Strict, high-pressure and compulsory education only starts from parents' subjective wishes, regardless of children's psychological wishes. Children are often beaten and punished, and easily develop into obedience, cowardice, self-distrust, loneliness, or at the other extreme, strong resistance, ruthlessness and cruelty. The children trained in this way are passive in learning and have poor academic performance.
2. Spoil (obey):
More common in one-child families. Everything is obedient and coquetry, obedient and obedient. Children are often willful, selfish, proud, emotionally unstable and irresponsible. Such children often run into a wall everywhere in society.
3. Protective type (restricted type):
Excessive restrictions on children's activities, all the work is arranged by parents instead, concentrate on reading and stay indoors. Children's personality is blind obedience, fragility, strong dependence, poor independence, lack of creativity and imagination, and poor social adaptability.
4. Self-mobility (laissez-faire):
Parents only care about their own work and study. Children lack education and care since childhood, indulge themselves, are introverted, withdrawn, indifferent to others, depressed, narrow-minded, and lack ideals and pursuits.
5, uncoordinated type:
That is to say, the educational attitude lacks consistency, continuity and randomness, and the parents' emotions are the shift, and the educational methods are changeable. Lack of stability within the family, children's emotional instability, easy to fear, anxiety, impatience, paranoia, inferiority, easy to develop bad behavior and psychopathy.
6. Abuse:
Found in a few special families. Treating children as enemies, beating and abusing them, children are timid, fragile, inferior, mentally retarded and mentally retarded.
7, democracy (teaching):
It is the ideal way to raise children. Parents often have good psychological quality and cultural accomplishment. Teach children patiently for a long time, set an example, inspire reasoning, supervise and inspect. Children in this kind of parents' education center often have good psychological quality, sound personality, strong independence and creativity, and adapt well to society. Individualization and socialization develop in a coordinated and balanced way, making it easy to be independent.
The prerequisite for educating and cultivating children is that the family should be harmonious, stable and democratic. If parents are at odds, they often beat and scold, quarrel or even break up their marriage, and children live in such a family atmosphere and feel insecure.
Happiness is extremely unfavorable to children's physical and mental development. Broken single-parent families have a significant negative impact on all aspects of adolescent mental health. Children from single-parent families also have a high crime rate.
In addition, to educate children, parents must be mentally healthy, strengthen education, improve cultural literacy and correct psychological defects. Especially mothers, many studies show that mothers' personality.
It has a greater impact on children than on fathers. Mothers have the virtues and talents of women-tenderness, thoughtfulness, delicate feelings and so on. Mother's gentle, tolerant, elegant and civilized manners are the first to cultivate children's good psychological quality.
Clear terms. Mothers should improve their cultural quality and self-cultivation.