The name Kai-Fu Lee may not be known to students and parents now. As a successful China native, he wrote four open letters to the students at school. His educational thought is very popular, unlike some people who specialize in educational research, which is empty and illusory. He contributed many practical methods. Recently, when my children talked to me about Kai-Fu Lee's opinions, I saw that his fifth open letter was addressed to parents. Sometimes it seems that we all understand a lot of truth. When it comes to specific things, it is often not easy to really use them well. Looking back at his article, I think it is still of practical guiding significance, so I extract some fragments that I am interested in and share them with my friends: Kai-fu Lee Digest No.4: How to be a friend of your children may never grow up in your heart, but many children are willing to treat themselves as adults when they are 15 years old or earlier. Parents can use it at this time. For example, ideals, learning motivation, fun, dedication, treating people, falling in love, making friends, and dealing with family problems. In this regard, I have four suggestions: (1) Get along with children and even talk nonsense with them. Don't put on airs, be a "superior" elder. When my children were young, they didn't want to sleep because they heard my "spun" story every day. (2) Tell your child the truth, and don't hold it in your stomach. I hope he will do the same. Be a good listener. (3) Let your child know how important he is to you, tell him how much you love him, and share your time generously with him, but don't be "responsive" to material things. (4) Take some time to understand those popular things. Whether it's a singer, Junior Idol or a new computer game, I will take some time to get to know it. On the one hand, it can give you more topics, on the other hand, it can tell your children that you care. And it can make you feel young! Treat your child as a friend and talk to him. You can tell him what you have experienced every day, or ask him what you have experienced every day. If he tells him what not to do, don't preach, don't get angry, listen more and talk less. When he feels that chatting with you is not a threat of punishment, he will talk about everything. At first, if he is a little afraid to speak, promise him not to be angry with him. If you want to be a child's friend, only you can learn his language, not ask him to learn yours. If you don't learn new knowledge, get in touch with new ideas, lack knowledge and have outdated ideas, you can't understand what children are thinking now. Parents should try to get in touch with more popular things. Such as popular ideas, popular clothes, popular technology and popular music, so as to reduce the generation gap and create channels of mutual trust and communication. China's parents: Spend more time with their children. No matter how busy they are, they should play with them and talk on an equal footing. Don't think that sending children to school is all the teacher's business, and then urge you to do your homework when you get home. Don't get angry at once when a child does something he didn't expect. Listen to the child's reasons first. Editor's note: I remember a writer said that "father and son have been brothers for many years". I think it is also possible for father and son to be friends for many years. I always remember what my children told me: "If I had the same opinion as you, I might be forty years old, not fourteen." The real way to make friends with children is to grow up like children once, treat three-year-old children with children's eyes, spend three years with him, treat childhood children with childhood eyes, treat young children with youth eyes, and walk through ignorant childhood and restless youth with him. Don't think you are condescending, but in fact you are aloof. Many times, our "head" can only reach his thoughts by "tiptoeing". We often say to our friends, "Meeting you is fate". Isn't it the fate of past lives to be a child's father and mother? However, when we treat children, we are often not as calm as our friends. The reason we find for ourselves is that "the deeper we love, the more we hate", so sometimes we ruin the fate of being friends for love. Recommended editor: Good rain knows the season