Growth is a subject that everyone has to face all his life.

The so-called growth is the process of struggling with one's own human weakness.

Only by doing what you don't like, what you dare not do, what you don't know and what you don't want, and constantly breaking through your comfort zone can you grow.

One of the purposes of growth is to achieve something, and the premise of success is to conform to human nature.

The long history of 5,000 years tells us a truth: "Those who conform to human nature will prosper, and those who oppose human nature will die"!

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What is growth?

Growth is everyone's inner desire.

Growth means new life, as well as hope and light.

Everyone wants to grow up, but not everyone knows what growth is and how to grow up quickly.

There are two kinds of growth: one is physical growth, and the other is mental and ability growth.

Physically, with the passage of time, we are all growing up or getting old.

Physical growth is a necessity for us, because there are no immortal people in this world.

You don't even need to spend too much effort, just keep eating, drinking and sleeping normally.

Things have changed and people have changed. Every moment, the cells in our bodies are dying and constantly being reborn.

The growth of spirit and ability requires hard work, even an ideological struggle with yourself.

Everyone can grow physically, but not everyone can grow mentally or physically.

This also explains why some people are in their fifties and sixties, but their minds may still be in their twenties and thirties, and their abilities have not been greatly improved. Such people just grow up, but they don't.

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The so-called growth is the upgrading of cognition.

There are four pains in life: I can't let go, I can't bear it, I can't see through it, and I can't get it.

I can't let go, so it's very painful;

Reluctant, so entangled;

I can't see through it, so I am confused;

I can't get it, so I suffer from helplessness.

The so-called growth means that the past that can't be let go has begun to let go; Reluctant to give up money, fame and fortune began to give up; The puzzling secular wisdom and short life began to be seen through; Wealth, status, love and friendship that can't be obtained begin to let nature take its course and are no longer importuned.

Every breakthrough is accompanied by the improvement of your cognition.

All the entanglements, pains and troubles in your life are brought by your cognition!

If you don't grow up and upgrade your cognition, these things will trap you forever.

Therefore, the so-called growth comes from the upgrading of cognition.

People often say: "If you survive a disaster, you will never be blessed." .

Its core logic is that a person who has experienced a catastrophe will have a new understanding of life, and these new understandings will make it easier for him to cross the four hardships of life and live a happier and more comfortable life.

So you will find that people can only grow up if they constantly update and upgrade their cognition.

And when will people have a strong motivation to update and upgrade their cognition?

Only when people are in pain will they have a strong motivation to update and upgrade their cognition.

This is not your decision, but human nature.

The core essence of human nature is "to get pleasure from suffering", which can be said to be the fundamental driving force of all our actions.

So you will find that what people learn in prosperity is extremely limited, because the door to your curiosity is closed or not wide enough at this time.

When people are in adversity, your thirst for knowledge will be extremely strong because of the essence of "driving pain to get pleasure", which also determines that people grow rapidly in adversity.

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Anti-human growth

Those who have made great achievements in history have all grown up in adversity.

Sima Qian, the Taishi Duke, wrote in his book Bao Ren An: The ancients were famous for their wealth, which can only be understood by words. King Gavin was arrested and acted in Zhouyi; Zhong You wrote Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan's exile is a tribute to Li Sao. Zuo Qiu is blind and has "Mandarin"; The ruler of the revised version of Sun Tzu's Art of War; It's not Shu, but Lu Lan. Han Fei imprisoned Qin, expressing embarrassment, loneliness and anger. Three hundred poems, the underground sages are angry.

Even Tai Shigong himself, after being so humiliated after castration, wrote such a masterpiece as Historical Records, which is "a historian's swan song, leaving Sao without rhyme".

Growth is the upgrading of cognition and the accumulation and sublimation of life wisdom.

The Buddha said, "Wisdom cannot be given, but can only be gained through tempering and suffering." .

Genghis Khan witnessed his father being poisoned at an early age, and then his family wealth was ruthlessly divided by his people. He survived because he was not as tall as a wheel, and then he was hunted down. As an adult, his wife and children separated and his brothers turned against each other.

Genghis Khan grew up in this situation and finally unified the grassland!

Qin Shihuang was born in Zhao, where his father, aliens, has been held hostage.

Qin Shihuang lived in the sponsor's house since childhood. After his father returned to Qin, he and his mother lived alone and were hunted everywhere. Later, when he returned to Qin, Qin Shihuang destroyed the six countries and unified the world!

Suffering is the best school and the best teacher.

If there is a shortcut to growth, then suffering is! Those who can't beat you will eventually make you stronger.

Suffering and tempering are the fastest ways for us to grow up.

But we always avoid pain. We don't want to suffer, but we still want to grow.

So what can we do?

Answer: Yes.

That is to constantly challenge your own human weakness.

The easy way is downhill! Lying flat can't bring growth. If you want to grow up, you must constantly break through your comfort zone and challenge your human weakness.

Human nature has many weaknesses, such as laziness, indolence, procrastination, giving up easily, quick success, greed, selfishness, liking the new and hating the old.

Growth is to fight against these human weaknesses!

Therefore, Mencius said: "Heaven will have great power over Sri Lankan people, so we must first suffer their minds, work their bones and muscles, starve their bodies and skin, and empty their bodies, so we can endure and get what we can't."

You will always find such people at work. They seem to have been busy, but they can't get any results.

When studying, it is no exception. Some students never leave their hands, eyes and buttocks at school, but their grades are always poor.

What is the reason for this result?

Are they stupid, stupid and don't work hard?

Actually, it's not. There is only one fundamental reason for their low efficiency and slow growth, that is:

"avoid the heavy and be light"!

Is afraid to face up to their own human weaknesses, but also dare not challenge their own human weaknesses.

Whether studying or working, any task can be divided into two parts, namely, a relatively simple part and a relatively difficult part.

If the tasks in the world are all composed of simple parts and there is no difficulty at all, then there is no chance of frustration or failure.

But this is obviously not the case. After a little thinking, you can understand that a reasonable time schedule should be like this: "Finish the simple part quickly and put the saved time on the difficult part."

However, many people will subconsciously avoid difficulties.

As a result, their time schedule is like this: "Almost all the time is spent dealing with the simple parts, and for the difficult parts, they simply turn a blind eye or delay, and even secretly hope that the difficulties will disappear automatically."

Why?

Because the fundamental motivation of human nature is "to get happiness from suffering".

The hard part will make you feel frustrated. This part of the content is boring, difficult to do, it will consume a lot of energy and need your concentration. You may not be able to do it once. So your intuition tells you to avoid it.

Some people may fight, but more people don't even bother to fight, just ignore it!

This is the core reason why many people grow slowly or even fail to grow.

So do procrastinators. Procrastinators do not do nothing. They do things, even many things, but they do many simple things.

Every time they avoid the important, it is not intentional, it is human nature.

If they don't challenge their humanity, no amount of task management skills will help. Because a very important part of the task (usually difficult because it is important, and important because it is difficult) can never be completed, and it is this part that can make people grow most.

So you will find that violating human nature and challenging your own human weakness is the fastest way to grow up.

Most people do things for three minutes, fishing for three days and drying nets for two days. If you want to grow up, then you must persist in going against humanity.

Most people know the importance of studying, but they put it off on the pretext of "being busy" and "having no time". Its essence is laziness in behavior or laziness in learning cognition (there is no sound and correct cognition of the importance of learning).

And if you want to grow up, you have to overcome your inertia to human nature, overcome procrastination, start learning, and challenge your human weakness that you give up easily.

Most people will immediately satisfy their desires. If you want to grow up, you must challenge your own human weakness and delay your satisfaction.

Many people do things as comfortable and relaxed as possible, but growth does not come from comfort and relaxation.

Growth is almost always accompanied by boredom, seriousness, loneliness and even pain.

These are things we instinctively want to avoid, but they will make you grow.

Most people give up easily, so you have to stick to it.

Most people give up halfway, so you have to finish what you started.

Most people are greedy for pleasure, so you should forge ahead;

Most people are lazy and procrastinate, so you should act at once;

Most people avoid problems, so you have to face difficulties;

Most people create problems, you have to solve them;

Most people shirk their responsibilities, so you should be brave enough to take responsibility;

Most people complain about prevarication, so you should take the initiative.

It is always easy to obey the weakness of human nature, but it brings stagnation and degeneration.

It is always difficult and uncomfortable to violate and challenge human nature, but it can always bring growth.

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Follow human nature and achieve things.

Socrates said, "Know yourself".

Knowing yourself is the most difficult and important thing.

Violating human nature and challenging human weakness is not only the fastest way to grow up, but also the fastest way to know yourself.

Most people grow up to achieve something, but challenging the weakness of human nature can practice your profound insight and understanding of human nature.

The more a person grows up, the more he understands human nature, and the more he understands human nature, the easier it is to succeed.

Human nature is interlinked, everyone has a true, good and beautiful side, but also a hypocritical and ugly side.

Since ancient times, everything in the world has been changing, only human nature remains unchanged!

Insight into human nature, understanding human nature, can we deal with the ever-changing world with unchanging human nature.

Self-growth needs to violate one's own humanity, and the premise of success is to conform to the humanity of others.

When Liu Bang and Xiang Yu competed for hegemony, why did Liu Bang finally win the world?

In fact, the core reason is that Liu Bangshun is human, while Xiang Yu is anti-human!

At first, the princes and Wang Huai agreed that the king was the first to enter the customs.

Liu Bang took the lead in entering the customs. The first thing to do when entering the customs was to make three chapters about the law, pardoning Zi Ying and not committing the enemy of Qin. And basically don't kill, popular! The people of Qin also joined in, vying to send cattle, sheep, wine and food to comfort the soldiers, lest Liu Bang should not be king in Guanzhong.

On the other hand, Xiang Yu?

Slaughter cities at every turn, burning and looting, treating people like dirt.

Originally, Wang Huai agreed not to be brutally looted after going to Xianyang, but Xiang Yu indulged in looting after going to Xianyang. A fire destroyed all the palaces in the Qin Dynasty, and then took all the property of the Qin Dynasty for yourself.

Not only that, but also killed Zi Ying, the king of Qin who surrendered. At the same time, in Xing 'an, 200,000 soldiers of the Qin Dynasty were cheated to death!

Liu bang stresses morality, keeps good faith, and rewards all meritorious ministers equally and impartially.

Send people to attack the city and plunder the land. All the places where they capture and surrender are shared with everyone, and the benefits are shared with everyone. They are not treacherous to their colleagues.

And Xiang Yu?

If you are jealous of talents, you will envy others on your own initiative, and if you have talents, you will doubt others. Winning the battle does not give people credit, and taking the land does not give people benefits.

In the past, everyone made an appointment with Wang Huai, and the first one to enter the customs was the king.

And the result?

Xiang Yu treacherously hijacked the vassal's army to Hangu Pass without authorization, and let Liu Bang, who entered the Pass first, be king in Shu Han.

Not only that, Xiang Yu also strangled Qing Zi's top scholar under the guise of Huai Wang's orders, and he was a general in self-esteem

I sealed all the generals in good places to be kings, and the former princes or those who had bad relations with me were sealed in broken places. But also the assassination of Yidi, which is recognized by everyone, has caused complaints and boiling public grievances!

Advance is enough to lead people, self-discipline is enough to convince people, generosity is enough to treat people, and money is enough to gather people.

Liu bang and Xiang Yu, one is obedient to human nature and won the hearts of the people; One is anti-humanity, losing people's hearts!

The result can be imagined!

After Liu Bang entered Xianyang, did he have no wild desires?

There must be, but he didn't commit any crime in the last autumn, which violated his humanity and overcame his desire and greed. On the other hand, it is to conform to the humanity of others.

Why can those internet companies in BAT develop rapidly?

The core reason is that the design of its business model conforms to human nature.

Everyone wants to take advantage, so the internet will give you free, because free people gather on your platform. When the number of people is large enough and the traffic is large enough, various charging items can be derived and all kinds of money can be earned.

So is the game design of game companies. Don't you want to play and relax?

The design of the game conforms to human nature. No matter your educational level or education level, even if you are a child, you can get started quickly, you can dominate the game, you can stop, and you can experience the omnipotent feeling that you can't experience in real life.

Just like Tik Tok, why is it on fire?

It is also a humanized design. I'll push whatever you like, and I'll push whatever you want to see to immerse you in it.

You will find that some companies are unsuccessful, and one of the core reasons is that their model design, product design or company system design have been challenging humanity.

An APP needs to fill in all kinds of information, and all kinds of verification can be used to log in. The customer walked halfway in an instant, and it was useless to log in, so we had to pay the money first, and the customer lost half.

Many bosses want to make money from the start, and even some companies have no brand awareness and sell the most expensive products from the start, which is also challenging human nature.

They don't know that human nature is unsafe and lacks trust!

The first transaction of a customer is not to trust you, but to give you a chance.

Give you a chance to show your company and products and see if they are as good as you said. And you sell the most expensive products as soon as you come up, and shut most customers out. Naturally, there is no chance of clinching a deal.

Smart people will design a cost-effective front-end drainage product when designing the model, and open a traffic entrance according to human nature. This product can't make money or even lose money.

Attract customers through the front-end free or affordable, establish customer recognition and trust, and then make money through the back-end products. The front end is free and the back end is charged.

So you will find that companies that do things against humanity are always not far away, while companies that do things according to humanity are endless.

The same is true of company management. When the team's performance is not satisfactory, your human instinct will make you angry and make you criticize, blame and even punish the team.

But if you really want to do things well and manage the team well, you will violate your humanity at this time.

Celebrate failure like a victory.

Not only should you not be angry and pass the buck. Instead, we should look for "the bright spot in the defeat", encourage the team and cheer for the team.

Because the team morale is low at this time, it is useless for team members to blame themselves, criticize and blame!

What is a manager?

The manager is the one who was hit hard, bruised and scarred, but had to show the slightest wave against his humanity to comfort the employee who was only slightly injured and cried.

Violating your own humanity can always make you grow, and following others' humanity can always make you succeed.

This is law and heaven!

Only by mastering the law can we make a thousand miles in a day, understand the heaven and make Wan Li bright.

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