making mistakes, encouraging them to refuse to sign up. This week, their hearts were not tired or nourished.

2. What is the plan for this half year?

Instruct everyone to spend time on their major and let students set learning goals.

Let everyone see the warmth and care of the Oriental Moon Platform, and don't want to be separated.

Know your major thoroughly, help yourself and help others.

3. Talking about the relationship with children

The two babies are 6.3 years old and have a good family relationship. My husband is very supportive of them. When the second child is born, the problem will be discussed. On weekends, I will spend a lot of time and energy with them in a planned way. After the working children sleep, I will put away my mobile phone on the subway and go home. I will stay with my second child for 2-3 hours when he is born. The first child also sleeps together. Parent-child relationship comes first.

4. Relationship with Mr.

Trust is good. Family of origin's parents complain and quarrel with each other. They don't want the parental model. Actually, husbands get along. Before, they had a vague sense of disrespect, but now they still control it. All aspects are considered, pointing to her husband's slowness and not doing well. Her husband will tolerate her work and support my parents-in-law. There is no particularly great resistance.

5. Relationship with parents

I have no courage to solve the problem with my parents. When I was young, I was loved by my father. My brother thinks getting married is someone else's business. If I am in trouble, I will ask my parents to help me. My brother disagreed that my parents didn't come. My brother is eight years older than himself. He studies very well. I didn't tell my parents about the difficulties and sadness in my son's life. When the second child is born, I will blame my parents and buy more than 6 million houses. My brother refuses to borrow money from his parents. Finally, I gave it the next year, and my mother gave it back to my brother. I was very sad. I tried to pay back the money. My mother was ill and asked her friend for help. I'm not the first person to tell her about her illness. I will go to see a doctor and ask my parents that they are not very close to me and will not refuse something that makes me sad. Ask them not to tell themselves.

My father lost his mother when he was born, and my grandmother married her older grandfather for the second time.

Evaluate yourself

Good: I have requirements for myself and will try my best to achieve something. If I can help my friends, I will help them. I will invite them to my house to buy fruit and put the big Li course on TV to study together.

Bad: I don't care about my husband's feelings when I achieve my goal. If you don't understand your parents, it should be your own problem. You are willing to take care of others' feelings, but you can't do it yourself. Speaking of parents, they are very hurt.

Two peaches feedback

You will give you nervous feedback, so will I. When I see the real you at the meeting, I will be under pressure to send you a message and discover a secret. I'll tell you today that I'm afraid of having a huge psychological impact on you (empathy).

Only when you see the problem can you communicate one-on-one and really want to help you. If you don't solve your own problems, learning and education is like duckweed without taking root. Seeing that you are working hard for your family, you especially blame yourself. You can't give them love in your heart and you can't let go of your 35-year-old mentality, so your mental state will continue. If you want to control everything in other people's minds, you will have problems around the age of 42. If you don't solve the problem, it will affect your children. One of them is very sensitive, and

Ask yourself if you really want to help you. You don't trust anyone. You don't trust your husband and children. It takes 5-6 years to adjust your inner distrust and insecurity before you are 6 years old. Everything you do is to establish your own sense of security, strive to establish a sense of security in the team, and learn to gain a sense of security in education (the key issue is awakening).

Relationship with parents? 100% has a problem. Every time they want to do it well, they cut it off again and want to do it well. The victim is psychologically strong and vengeful. The relationship with parents can't be solved, and the relationship with children can't be handled well. Parents are the first relationship, just like an apple with a heart problem. If it's not solved, it won't be solved. I'm telling you, you're scared

If the problem is not solved, it will consume your energy and you will not feel the happiness of life. Both children are afraid of you. If you don't trust anyone, nobody really cares about you. You are loved and warm. You don't accept yourself. You have to accept yourself and feel sorry for yourself (the guidance you need to do)

Don't look out, you are looking out. You can't go into battle easily if you don't put it down. Just cross the threshold of parents first.

Will you find out what I said at the student meeting that day? Your speech is perfect, and the more perfect it is, the bigger the problem will be (increasing trust)

The company has spent so much energy to help you. I left my garden to more than 200 people by myself, and the education healed itself. Teacher Li practiced for a while before everyone kept crying in class. Don't question me (learn to cherish)

How are you feeling? Talk to the group and ask the next group to wait for 5 minutes (students' feedback to understand their perception and acceptance)

My relationship with my parents also needs to be adjusted.

Take your time. Don't question me. I will take a big step.

I didn't realize I didn't trust you until I finished today.

You relax completely and then do it. If you are wrong, I will help you solve it. Don't be afraid to express it truthfully. For example, Teacher Taozi, while you are enjoying the teaching assistant's job, you are also dealing with your own problems. I feel that if you make it clear today, it will not hurt so much to talk about your parents. After talking to you for so long today, I feel that you are very similar to me in some ways. I'll hang up when others arrive so that I can say thank you to Zhu Mei.

Zhu Mei University teacher.

Why not change the WeChat avatar? (Emotional link of family chat)

With the first three times, your state is much better than before. How many days did it take to sort out the minutes of the meeting?

I use the Iflytek input method mentioned by Mr. Qian Qi intermittently. I think you need to record everything you say with so much experience.

I was very moved and proud to see the minutes of the meeting. I sent them to my boss at the first time and said, How long did it take? You are the most lovable of the eight teaching assistants, and you will not communicate with other teaching assistants in this way. Just do it (I'm sure I appreciate the strength).

The contention for the position of teaching assistant is what Mr. A Liang said. All the undertakings of Lotus Buddha are brave. The message conveyed in the registration group is care and warmth. I feel taller than the students. I am a service person. Everyone needs companionship and encouragement to get along more comfortably with students.

Students call their assistants, give themselves time to get to know each other, treat them sincerely, and they will ponder when they have time.

Tao: What can you say in front of me?

The first interview was twice, and the plan was written on 16 pages?

There is an educational kingdom in your brain (identify deep links again)

When I was a teacher in college, a child was very anxious and had a lot on his mind. She doesn't know what to do with him. Later, she graduated and helped a boy.

Two puzzles of teaching assistants

1. Whether I can balance work and family will worry me.

If you want to learn more, you will be comfortable listening to a little every day, and you will be anxious if you don't listen.

Two peaches feedback

I don't ask why you want to express what you need to express.

If you choose, you can't have your cake and eat it. If you have any problems, you can communicate and solve them in the first time. I feel that you are the only one among the eight teaching assistants who can carry out the educational spirit of Ba Academy (face it).

The problem is procrastination, not that your husband didn't give you enough psychological strength. In the future, you will be a very good educational consultant. If you don't move, others will come to you (students move). You are the only one who sent flowers. Are recognized. You are two or three steps ahead of other teaching assistants in education.

My body is working and my heart is thinking. Let's talk about it when it happens.

What is the goal of combing yourself for half a year?

Only by doing things can we find problems and know how to help.

(Ask while watching)

Fifth day

a surname

Understand the basic situation

Introduce yourself, family, children and husband-wife relationship.

1. Worked as a human resource, gave birth to children, left the enterprise to study, 16, 17, 10 for three months, and didn't intend to do anything with your own advantages? pay

2. The child is 3 years old

Have a certain foundation at work, and you can only raise it if you have children. The pattern of learning how to eat a child is full of energy. After hearing the secrets of childhood, you want to be friends with your child, but it will be much better if you communicate with your child for the last time.

3. Family

My mother-in-law is very powerful. Couples will participate in raising children for master's and doctor's degree. The whole family is relatively balanced and not picky about her mother-in-law. With my husband's emotional support, I saw the principle of family management when I was studying in college and began to use it with my family.

Peach: You do human resources and I do education. The most important thing is practice. At the last meeting, we found that everyone needed help. Please report to the company that this is a course and tell us the specific details.

Teaching assistant: children will use picture books to guide time to prepare things. I will go to different places on the roof according to the children's requirements. In ten days, I will let the children brush their teeth independently, and the children will not reason with them. I don't care if the children brush their teeth independently, and then they can do it at night.

Eat, mother-in-law, feed, communicate with mother-in-law, stop feeding, take her away.

When a child cries, he will wait for me or hold the child.

If you don't follow the requirements in your parents' house, you will be considered as a child who is not sensible. When you go to your parents' house, you will be afraid.

For example, children will say that I can't read.

Peach: Yes, it's completely open.

Teaching assistant: relationship between husband and wife

My husband graduated in 2008, and I am a sophomore in the school club. At that time, my working status was full of people. Husband goes with the flow and feels inferior inside. My lover pays attention to me, and I will take the initiative to pay attention. I don't want to be noticed by boys. I took a fancy to my husband's association with him and was led by me. I said he listened, and he was comfortable. He was honest and didn't talk about him without judgment. I love sports, learn from human resources evaluation, and give him a good assessment of his mental quality. After graduating from college, I was divided into two places and got married. I have the financial resources to get a doctorate. When I have children, everyone will participate, and I won't let one party pay a balanced trust. What I got was unconditional support, encouraging tolerance 12 years and improving my personality. My husband put down his glasses before marriage and only looked at the advantages. Coming from a family makes me anxious.

Peach: Relationship with parents. This half-year plan, half-year understanding, has a certain understanding of your trust and security. You can't tell people who don't know directly, which will make others have a different understanding.

1. Let go of some work and give your child 60% company.

I feel that I have 6.70% children and 2.30% children are working.

The body is working and the heart is accompanying the child. Don't raise children with books. Be a human resource who understands personality characteristics.

You are so controlling that you will ignore your feelings. You don't really know your children. Children over 2 years old cry for a while and want you to give her support and strength. Crying is a powerful child. You hate children crying, which is a sign of weakness. Constantly wake up the child and make her a crying child. Your dislike comes from your mother's feeling that crying is not good and she doesn't like laughing. If he falls, we will help the baby with a smile and say it's okay, and the baby will feel fine. I don't want to see it. I think adults are laughing at him. Children don't want to see the old man smile.

It is inevitable that you should repair your relationship with your parents. To repair, you need to have a period of youth rebellion in front of your parents. This is my years of experience, and education is a tool.

Sort out every point today, distinguish the second place, take your time, take different roads to different points to solve different problems,

Teaching assistant, is my desire for control insecure? Tao: This is a gift that you have to seize all your life. It will help if you use it well.

Your husband is better at raising children than you are. People say I take care of children like Montessori. This is a realm. You can take a video of your husband playing with his children and compare it with the video of you playing with your children. Otherwise, you will keep going, and the last thing children want to see in the rebellious period of youth is you.

If you don't accept your husband, you will have disrespect, and this disrespect will be absorbed by your child. When your mother is strong and your father is weak, you need to feel the unity of knowing and doing with your children.

I was in control before, and it took me three years to fix it, adjust my schedule, dine with my husband, and make plans to raise children. Teacher Li said that I have the qualities of a yogi. You too. Today I want to talk to you about the deep-seated problems in life. In other places, 90% of them were restored in the Oriental Moon Club 100 and10. One day you will suddenly realize that you can do a good education anywhere.

You share today's communication in the group, and then comb one for me. It was nice talking to you.

I also know the direction map for the rest of my life, and every difficulty needs to be experienced.

I have followed Mr. Li for more than ten years, so I know everything.

The tutor's state is gentle and caring for other well-trained teachers, which is what I want.

Happiness and happiness (imagine your future)

The last chat has the longest beneficial time, which is the fate between us.