American psychologist John Watson invented a kind of? Crying immunity? The new parenting theory, that is to say, when a baby cries, don't hold it right away, hold it later, or wait until he stops crying. As time goes on, children will gradually stop crying. However, this theory is wrong. When a child cries, he needs to feel the presence of his parents and hope to get a sense of security from them. Within a few months after the baby was born, he was communicating with his parents. At this time, if you respond to him, he will interact with the outside world more actively.
Therefore, crying is the most effective way for babies to communicate with us in a certain period of time. At this time, it is necessary to appease the child in time, hug the child and coax the child. Therefore, crying is to express their needs to us. If you don't respond to your child at this time, your child's own needs will not be solved, which will affect your child's growth.
Furthermore, if the baby can't stop crying for a long time, it will easily lead to suffocation of the baby, so parents can not hug the baby when crying, but they must appease him and let him feel your existence. When a child cries, we should find the reason to see if he is hungry, or his clothes are not suitable, and so on. Observe the baby carefully and learn to distinguish the baby's crying needs.
Therefore, I think it is not advisable to teach children not to hug when crying. In the first three months of the baby's life, there is no memory point, so try to meet their requirements. When the child cries, we should hug him and comfort him in time. When the baby grows up, we can let him feel the existence of his parents and give him a response, but we can pat him gently to find out the real reason why the child is crying.
To sum up, it is wrong to teach children not to hug when they cry. We should establish a relationship with our children and respond to some of their needs in time, so that the baby's emotions will be mobilized and the outside world will be actively explored.