In the Eastern Han Dynasty, Zhang Heng liked counting stars when he was a child. He developed his interest to the extreme, drew the first sky map of China, and created the astronomical instrument "armillary sphere".
"Interest is the ladder of success. Finding your own interest is to find the ladder hidden in the cloud and find the node closest to success. " There are countless such examples: Newton who discovered gravity, Mozart who stood in front of the piano and wanted to play the piano. ...
Once they are interested in something, they will unconsciously put in time and energy, become more and more familiar with it, and become more and more skilled until they become the best in this field.
For our children, if we can recognize their interests and talents, cultivate and guide them correctly, stimulate their internal motivation, and work hard in the later period, we will naturally let our children get happiness in it until they bear the "fruitful results" of growth.
First floor (elevation 1)
Only provide material and moral support.
For example, if a child goes to an interest class and needs to buy learning tools, such as football and sneakers, parents will give money to buy buy to buy them. Children like an interest, parents should support her and encourage him.
The first level 1 helps parents to reduce their sense of participation, but it does not hinder their children's learning and progress. It can also cultivate excellent children, but it can only be mastered by children themselves.
Second floor (second floor)
In addition to providing material and moral support, it also provides resources and capacity support.
At present, China's per capita GDP has exceeded $5,000, and a new generation of new middle-class families have gradually realized the importance of family education and continuously increased their investment in children's education. Most of these parents have a higher level of knowledge and have more time, resources and ability. They actively participate in the process of children's growth and attach importance to the cultivation of children's interests and the stimulation of talents.
Let's give some foreign examples to see if they are doing well. What is their logic?
In developed countries in Europe and America, parents will try their best to expose their children to interest classes in kindergartens and primary schools, such as football, rugby, basketball and other sports, dance, singing, musical instruments, fine arts, opera, performances and other talent projects. Children leave school early, have enough time to participate in interest classes and school club activities in the afternoon, and mostly participate in various interest cultivation on weekends.
Parents will accompany their children to participate in various competitions all the year round.
Why are you doing this?
In fact, the reason for more contact is that after exposing children to various interest classes, he finds out what he likes and what is more advantageous than others. Because parents stay with their children all the year round, they gradually understand their personality and talents and provide them with better help and valuable advice.
In this process, parents are bystanders and participants, not controllers. Children are like users who experience products. If they think it's fun, they will continue to play and play deeply.
Let's go back and look at the final difference between the two methods.
After European and American children arrive at junior high school, because their studies become heavy and their spare time is reduced, parents and children will discuss and decide which interest classes to reduce, and select a few for special training, and take this as their own specialty and an important means to enter the university. Parents also accompany their children to study and compete for a long time, so the parent-child relationship is more harmonious.
China's children have to give up some interests when they get to junior high school, because the starting point of interest classes is different. Because there is no other interest, the circle is getting smaller and smaller, and self-confidence is getting weaker and weaker. There may also be various problems in parent-child relationship.
Education is result-oriented, and what kind of children we cultivate will be cultivated in what way.
Therefore, the cultivation of children's interest is inseparable from the participation of parents.