The essence of positive discipline is to teach parents to transform their children into their ideal children in many ways. As the ancients said, lead by example. Parents do not reflect on themselves, do not correct themselves, but take it for granted that they are there? Absolutely right In this position, if you use skills to suppress children, you will feel that children must be uncomfortable psychologically and education will not receive good results.

The essence of education is to let children be true to themselves and become adults who are responsible for their own thoughts and actions. Coupled with etiquette and skills, he is polite to others and has the means to make a living. How parents treat their children will have a far-reaching impact on them. There are no perfect people in the world, and parents are certainly not perfect. Why do you feel that your thoughts, behaviors, etc. are all right? Too arrogant.

Try to extract something from the book. Positive discipline will teach you how to win children. Pay attention to winning? Parents won, so who lost? Children, of course. Is it normal for children to feel that they have lost for a long time? The book says that if a child does something and parents don't want him to do it, then parents must first show understanding for the child's feelings. Of course, this kind of understanding is limited to words, and at the same time, it is necessary to hint to the child that the parents' understanding is correct, so that he can trust you, not his own feelings and feelings. Is this ridiculous?

A child fell, a little scared and a little painful, and the parents said, no pain! Not afraid! It's okay, be brave! Is this an absurd answer? Parents should comfort the fallen child from both physical and mental aspects: Does it hurt? Surprise. Let me see if I'm hurt. Express parents' empathy and care.

Then the above brainwashing method of positive discipline is coming, and parents should also show sympathy for their children, and there is no forgiveness sympathy. Then tell their parents how they feel, and then let the children think about how to transform themselves according to their parents' instructions to make their parents happier. Feel that positive discipline is just for parents to take care of? Kind? Tone and language guide children to think that they are wrong, so as to achieve the initial goal of parents being right and parents being authoritative, and then let children make corresponding changes according to their parents' guidance, so as to make their parents happy, make their children warm-hearted, and make their children in a kind of? I can't? Psychological growth.

Parents are advised not to learn positive discipline, but to learn Sun Ruixue's love and freedom.