I have experience in this field. My mother's colleague's son has such a girlfriend, who is very disobedient, making him very anxious, and his mother is also very anxious.

At first, the boys severely scolded their girlfriends, which backfired and made the girls more disobedient.

? So, he changed his strategy, thought about her thoughts from her standpoint, and then looked for opportunities to communicate with each other attentively. Really, girls become very obedient. It's incredible! In fact, in feelings, the two sides should respect each other and get along happily on an equal footing. It is very difficult to completely make the other person obey his own wishes, because everyone is an independent individual and is also an independent individual in feelings. When you want to make the other person obedient, it is really that the other person is not doing well enough, which destroys the original balanced relationship between you, rather than not being obedient as long as the other person does not satisfy your meaning. When your girlfriend is disobedient, don't preach, but communicate on an equal footing.

? He realized that he couldn't give the meaning of making the other person obey you. You should first ask yourself if you are too controlling and want to interfere in each other's life, so you begin to have the idea of making the other person obey you completely. If it is our inner desire for control, we should tell ourselves that such behavior will make the other party uncomfortable and unfair. We should fully respect each other's independent personality and not restrict each other's freedom and behavior. He slowly began to let go and stopped showing his desire for control.