Parents should not only teach, but also know how to learn and learn the compulsory courses in everyone's life well. In the process of educating children, they also need to constantly absorb new knowledge to deal with problems better.
For the sake of children, parents should learn to love and guide their children in the right way, instead of just paying attention to their food, clothing, housing and transportation and never wanting to go into their hearts.
Parents of different ages should enjoy different parental love, which is the scale that parents need to grasp. Education should be personalized, because every child is unique. From hunger to babbling to toddler, children lack basic cognition and the ability to distinguish right from wrong and resist external harm in their fragile early childhood. Just like a grass that just broke ground, it is very fragile and can't stand any hardships of wind, frost, rain and snow.
At this time, children need the careful care of their parents. The love between parents and children is the best umbrella for young and ignorant children, and parents can better escort their growth. Parents can also get a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment from their children's happy growth.
But when children grow up and enter childhood or even adolescence, parents should learn to restrain their love.
Give them more space to play and explore freely, instead of forcibly tying children around, restricting their words and deeds or even punishing them easily in the name of protection.
Scientific education can become the driving force for children's growth, otherwise excessive doting may become the resistance to children's growth and even ruin their future.
Love should have temperature and reason. The hardest thing to grasp in love is emotion. It's normal to love children, but parents don't have to let their children be little princes and princesses forever. Unconsciously, it is actually a kind of harm to their future. Love with strong feelings is irrational, and it can be said that it is selfish in the name of love. It is the spiritual destruction and imprisonment of children.
Parents should learn to tolerate their children's mistakes with a rational mind, allow their children to do behaviors that do not meet their expectations, encourage their children to correct their mistakes with a gentle attitude, and let them do what they think is right spontaneously and consciously, rather than what their parents tell them to do.
Education should encourage children to give full play to their life instincts and do things according to their own hearts. Too much restraint and control in the name of love is not true love.
Smart love is to let children fly alone in their own blue sky. No success can make up for the failure in the process of educating children. Encouragement and praise can bring confidence and strength to children, and personalized education is the best for children.
Children's behavior is not taught, but imitated and influenced.
Listen to children's voices and don't judge their behavior directly. Listening is the best communication. Love children as they are rather than asking them to become what they want.
Communicate with children on a horizontal line, kneel down and look at each other instead of condescending. Forced repression will only bring more fierce resistance to children.
Spend more time with your children, instead of perfunctory things absently, and you can't just entertain yourself and don't want to listen to your children for more than ten minutes. Only with real patient companionship can children feel the warmth of love.
In education, we should learn to control our emotions, empathize with children, and handle every moment well, instead of being upset about the past and worrying about the future. Such anxiety will affect the normal education methods. Temper and violence show parents' incompetence and harm to children.
We should learn to deal with the relationship between family members, create a harmonious and stable family atmosphere, and don't let the contradiction between husband and wife and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law hurt the feelings with children. Only a harmonious family relationship is the best atmosphere to establish a good educational environment.
It is not only the responsibility of the school to learn more about parenting, improve educational ability and make children become talents. Parents also need good help. Children of any age will face problems. They need the guidance of their parents to lead them out of the fog and get guidance.