On June 65438+1 October1day, 2022, "People's Republic of China (PRC) Family Education Promotion Law" was officially implemented, which was the first time that China made special legislation on family education. From then on, China's parents will also start the era of "bringing babies according to law".
As soon as the "double reduction" policy was implemented, the state also legislated for family education, which clearly defined the responsibility of family education.
With the great educational reform, families accustomed to gaining competitiveness by brushing questions suddenly become at a loss, and exams have also changed. Then the competitiveness of children is not just the skill of brushing questions.
Families accustomed to outsourcing their children to various academic counseling institutions during holidays suddenly become at a loss. How can they arrange so much time for their children?
Families who are used to evaluating their children's academic performance through grades have no concept at all, and even the most basic reference data are not available. How can they know their children's learning progress?
After the change, where is the competitiveness of children? How to determine a child's learning direction? How to grasp children's academic performance? What is the future direction of education? How to train children to be independent, happy and valuable to society? What should parents do? Parents are anxious to know.
Before learning about the education reform, I was also very concerned about the above problems, and I often talked with some parents every day to discuss whether there are obvious changes in children after the reform and how parents should deal with them.
I want to share some thoughts I learned and thought during this period, hoping to inspire families who care about their children's growth as much as I do.
First of all, we should get rid of the influence of "double drop" as soon as possible. External changes have taken place. If we can't change them, we can only adjust ourselves to adapt.
Then, with an open mind and patience, learn from the school about the adjustment and planning of the education and teaching direction of students and teachers after the reform.
It is helpful for us to adjust the direction of family education to find out a series of actions in children's school at the first time.
To understand how the school responds and adjusts, we should ask the children's real feelings in detail in combination with the changes, and ask the children about the good and bad aspects of this adjustment, such as the adjustment of teaching content, the arrangement of teaching methods and the adjustment of teaching time.
Secondly, on June 65438+1 October1day, 2022, the Family Education Promotion Law was officially implemented, which means that parents are duty-bound to their children's family education, and China families have officially entered the era of taking care of their children according to law.
So how do parents take responsibility for their children?
After understanding a series of school behaviors, including children's thoughts, what we have to do is to help children adapt to school life as soon as possible.
To play a role in lubricating the relationship between children and teachers, we should be patient and be good at guiding children's negative emotions towards school so that parents can't convey negative emotions themselves.
Help children learn to live and become people who have ideas, abilities and can create happiness for themselves.
To do this, parents should not shirk the responsibility of raising their children to others, but should take the main responsibility of raising their children themselves.
And you can't educate your children with your past ideas and ideas. Don't take raising children as your own work. You should respect your children and what they should be.
What kind of people do we want our children to be? We must first be ourselves and be what we expect, because children will never be what you expect, they will only be what you are.
Third, we should consciously establish a good parent-child relationship in peacetime. The premise of good parent-child relationship is respect. The child loves you if you don't want it, it hurts if you want it, scolds if you want it, and hits if you want it. They are independent individuals.
Children are not adults, but growing people. What we have to do is to help them become better people.
We should spare no effort to praise children. Praising children's good behavior or performance can motivate them to produce more positive behaviors.
For bad behavior, we should be good at diverting attention, grasping key problems, and formally proposing improvement suggestions to children at a specific time. We shouldn't criticize them at will, but we shouldn't turn a blind eye to their bad habits and conduct proper guidance.
Children are encouraged not because they are excellent, but because they are encouraged.
Fourth, manage intimate relationships.
The relationship between parents will directly affect the healthy development of children's body and mind. Affectionate, considerate and inclusive intimacy can provide a stable and loving family environment for children. Children raised by parents with good intimacy must be children with enough sense of security, stable mood and cheerful personality.
Good emotional feelings and safe emotional cognition will benefit children for life.
For family education, parents can sit down and discuss and express their opinions together, such as talking about their expectations for their children; What are the advantages of children in their own eyes, what are their bad behaviors, how to improve bad behaviors, and some practical things that should be done for children in the new year. , discuss together.
Fifth, schools should care about children's academic performance, comprehensive ability training and the formation of core literacy; Then our family education should complement our children. We don't have to spend time on what the school has done. We actually have to do something that schools can't do.
What can't schools do?
First, the cultivation of good habits depends on accumulation, on the infiltration of big and small things in life, and on supervision. Then parents should bear the brunt and help their children develop good habits.
For example, study habits, learn to do your own thing, persist in exercise, take the initiative to learn, be willing to share and help others, and be grateful.
Second, create rich life experiences for children.
Take children to participate in some social welfare activities, or take them outdoors, get close to nature with your heart, take them to travel and feel different customs, take them to grow fruits and vegetables together, and even take them to work together if possible.
All behaviors and activities different from daily life can be tried, so that children can feel the different tastes of life in various ways.
Third, cultivate children's social emotional ability.
Social emotion is an important ability to adapt to the future social existence, including self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, interpersonal skills and responsible decision-making.
Parents need to consciously set goals for their children every day, guide them in a targeted way, find problems in time and solve them.
Finally entered the era of "taking children according to law". In the face of your unique family education, you must not go with the flow, watch others' actions and follow others' footsteps.
We must combine our family's situation, formulate educational goals that are only applicable to our family, and implement them according to our own educational goals. Only in this way can we not be easily influenced by the outside world, and only in this way can our children grow up better and healthier.