Many parents feel that their authority has been challenged and even angry because their children contradict themselves. However, children will enter a rebellious state at a certain age, which generally has two stages: before and after entering the primary school campus and adolescence. Parents will find that children always talk back to themselves, even disobey discipline and oppose themselves. Parents don't have to be angry about it. This is a manifestation of children's self-awareness, and it also reflects that children are forming the ability of independent thinking and self-judgment. Children are independent individuals, not accessories of their parents, and they don't need and shouldn't obey all the instructions of their parents.
Secondly, when communicating with children, parents should adhere to a principle: sparse but not blocked.
Effective communication is the premise of establishing intimate relationship. When arguing, people will inevitably raise their voices to gain an imposing advantage, and so will children. But in the face of children's refutation, parents should keep calm and try their best? Good advice? . Children like to imitate others. When you are gentle, he may listen silently. When you are tough, he may temporarily put aside the pros and cons analysis and decide to go against you. Listen to children's thoughts and patiently analyze the advantages and disadvantages of principled issues; Parents should also know trivia? Seeking common ground while reserving differences? .
However,? Sparse? Be moderate. If children don't make money or even push their luck, it is necessary for parents to take some measures to punish their children.
Parents also have their own childhood and have experienced rebellious period, so do parents know that people are inevitable in rebellious period? Be an asshole? . In the face of children, when preaching does not work, parents can take some appropriate corporal punishment measures. (Pay attention to proper corporal punishment. It is not advisable for Eagle Dad to let his children run naked in the snow in winter. In addition to corporal punishment, parents can also suspend giving their children pocket money or refuse their children's requests to buy toys several times. The child will have a strong resistance to these punishments at first, but when he calms down, he will probably realize his mistakes and correct them.
In short, parents should first play the good COP after making clear their position. When it doesn't work, play the good COP again. Of course, the combination of kindness and prestige is also a good method.