Parents' "oppressive education" may push children further and further. How to educate children correctly? 1. What is "oppressive education"?

1. Parents ignore their children's ideas in education.

Parents regard education as their love and sorrow, and completely ignore their children's thoughts. Oppressive education makes children's ideas ignored and denied. However, this kind of work pressure can't be seen or touched, but it will make children feel very rested. The idea of not seeing children has become the most intuitive expression of oppressive education.

2. Parents lack respect for children's personality traits in education.

Parents give their children life and raise them, so some parents will feel that their beliefs can surpass their children. Under the oppressive education, parents lack respect for their children, and parents can't see the consciousness and guilt on their children's backs. Parents' shocks and accusations make children unable to cope. The essence of oppressive education is that parents lack respect for their children.

3. Parents are too controlling

Manipulation will make people feel very safe, so parents who are worried about their children's direction deviation will put their desire for control on their children, thinking that it is good for them, in order to give them less bumps. Parents manipulate their children's behavior, making them feel that their education is under control, but forgetting that children are not dolls to bridge the gap. Oppressive education makes children feel depressed and miserable.

Second, what adverse effects will parents' "oppressive education" bring?

Ms. Zhao from Chongqing came to the police station that night to report that her daughter had left home. When the police learned that the child was only 8 years old, they called the police for emergency response and retrieved the data provided by Zhao Nvshi. That day, the child went home with a report card in his hand. Ms. Zhao criticized her child when she saw that her exam results were not good. Unexpectedly, violent words made the child sprout the idea of running away. So, the child left a note "goodbye mom." This made Zhao Nvshi worry about his children's safety, and he also regretted his mistakes in education. Fortunately, in the end, all the girls were found by the police, and there was no accident.

1. Hurt the parent-child relationship.

When parents carry out oppressive education for their children, children will feel great pressure and produce dissatisfaction. When parents' oppression exceeds the scope of children's commitment, children's negative emotions will erupt. At this moment, the emotional relationship between parents and children will also be destroyed, and parents and children will eventually stand on opposite sides.

2. Hurt the child's character formation

Accustomed to oppressive education, a child's character will eventually become insecure. Children's personal evaluation is relatively low, and they always feel better than others. Children are depressed and negative, and even lack enthusiasm for life.

3. Endangering children's socialization

Children accustomed to oppressive education are hard to be sympathetic, strict with themselves and others. Children's socialization is influenced by parents' wrong education to some extent. Children can't feel the situation of others, and their emotional control ability is weak.