Parents' excessive concern is undoubtedly a poison to children. ...
Before the article begins, let's look at two cases about sanitation workers.
Every weekend morning, the little boy will help his mother as a sanitation worker clean the street.
After cleaning, mother and son will have a rest and chat together. The warm picture is touching.
A chubby young woman dragged a sanitation worker several meters by hand, and other sanitation workers rushed forward to stop the rack. It turned out that the daughter was asking her mother for money!
This mother is almost 50 years old, and has been a sanitation worker for more than 10 years, with only a few thousand dollars a month.
My daughter also became a mother, and from time to time she reached out to her mother for money. If she doesn't give money, she will abuse, quarrel and fight. ......
As a child of a sanitation worker, why is this little boy so sympathetic to his mother, while that young woman has become a "baiwenhang"?
How can a teenager soaked in honey know the taste of sadness?
Someone asked the little boy's mother: Your child is really sensible. How did you educate them?
Female sanitation workers are not good at words and can't say too many educational reasons. Some are embarrassed to say, "Our poor children have been in charge for a long time!"
Many children from poor families are very sensible and many are very headstrong. I believe there must be some factors that cause this difference.
What is this factor? After reading the following story, I suddenly realized.
A gentleman was addicted to surfing the Internet in high school, and often climbed over the wall to surf the Internet in the middle of the night. One day, he climbed over the wall as usual, turned to the middle and ran back, looking strange and asking nothing.
Since then, he has studied hard and stopped surfing the Internet. There is a rumor at school that he is a ghost.
Later, I was admitted to a prestigious school, and my former classmates asked about it. He was silent for a long time, saying that his father came to deliver the living expenses that day, so he couldn't bear to stay in a hotel and sat under the wall all night.
Have you ever been moved by this father?
But if the father's hardships were not unexpectedly discovered by the naughty son, would the son turn over a new leaf?
Children are not born with sympathy for their parents.
Only when you truly feel the hardships and sufferings of your parents will you be grateful to your parents, and you will be strict with yourself and live up to your parents' painstaking efforts.
Excessive "care" of parents is blind "poison"
At present, there is a terrible phenomenon in China-"the rich second generation of the whole people".
Children from rich families should be raised by the second generation, and children from poor families should also be raised by the second generation. "No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, and you can't suffer children."
Many parents make every effort to give their children the best living conditions regardless of the differences in family resource endowments.
Husband and wife plus four old people, six people with a child, clothes to reach out, food to open your mouth, really afraid of falling into your hands, afraid of melting in your mouth.
"Children from poor families have long been masters of their own affairs" was indeed the case in the past.
When I was at school, I tried to strive for a better life through study.
I never spend money indiscriminately, because I know that every penny my parents give me to study is hard-won.
Not only me, but also most of the children around me at that time.
Now some families with poor conditions feel indebted to their children and worry that their children are not as good as others' children, resulting in inferiority complex. On the contrary, it is even more spoiled, spoiled.
Most children live a happy life. There is air conditioning when it is hot; There is heating when it is cold; Every family has snacks to eat; Everyone has new clothes to wear.
No matter how hard and tired parents are, they are reluctant to let their children suffer.
When parents want to give their children all the good things in the world and all the love, they forget to tell their children one thing: the hardships of life are unimaginable.
Excessive "care" of parents is undoubtedly a kind of "poison" for children.
Children enjoy everything with peace of mind, and have no thoughts of contentment, gratitude and consideration for their parents, not to mention the difficulty of life.
On the contrary, it also breeds many bad habits of vanity and laziness.
The so-called disease of wealth and difficulty in adaptation are all melodramatic.
There is a hot post in Zhihu, saying that the rich second generation who study abroad have no education and can't adapt to it, and they have a very serious sense of rejection of studying abroad. After barely finishing a semester, they plan to drop out of school.
Without a word, my father told him not to go back to China during the holiday, not to stay at home, and to go out to work.
After the teenager found a job in a Chinese restaurant, he began the days of "hot water" and "darkness".
"The owner of the restaurant is extremely demanding. He throws all the dirty words at me. My main tasks are washing dishes, mopping the floor, cutting vegetables, moving drinks and often frying rice. For a time, I even dreamed that I was frying rice.
I have to obey the orders of other shop assistants, where the garbage should be taken out and where the toilet is blocked. As soon as their upper lip touches their lower lip, I have to solve it.
The people who work in the shop have no education, no green card and no English, and I am new here, with the lowest position, so naturally I have no status.
After work at night, a group of people share a room, and there is no privacy at all.
They snore during sleep, which is another kind of torture for me who has a shallow sleep. I often can't sleep all night, and I will be scolded if I get up and work the next day without energy. "
A month later, with hard-earned hard-earned money, he went home despondently. Dad said something meaningfully:
Not everyone has to finish high school and go to college, and then go to work in the company after graduation.
It's just that if we don't take this relatively easy road, most people will have to do rough work and hard work.
But doing rough work is also divided into people. Some people can do it, others can't.
Some people have no conditions and no way, they can only do rough work and have nothing to say; But some people will regret it in the future if they give up willfully and miss good conditions and opportunities.
Of course, if someone is gifted and can play NBA at the age of 3, 5 or 18, these words do not apply to him. Otherwise, studying hard will never make people suffer.
Since then, teenagers have studied hard and never adapted. It turns out that the so-called diseases that are difficult to adapt to money are all melodramatic, just eat hard.
Diligence and hard work are the best gifts for children.
We have no conditions to keep our children away from studying abroad, but we can still give them more experiences in daily life and provide them with opportunities to gain and hone.
My nephew took the mid-term exam, and then a long vacation. His parents asked me for help and introduced me to work in a tea shop near my home to experience life.
Every day when I come back, I have a new topic, either about what we did in the day or who came to the store and got to know some riders and some salesmen who delivered fast food. That's right.
One day I asked him: Is it easy to go to work? He said: it is not easy. I have been calling my brother and sister these days, and my face is stiff with laughter.
I told his parents about it, and they were very happy.
No matter how good the education is for children, it is better to let him personally feel the difficulty of the adult world!
As Zeng Guofan said: "It is an excellent thing for sons and nephews to teach them to clean the house, clean the table and stool, collect manure and weed besides reading. They must never do anything to damage the shelves. "
Nowadays, parents always want to give their children the best conditions, which is actually harmful to their children.
In the process of growing up, the richer the material, the more exhausted the spirit; When the spirit is exhausted, the pace of creating matter will naturally stop.
On the contrary, giving children real growth, letting them know the hardships, teaching them to cherish gifts and wealth, and guiding them to rely on diligence and hard work are the deepest gifts for children.