Your question is very good! Many parents and teachers have such questions. After reading the following analysis and video materials, I believe you can get the answer you want and know how to correctly guide and educate your children's civilized behavior.
Due to the current social environment and exam-oriented education model, our children are easily infected with some bad habits, such as willfulness, disobedience, dishonesty, internet addiction, fighting, weariness of learning, inattention, inattention in class and so on. , especially adolescent middle school students! The purpose of education is to correct children's wrong outlook on life, values and world outlook, as well as all kinds of wrong behaviors caused by these concepts. Although there are many ways to educate children, some people adopt the education of tiger mother and wolf father, saying that "winning at the starting line", a person's life is actually a process of marathon running. Even if you win the starting line, how far you can run, how long you can persist, and who laughs last are still unknown, which is often counterproductive. Therefore, no matter whether it is successful or not, the so-called tiger mother education of individuals is not worthy of worship, imitation or even popularization, so that education can be carried out. If corporal punishment educates children to beat them, the consequences may be quite serious, and they will retaliate against their elderly parents and grandchildren in the future, so violent education is harmful! On the contrary, it is more important to cultivate children's healthy personality and optimistic spirit. If you want to educate your children fundamentally and cultivate their good interests and habits in study and life, I suggest you make them like Disciples Rules as soon as possible!
Sages teach filial piety again and again, believe in loving the masses, love kindness, and should be filial to their parents if they have spare capacity. Parents should call on you not to delay your parents' orders, but not to be lazy. Parents should respect their parents' responsibilities, inherit winter and be gentle in summer ..... (Reading more books will definitely improve children's sense of responsibility and inspire their wisdom). You see, this is really a "filial son", the best tutor! How well written! It is catchy, easy to read and easy to teach. There are many video story textbooks on the Internet, and there are many versions suitable for children at all stages. As a parent, as long as you are willing to encourage your child to watch with you (this is very important, you like to watch with him, children are naturally curious and easily influenced by others), you will definitely make your child like her. If you can work hard in real life and try your best to implement the teaching inside, why not educate your children well?
At the same time, your question involves teenagers' ideological and moral character, behavior language, academic performance and other family education issues, which parents and teachers are very concerned about and eager to solve. Parents' correct educational guidance plays a decisive role in the process of children's healthy growth education. Therefore, in daily family life, parents and children are sincerely recommended to watch the series of documentaries "Sage Education Changing Fate" (also known as Disciples' Discipline), which is a large-scale public welfare forum of excellent China traditional culture education planned and supervised by Chen Dahui. This is a very favorable free network resource about moral education and family education, which can help children feel the truth of life in a happy and grateful atmosphere, help children improve their healthy growth and learning progress, understand why disasters and accidents happen, and avoid disasters. It can prescribe the right medicine for children's various problems and is a good treatment! There must be the answer you need, and it is also a powerful teaching material for our parents and elders to learn. It is indeed a rare classic tutor program! There are many wonderful cases in this program to discuss various ways to solve children's education. It is really the best one-on-one tutor for us and our children, and it is also a very good family education network resource, and it is completely free, which is of great help to the improvement of children's academic performance. In life, children and even adults are prone to various problems, such as lack of perseverance, greed, rebellion and disobedience, internet addiction, puppy love, strong dependence and inattention. These problems can not be fundamentally corrected by some simple methods or measures to become a filial and obedient child, but we need to carry out comprehensive and systematic family education to treat both the symptoms and the root causes. In this film, many experts, teachers and parents speak in person and report to the public with their unique experiences, revealing that parents' educational concepts will directly affect their children's family education. Therefore, it is recommended that parents and children watch together. The family education they received from childhood will affect their children's life, and they will certainly get unexpected gains from it!
There is a classic epigram in the film: people can teach well! Good people are taught, and so are bad people! This shows the importance of family education!
However, at present, we are facing various realities: serious lack of social integrity! Various media exaggerate and mislead, and the environment where children grow up is constantly being destroyed and polluted. It is difficult to do a good job in family education! Parents are getting worse. To tell the truth, many parents don't know how to be parents, so they bring their children into this world and put a lot of educational responsibilities on schools and society. However, parents are children's first teachers, and many growth experiences require parents to set an example. They shirk their responsibilities, how can they educate their children well? Really sad!
As children, we often can't understand our parents' thoughts and real experiences, just for our own convenience and enjoyment. To tell the truth, it's a bit of a violation! When we are parents, we can truly understand this feeling, but it is often too late to regret it, alas. ...
Many so-called generation gaps in our lives are caused by the disjointed and inconsistent education received from generation to generation. Nowadays, too many people are eager for quick success and instant benefit, only paying attention to their own enjoyment and ignoring the feelings of others.
You know, all education should start with roots, just like a tree needs roots to grow trunk, branches and leaves, and flourish. If we abandon the fundamental virtue education, everything else will be just castles in the air. I would like to recommend friends who are destined for you. Whether you have seen it or not, please try your best to take time to watch the excellent program of China Traditional Culture Education Forum: "Sage Education Change Destiny" (which can be searched and played on Baidu video or Youku Tudou). I hope everyone who has seen it can get tangible benefits from it and continue to benefit others. Let's work together to create a harmonious social environment.
I hope my answer is helpful and enlightening to you.
Sincerely bless you!