Law 1: the law of natural punishment

Children are responsible for their mistakes.

The child's punishment is the natural result of his mistake. In other words, everyone is responsible for their own actions, even if they dodge this time, they will pay the price one day in the future.

Let the child realize the cost of doing something wrong, let him be responsible for his actions and grow up in responsibility. Those pits he stepped on will become the road at the foot of the future.

Rule 2: South Wind Rule

Pay attention to the way of educating children.

Nanfeng and Beifeng bet that whoever can take off the clothes of pedestrians will be more powerful. The north wind is biting, and pedestrians wrap their clothes tighter; The south wind is blowing slowly, warm and pleasant, and pedestrians take off their coats. This is the famous law of the south wind.

The same is true of educating children. Blindly criticizing will only make children more rebellious.

If a child makes a mistake, it will happen even if he is angry again. What we have to do is to avoid repeating the same mistakes. Give the child acceptance first, then give guidance, and work hard with the child to improve.

Rule 3: Delayed fulfillment rule

Cultivate children's patience

Studies have shown that if a child has a certain ability to delay gratification at an early age, then he is more likely to succeed when he grows up.

Parents should consciously cultivate their children's ability to delay satisfaction from an early age and let them learn to wait patiently.

Parents can try a "three-minute game". If a child wants something, let him endure it for three minutes and then satisfy it after three minutes. Get used to it for 3 minutes, and then add time slowly. After long-term training, children's patience will improve.

Rule 4: Rosenthal effect

Have positive expectations for children.

Psychologist Rosenthal made positive and negative comments on the two groups of students. The results show that the scores of students who are positively evaluated have improved significantly, while those who are negatively evaluated have not improved significantly.

For children, the positive affirmation of parents and teachers is the source of courage when children face setbacks, and they are more confident when they face difficulties.

Rule 5: the law of wolf nature

Cultivate children's curiosity

Wolves are the most curious animals in the world. They don't take anything for granted. They tend to experience it for themselves. No matter how hard the environment is, they can always survive.

From the beginning of a hundred thousand reasons, children have a strong curiosity, guiding them to explore the world and explore their potential.

Patiently protect children's curiosity and imagination, encourage children to think, and make interest his best teacher.

Rule 6: Strengthening the law

Cultivate good habits

People's behavior, after some repeated experiences, will be fixed and form habits.

The formation of habits requires parents to guide their children with correct educational methods and stick to them together, such as getting up early to exercise.

In this process, parents should not only regulate their children's behavior, but also appreciate their every progress, so as to make their children more motivated to stick to it.

Rule 7: Fish tank rule

Spiritual growth needs freedom.

The small fish in the fish tank is still a small fish after many years. One day, the little fish was put into a fish pond, and it grew up like crazy.

Children are like that little fish. He will grow as much as we have room for him.

Learn to let go and give children more space to control themselves, and children will fly higher and go further.

Rule 8: Example Rules

Children need role models for their growth.

Children's upbringing, interests, etc. Most of them come from the growing environment.

Parents should pay attention to the influence of social relations and frequent occasions on their children, such as idols they worship and friends they associate with.

At the same time, parents should standardize their words and deeds and set up good learning objects for their children.