Family education experience 1
Family is children's first school, parents are children's first teachers, and they are also role models for children to learn during their growth, so good family education plays a vital role in children's life. When children were born, I attached great importance to their family education. Of course, I don't just teach my children to recite a few Tang poems, read a few children's songs and know a few Chinese characters, but teach them the truth and skills of dealing with people, so that they can develop a person with healthy mind and sound personality. Of course, for children who are only over two years old, vague teaching of abstruse truth can't make him understand the meaning, and children naturally won't understand it, so they need to start from bit by bit in life.
(A) The first is to create a good family environment.
Family harmony is very important for children's growth. Love between family members will help children learn tolerance, understanding, love, love others and love themselves. Without the care of family, children will become more and more indifferent and selfish. I have seen many cases, such as children's depravity and numbness, all because of the lack of love in the family. Imagine a child who doesn't even love his parents and family, will he still care about strangers? Therefore, we must create a warm and harmonious family life for our children and let them live a happy and worry-free life.
(2) Parents should set an example.
In family education, parents are role models for children, and their words and deeds will have a great influence on children inadvertently. Therefore, when parents ask their children to be polite and respect others, can they think about whether they have done this? I remember once, Han Han made a mistake, and I severely reprimanded him and said some harsh words, saying that if you do this again, I will hit you. I didn't think there was a problem at first, but later he actually learned this sentence and kept saying that I hit you. This makes me regret and feel sad. I regret that I shouldn't have said this to my children before. Sadly, my child said this to my mother. Therefore, when children can still correct, we parents must be cautious and think twice about our every move. No matter how angry you are, think about what effect I will have on the children.
(3) Appropriate rewards and punishments, seeking truth from facts, children losing their temper, cold treatment.
If the child is right, we should praise him attentively, and if the child is wrong, we should correct him in time. Reward and punishment should be measured, and enough is enough. Although education experts advocate praising children more at present, I think this should be divided a little because I have personal experience. Han Han played with building blocks when he was one year old. It was a mistake, but I think he praised and encouraged him in the first game. I tried to promote his progress, but it backfired. Instead, I make mistakes every time I go on stage and become stubborn. No matter what I say, he still doesn't understand, which makes me feel that if I corrected him the first time he played, maybe it wouldn't be like this now. Therefore, I insist that parents should seek truth from facts when praising their children, and should not praise them blindly.
Of course, the criticism is more moderate. If you criticize too much, or even hit your child, your child will gradually become rebellious. The child did something wrong, but still insisted on using reason to persuade him that he could not turn over the old account. The most important thing is that what you say can make children understand and listen. When Han Han did something wrong, I always told him a lot of truth. As a result, he still went his own way. After listening to the recommendation of experts, children can understand what you say better, and don't say some vague truths. And when the child loses his temper willfully, he doesn't listen to anything you say, so my approach is to treat it coldly, let the child make trouble by himself, and parents can look on coldly. When the child feels that crying is meaningless, we will talk to him about it when he calms down, which is more effective.
Let him know that if you keep telling him this and that when he loses his temper, it will only aggravate the development of the situation. If the crying continues, then we can only take him away from the scene and distract the child, which may be better.
Let children learn to respect others.
Let children learn to respect others. First of all, parents should learn to respect their children. This is my consistent insistence. When Han Han was very young, I could squat down and listen to his advice. Some people may say what such a young child can think, but it is not. Although the child is young, he is still an individual. He has thoughts, and we should respect him more. For example, Han Han always brings toys when he goes out. At first, the child's grandfather always refused to let him bring toys, but after a long time, he didn't go out. Although the toy is put down, he will still cry for a long time. Now think about it, crying at that time may be because of dissatisfaction with the disrespect of adults. Then I discussed it with Han Han. At first, I discussed with him what toys to take out. Gradually, he took the initiative to discuss with me and became obedient.
Even outside, when Han Han is with his children, I will teach him to respect others. For example, if he sees other children's toys and wants to play with them, I will teach him to discuss with them, "If you don't play, can you give me the toys for a while?" When other children want his toys, I will teach him, "Give the toy to this child for a while, will you?" Everything depends on the child's own wishes, and the wishes of adults cannot be imposed. I've made such a mistake before. Playing with friends' children and seeing friends' children crying for toys from Han Han, I always grab Han Han's toys for other children without thinking, so Han Han has developed the habit of never giving up on toys. Even when I sleep, I cry as soon as I take it off. I think that's it.
Sometimes I hurt his self-esteem, and my disrespect for him has caused him serious consequences. Although Han Han gradually improved after the dilution of time, it had a great influence on me and made me introspect for a long time.
(5) Let children learn to do things by themselves as soon as possible and cultivate their working habits.
When Han Han just knew how to sit, we had put him on a stool to have dinner with his family. Although he couldn't eat by himself at that time, we insisted on showing him how adults eat, so Han Han slowly learned to eat by himself and learned to eat with chopsticks very early. He insists on doing everything he can at home, such as sweeping the floor, washing vegetables, taking chopsticks, moving stools and so on. Many parents think that what children can do at such a young age is getting busier and busier. In fact, it is certain that he can't do well, but as long as he participates, if you always stop him from working, he will feel that his mother doesn't need me, and over time he will no longer be willing to do it. Moreover, the cultivation of work habits will make him cherish the fruits of other people's labor more, such as not putting his toys around, not littering and so on.
(6) Create a learning environment for children and cultivate their study habits.
At one time, the family watched more TV, and Han Han watched more TV. Then I thought I couldn't do this anymore. So at this moment, my family learned to read, even if they didn't, so Han Han also learned to read. Although the time is not long, the habit is gradually formed, and it will be better to accumulate bit by bit. As the saying goes, it is better to go to Wan Li Road than to study in thousands of books, so I will take my children out for a walk whenever I have time. Learning knowledge in nature can make them better understand. Although education experts don't recommend children to learn ancient poems at such a young age, I think reading these poems can cultivate children's aesthetic feeling and sense of rhythm, although children don't understand them yet. As for children's songs and music, it is certainly beneficial to watch and listen more. The point is that Han Han likes them very much. I think it is most important to cultivate interest.
(7) Cultivate children's masculinity and don't spoil them.
Han Han's father is often in other places, and Han Han doesn't see his father several times a year, so my mother should be a good mother and the protagonist of a good father. So I always want to cultivate Han Han's masculinity intentionally or unintentionally, but I spoil him and spoil him. For example, when Han Han fell, I never helped him up. I always encourage him to fall and get up again, and then pat off the dirt. If it's broken, even if it hurts, it won't show. Just tell him it's okay. So at this moment, Han Han fell down. As long as it's not serious, he hardly cries. Instead, he comforted me and said, "Mom, I'm fine!" " Although it seems that I am cold-blooded, I think I did the right thing, especially for a boy, we must cultivate his strong character and not be cowardly.
The above is my family education experience. Again, every child is an independent individual, so every child has his own unique personality. There is no universal education, only every parent keeps exploring and practicing in family education. Some people say that children are the second life of parents, and parents also grow up in the process of children's growth. Let's grow up with them!
Family education experience II
There are no parents who are naturally successful, and there are no parents who don't need to learn. From the perspective of lifelong education, everyone is lifelong learning. Therefore, family education is different from how parents educate their children, but how each family member learns by himself and for life in this family.
Many parents think that if children work harder now and sacrifice their immediate happiness, they can get happiness in the future. The happiness of life is complete. If you sacrifice his youthful happiness, he can't have a happy life, and adults have no right to make this choice instead of children and sacrifice his youthful happiness.
3. Don't ask children at their own level. There are two contents. First, you are a successful person. You can't force your child to reach and surpass his own level. The second is to assume that there are still some defects in your life, and you can't use children as substitutes to make up for your life defects. This is the biggest problem of education in China, the core of which is that children are not regarded as an independent subject, a complete person with sound personality.
4. The achievements are just the boring figures boasted by vain people and feared by lazy people. You are neither vain nor lazy.
You can't eat walnut kernel if you don't break the walnut shell. Let the children suffer properly.
6. Playing games is also good, the key is how to play. Children have the final say at school and parents at home have the final say. Only in the game does he have the final say, so he has the motivation. Game spirit is three things: vitality, rules and innovation. We should cultivate this game spirit.
7. I am also looking forward to my child becoming a vice mayor or mayor in the future, but in fact, I think this possibility is very small, because it takes both efforts and opportunities to get to this position, so I ask my child to have a normal heart. Now parents often have an idea that I am excellent on a platform and my children must surpass me. This positioning is sometimes difficult to achieve, and parents and children are very painful.
Family education experience 3
Recently, through communication with parents, I found that many parents have some problems in their children's education. Combined with these problems, I put forward some suggestions for family education.
First, family education should adhere to "health first".
Health refers not only to the absence of disease or illness, but also to a completely good physical, mental and social state. In other words, a healthy person should have a strong physique and an optimistic mental state, and be able to maintain a harmonious relationship with the social and natural environment in which he lives.
When educating children, we must see whether it is conducive to their physical health, mental health and social adaptation. Many parents have to cope with meals in order to let their children go to extra long classes. Compared with your child's health, which is more important, specialty or health? Some parents even let their children do exercise when they have a fever and an injection, instead of taking a good rest. Is children's health more important than academic performance? Many parents, when educating their children, open their mouths and say, "Look at others-why are you so stupid?" Or: "You really embarrass me!" Wait, these words are not good for children's mental health. Is it important for children's health or for us to release our emotions?
The other is good social adaptation. Many parents arrange their children's time very full in order to let them do more problems and learn more specialties, so that they have no time to play with their classmates and friends. We should consider it calmly. Children will eventually study all their lives. If it becomes a learning machine, how can children talk about life? How to let children learn to get along and learn good social adaptation? These problems, when we arrange children's life and study, should be considered as a whole and adhere to health first.
Second, family education should be humanized.
It sounds bad to treat children as adults, but in fact, many parents really don't treat their children as human beings. When communicating with children, most parents show paternalism, so you should be condescending. Children are our wealth and an important part of our family. When dealing with family problems, we should consider children's feelings and listen to their opinions.
I once met a parent whose children were learning roller skating, because of the poor quality of roller skating, their own strength was small and their learning speed was slow. As soon as the mother's parents were in a hurry, they went over and kicked the child down. Is the child itself a tool for parents to save face? Do parents treat their children as human beings? We still have a child with us. Now in the third grade, parents let their children practice learning every day and rarely let them play. Looking at this child now, he is not only extremely athletic and short, but also has a young mind and can hardly communicate with children. I don't think this parent treats the child as a human being. At the school gate, I also saw a scene of a mother kicking her child step by step. The child obviously has something to say, but the parents don't give the child a chance and kick the child into school. I don't know whether this parent regards his children as treasures or things, at least not like a person.
As parents, we really work hard, and sometimes our children will be disobedient, but we must try our best to restrain ourselves before getting angry and try to reason with our children in an equal tone. Children need respect as much as we do, because they are human beings! The child is herself, so don't pin all your parents' hopes on the child, because he will be very tired!
Family education experience 4
From the birth of my daughter to learning English, and then to being a toddler to being a kindergarten child now, the hardships paid by my parents must be the same, but whenever I see the bright smiling face of my child and hear the immature voice of my child, all my troubles and hardships are forgotten. Unconsciously, my daughter has been in kindergarten for two months, but these short two months have made me feel that my little guy has changed a lot, and has passed smoothly and started the first learning stage of my life.
My daughter is active by nature. When I first arrived in kindergarten, the teacher said that she couldn't sit still and didn't listen to instructions, so I specially bought some building blocks and puzzles that she was interested in to play with. At first, she could only play for a while, and then she ran away. Later, with our constant encouragement and praise, she gradually sat for a long time and played more.
My daughter has a strong desire to take care of herself. You can eat and wear pantyhose by yourself when you are over one year old. However, because we always thought she was slow and dirty, we deprived her of these rights. Everything is arranged. I didn't expect this to hinder her normal development. Fortunately, with the help of the teacher, she has recovered her good habits.
Thankfully, my daughter hasn't cried since the first day of kindergarten and enjoys this collective life very much. I think it is necessary to tell her mother to leave her for a while and when she will come back, so as not to lie to her and make her feel safe. Of course, the most important thing is that the teacher's meticulous care makes her feel the warmth like a mother! Thank you here!
In short, the process of parenting is hard and happy. I wish my daughter and all the children healthy and happy growth!
Family education experience 5
Good afternoon, teachers and parents. I am very happy to share my experience in educating children with you here. My daughter Wu Jiyun is seven years old. She is active in learning and has good study habits. In life, she is hard and simple, loves labor and is full of love. Since kindergarten, she is more sensible and often brings us warmth, emotion and surprise. After entering primary school, with the careful education and training of teachers, we feel that she has made great progress and quickly adapted to school life. I want to take this opportunity to thank the head teacher, especially Mr. Wang and all the other teachers. Thank you for your hard work and endless love for your children.
Children are the future of the motherland and the hope of the family. Today's seedlings are tomorrow's towering trees, so every parent will care and guide their children with love and responsibility during their growth. However, although this is the common hope of every parent, not all parents can get it. Family education is actually a science, which requires us to sum up experience in practice and improve our education level. I have just listened to Professor Chen's report, and I feel that I have gained a lot. The teachers here are also experts in education. Your educational theory and practice are much richer and more vivid than mine. I know that I am also a pupil in children's education, but I would like to talk about my feelings about children's education in front of experts, hoping to get everyone's criticism and correction.
First, create a warm environment.
(1) Reach an educational consensus. Although her father and I are very busy at work, we both attach great importance to education. We bought or borrowed books about education together and exchanged ideas about education together. When there are differences in education, you can sit down and talk frankly until a consensus is reached, so that you can have a more consistent view of your child's words and deeds and have similar solutions to her shortcomings, instead of telling her this today and telling her tomorrow, leaving her at a loss.
(2) Create a learning atmosphere. It is a truth that knowledge changes fate. It's never too old to learn. It's also my motto. In my home, we can often see such a scene: parents and children are reading and studying under the lamp. When my daughter was very young, she used to hold a book when she saw us studying. When she was young, she pestered me to read to her. Later, I encouraged her to read by herself. Slowly, her reading habits formed and she knew more and more words. Because I often let her read some prose poems, she sometimes writes some short poems, which are full of childlike interest. Her father and I will carefully help her collect, and sometimes we will calm down and review her small articles with her, which is a pleasure for both of us. Now every day after lunch, she will sit there quietly and read books that interest her.
Second, cultivate good habits.
There is a proverb: behavior cultivates habits, habits form character, and character determines fate. However, it is impossible to cultivate children's habits through simple criticism or reprimand. We must start with children's behavior and guide them to put their determination and slogans into action.
(1) Encourage less talk and more action. Often educate children to spend time daydreaming and talking about practical things, and tell her that one action is worth more than a dozen plans, and the value of one action is better than a hundred slogans and a thousand resolutions.
(2) Pay attention to step by step. For example, to cultivate children's habit of memorizing English words, you can only ask for memorizing 2~3 words at first, and then gradually increase the amount after the habit is formed. My daughter began to learn piano when she was four years old. I stayed with her for the first two years, but her work became more and more busy and she often couldn't stay with her, so she slowly relaxed her study. I think we must train her to learn the piano independently, otherwise she is likely to give up halfway. I communicated with her and the piano teacher the idea of reading music and practicing piano independently. At first, it was conceivable that the quality of the resumption of classes was very poor, either the rhythm was wrong or the music was wrong, but I didn't panic. She is willing to practice the piano by herself, which is a great progress. My piano teacher and I constantly encouraged her to consciously slow down the teaching speed and let her gradually adapt to her piano. After half a year, we raised the speed of education to the original level. Since then, she has made great progress. When she is upset, she will play the piano to relax and relieve her mood. I occasionally stand beside her and listen to her practice, but I have listened to the piano with appreciation, so don't worry about not having time to practice. Now I began to mobilize her to keep a diary. I don't ask her to write every day, but tell her to write down what she is interested in every day, no matter how long. She insists on this very much.
Third, be diligent in communication and encourage more.
(1) communicate on an equal footing. No parents don't love their children, and no children will refuse their parents' broad-minded and passionate love. When my daughter was in a big kindergarten class and was a little sensible, I said to her, "You are equal to your mother. I won't scold you, let alone hit you, but you must tell your mother everything you are happy or wronged. This is equivalent to your mother growing up with you again, and I will be very happy! " Indeed, I enjoyed talking to her. I will tell her what I think of things in a way that she can understand as much as possible. All-round communication with her has brought our feelings closer, and she is also very willing to listen to my comments and our opinions.
(2) Sincere encouragement. I am convinced that if you give your child more appreciation, be good at discovering her unique strengths and advantages, watch her make a little progress, encourage her, guide her patiently, and support her with words and practical actions, your child will develop her own advantages. Especially when children encounter difficulties, don't simply scold or dig, but patiently enlighten and actively provide solutions to problems. I remember one night, before I went home with her father, she called her father and revealed that she was depressed and seemed to have something on her mind. When we got home, we patiently asked what had happened. It turns out that she didn't do well in the math exam today, only got 92.5 points. She looked at me and tears were about to fall. She said that after teacher Zhu handed out the test paper, she couldn't believe it was her own grade. On the one hand, I am glad that my daughter has a strong self-motivation. On the other hand, I have read the paper carefully and summed up the reasons for the low score with her, not only because of carelessness, but also because she didn't understand the meaning of the question. She agreed with me and then explained her misunderstanding. Finally, I told her that grades don't mean everything. The most important thing is to deeply understand the meaning of the problem and the method to solve it. An exam is a test. Problems are always exposed in advance. Only when problems are discovered and corrected can people make continuous progress. I brought her back to happiness and liveliness in a relaxed tone. Afterwards, she told me seriously that failure is the mother of success. I think if I criticized her severely with a frown at that time, it might make her more sad, and I would doubt myself for a while.