◆ Work for children
Imagination is not? Fantasy? , but from the creation of life. Some parents worry that if their children are slow, they will lose many opportunities to use their hands and brains. You know, children will observe carefully, think positively and practice repeatedly in the process of doing things. These experiences will provide an inexhaustible source for exerting imagination and creativity.
◆ Stop children from exploring.
Children's curiosity is very precious, but for various reasons, parents often can't accept their children's demands driven by curiosity: peel the apples with a fruit knife, soak the whole roll of paper in a basin, and set up a tent in the living room with sheets. If everything children ask is rejected by their parents, over time, they will lose those novel ideas and curiosity about things.
◆ Correct children's bizarre ideas.
Children's early imagination is exaggerated because they can't tell the imaginary from the real. For example, children may want to buy a car bigger than a house and climb a ladder to the moon. Faced with these bizarre ideas, some parents will correct or even stop them. In fact, at this time, parents may wish to imagine with their children. How about one? Brainstorm? Expand children's imagination.
◆ Provide children with standard answers.
When children reach the sensitive period of asking questions, they always let them go. Why? Tell me about it. In order to answer the children's questions correctly, parents can't wait to turn over all the encyclopedias. In fact, every child's why can have many answers. Parents can try to ask their children what they think, or go with him to find the answer. Ready-made answers will bind the child's mind and make him lose the motivation to think.
◆ Stop children from being maverick.
You have to wear fairy wings to kindergarten, and you have to wear Superman eye patch all the time, even when you sleep. Children's strange decorations and behaviors often attract parents' opposition. In fact, this is not to say that children are addicted to the illusory world, but that they have not played enough. Parents demand their children with their own code of conduct, which may suppress their children and affect the release and development of personality.
◆ Afraid of children being frustrated
When children want to put their imagination into practice, they should also have the self-motivation and anti-frustration ability to get out of the predicament. Frustrating this experience is very beneficial to children. If a child has a good idea, he should be encouraged to try it. If he is stopped for fear of failure, even if he has whimsical ideas, it will only be an armchair strategist. If this goes on, his ideas will only become more and more divorced from reality.
Premature intellectual development
Rich representation is the foundation of imagination development. Parents should try their best to let their children accept rich, vivid and vivid stimuli, create an open and diverse space for their activities and perceptions, and let their children contact and know objective things as much as possible to form rich appearances. And many early intellectual development activities, such as reciting poems, recognizing characters, drawing stick figures and other imitation forms, will stifle children's creativity and seriously hinder children's sensibility and expressiveness.
Parents please give their children a chance to fail.
When a child makes a mistake, parents should not blame the child too much, but should let the child bear the direct consequences of the mistake, give the child psychological punishment, let the child feel unhappy or even painful while bearing the consequences, and let the child correctly understand his mistakes and then consciously correct them.
Law of natural punishment:
/kloc-Rousseau, a famous French educator in the 0/8th century, wrote in Emile? Natural punishment? . So-called? Natural punishment? According to Rousseau, it is:? Should they (children) learn from experience? . Specifically, when a child makes a mistake or negligence in behavior, parents don't give too much criticism, but let the child bear the consequences directly caused by the mistake or negligence, so that the child can feel unhappy and even painful psychological punishment while bearing the consequences, thus causing the child to regret himself, and consciously make up for and correct the mistake. ? Natural punishment law? The key is to make children feel that being punished is self-inflicted and should be punished. Simply put, the natural punishment method is to let children experience painful punishment and strengthen the painful experience, so as to learn lessons and correct mistakes.
Experts have the following suggestions on how to use the natural punishment law:
(1) Make children responsible for their actions. Learning to be responsible for your actions is an important step for every child to grow up. Parents should reduce their interference in children's behavior and let the children make their own choices, and he will taste the consequences of their choices in practice. If parents are always nagging and complaining, children will divert their attention. They think it is most important to protect themselves from condemnation and maintain their self-esteem, so sometimes they even do the opposite.
Parents can remind their children, but don't lecture them. Parents can tell their children the truth and let them know the possible consequences of a certain behavior. When a child has some bad behaviors, parents can remind him, but don't teach him a lesson, because the consequences of negligence will give the child an appropriate lesson.
(3) Parents should be firm and caring. Some parents only remember to punish their children when using this method, so they often give up their parents' due love. When children don't do what they say in advance, parents don't let natural consequences punish them, but are too strict and scold them loudly. This kind of education is no longer a natural punishment law, but a punishment behavior of parents to their children.