1. aquarium rule: the growth of the soul needs freedom.

A few small fish have been in the fish tank for several years, and they are still so small. One day, the fish tanks were broken, so I kept them in the pond in the yard. I didn't expect these fish to grow as big as crazy. Fish need free growth space, especially people. We often help children make choices.

When going to school, choosing clothes and toys, children have no choice and no thinking. So he has no innovative thinking and will not try too much. You can let him learn a lot of knowledge, but you can't let him draw inferences from others and make him have a better imagination.

2. Rosenthal effect: positive expectations for children

Give positive and negative comments to the two groups of students who are randomly combined. Later, it is really such a positive or negative result. Positive expectation is actually an external support. In people's minds, family and friends are the core of this support force, and their expected support is also more shaping. When encountering setbacks, both children and adults are very much looking forward to this kind of power. On the contrary, without this positive expectation and support, he will become negative, or will be devastated after encountering setbacks.

3. Strengthen the law: cultivate good habits

Put a glass wall in the water and put the whales and food aside. At first, the whale violently hit the glass, but later it finally found it impossible, so after a while, it stopped hitting and moved the glass wall, while the frightened fish still moved only on its own side like a glass wall. Like this story, people's behavior is fixed after a period of time or some repeated experiences, forming a habit. Pay attention to the details of children and pay attention to guidance. Good habits are a fortune that will benefit him all his life.

4. The law of wolf nature: cultivate children's curiosity

Suppose a park, without rockeries or obstacles and winding roads, can be seen from the outside, then you won't be very interested in it. On the contrary, it is with these that we are willing to go in and get to know each other. People's curiosity about things is easy to change. If you change something, sometimes bring some game elements, the result will be better.

5. The law of dreams: children need dreams for their growth.

In a survey about "What do you want to be when you grow up", 92.7% students went to a good university and found a good job. Only 7.3% students answered to travel around the world and work on other planets. So where is their imagination? When we tell a child something, don't rush to teach him how to do it. You just need to tell him what to do and give him some safety reminders when necessary. As for the method, let them think it over. In the meantime, we just need encouragement and encouragement. To tap children's imagination instead of telling them "standard answers"

6. South Wind Rule: Educate children to pay attention to ways and means.

The south wind and the north wind bet to see who is better. They agreed to see who could take off the clothes of pedestrians. When the north wind blows, pedestrians wrap their clothes more and more tightly; The south wind blew slowly until it cleared up and pedestrians took off their coats. This practice of stimulating people to reflect and meet their own needs is called "South Wind Effect". Once a mistake happens, it will happen even if we are angry again. What we have to do is how to avoid repeating the same mistakes and clean up the mess caused by this mistake. When children make mistakes, they should understand the situation and seek proper solutions.

7. The law of natural punishment: let the children bear the fault themselves.

The punishment a child receives is the natural result of his fault, which is a natural punishment. In our words: everyone is responsible for his own actions, and your fault cannot be borne by others. We should let the children try it themselves. Children's feelings and experiences are often more profound than our preaching to him. Children will grow up in this process: people should be responsible for their own mistakes, not take it out on others.

8. The rule of delayed gratification: Cultivate children's patience from an early age.

People have patience, indicating two directions. One is what you want; The other is that you can wait until what you need arrives. In the middle, another thing is that one can wait. This kind of waiting is patience. Restraint can be cultivated. There is a "three-minute game" that requires children to insist on doing one thing within three minutes. Three minutes is just right for children's attention characteristics. After three minutes, stop. After many trainings and habits, children can concentrate on one thing for a certain period of time.

9. The law of respect: the growth of the soul needs respect.

In class, the teacher took out a famous cartoonist's book and told the children the story in the book, then asked them to tell a story and draw it. Although the children's stories are not wonderful, the teacher wrote them down seriously and told the children that this is your first book. In order for children to really grow up, they should be allowed to "stand up" from an early age, instead of "squatting" and looking up at those big people. This reciprocal way can make children have a confident and sound personality.