Positive Discipline After reading 1 Positive Discipline, it is of great inspiration to the cultivation of children and the teaching process. Tell me more about my feelings.
First of all, active discipline is a way to discipline children without punishment or connivance ... Only in a cordial and firm atmosphere can children cultivate self-discipline awareness, sense of responsibility, cooperative spirit and problem-solving ability, learn social skills and life skills that will benefit them for life, and achieve good academic results. I think this is a major premise and purpose of this book. If we can walk on the road of our teaching on this premise, I believe that if there are big problems in the way we treat students, we can all solve them through positive discipline or really improve them, instead of getting worse.
Second, I understand the following four wrong purposes:
1, seeking excessive attention-misunderstanding: Only when teachers pay attention, students have a sense of belonging.
2, seeking power-misunderstanding: only when the students have the final say or at least the teacher can't give me an order, I have a sense of belonging.
3, revenge-wrong idea: students can't get ownership, but at least he can make teachers suffer the same.
4, give up on yourself-wrong idea: there can be no ownership.
I gave up. These kinds of wrong purposes among students are actually the real internal reasons for their misconduct and the internal driving force for their problems. But as teachers, we can only see the negative appearance of students, but can't see the essence of appearance, and many problems can't be solved fundamentally. In fact, this may be the reason why many of our students make mistakes again and again. If our teacher can really understand the things behind children's behavior, maybe many problems will be much easier and more effective for us to deal with.
3. Self-esteem, an error-prone concept. After reading this book, I have a new understanding of the self-esteem we talked about before. I believe that if we think we can give students self-esteem, it is actually a kind of harm to children. A campaign of "giving children self-esteem" has continued to this day, including praise, happy stickers, smiling faces and making children "the most important person today" that we often use inside and outside the classroom. These can be fun or harmless, as long as children don't think their self-esteem depends on the external evaluation of others. If this happens, the child may become an "apple polisher" or "always seek others' approval". They learn to observe other people's reactions to judge whether their actions are right or wrong, instead of self-evaluation and introspection. They cultivate "her respect", not "self-esteem". The most beneficial thing we can do for children is to teach them to learn self-evaluation, instead of letting them rely on others' praise or opinions. I want to think about this carefully, and I can continue to implement it through improvement in my future work.
Fourth, children need to feel that they are needed. How can we "win" children? Children will be encouraged when they think you understand their point of view. Once they feel understood, they will be more willing to listen to your point of view and try to find a solution. Remember, it is easier for children to listen to you after they feel that you are listening.
The book Positive Discipline is really a good book. I believe it can lead me to a wider and wider teaching path in my future work.
Frontal discipline 2 Frontal discipline This book has been on my shelf for a long time. This holiday, when I read with my children before going to bed at night, I can take it down and read it well. It happens that my troublemaker is over two years old, and it seems that he is in the rebellious period of his children. Don't! Words like "don't" give me a headache Through this book, let me seek some ways to get along with children.
Written by American psychologist Dr. jane nelsen, this book is a classic that will benefit millions of children, parents and teachers for life. The book repeatedly emphasizes that positive discipline is a way to discipline children without punishment or arrogance. Only in a cordial and firm atmosphere can children cultivate self-discipline, sense of responsibility, cooperative spirit and problem-solving ability, learn social skills and life skills that will benefit them for life, and achieve good academic results. The book mainly introduces how to use positive discipline to make children acquire this ability, and tells us how to communicate effectively with children with a large number of cases, as well as the underlying reasons behind it. The book convincingly explains the deep meaning of why parents and teachers must do this, and how to correctly interpret the information behind children's wrong behavior and how to take the most effective countermeasures.
What benefits me most is: how to deal with children's bad behavior? Drex emphasizes encouragement as the most important skill that adults should learn when helping children. He said many times: "Children need encouragement, just as plants need water. They can't survive without encouragement. " Nelson believes that it is the best way to help a misbehaving child through encouragement, which is really not easy to do. Encouragement is not a compliment, but an opportunity for children to form the cognition that "I have the ability, I can contribute, I can influence what happens to me, and I can know how to respond". Encouragement is to teach children the necessary life skills and social responsibility in daily life and interpersonal relationships. Encouragement can be as simple as hugging, helping children feel better and do better. I try to use this method to make the child face the difficulties boldly and give him enough sense of security. A boy's independence and courage to face setbacks are necessary conditions for the formation of his character. I will try my best to give him timely encouragement when he finishes something by himself, but not blindly. More often, I am observing and watching, and I am not eager to participate, guide or help. Instead, I will let the child explore for himself and remind him to ask for help when he can't solve it himself.
Halfway through this book, the road to educating children has just taken the first step in the Long March. I think this book has not only brought me some educational methods, but also taught me to think hard. Only by sinking down and thinking seriously and being good at summing up can we have a steady stream of gains.
Positive discipline 3. Recently, I read a book called Positive Discipline. Is this book an American Jane? Nelson wrote it. After reading this book with my parents, I was deeply touched.
Active Discipline is a book about how to discipline children psychologically and emotionally. This book has 12 chapters. I like the first chapter of the article best, because the first chapter uses a comparative method to describe the ways and means of educating children in different families from the simplest thing that we usually have breakfast. In a strict family, children will be beaten by their parents because they don't eat breakfast, which will easily lead to their grumpy and inferior mentality; In a pampered family, children can eat whatever they want. They feel that only by constantly directing others to meet their own needs will they highlight their importance in the family and let children develop a selfish and arrogant temperament from an early age.
Finally, in an actively disciplined family, the child does not eat breakfast, but the parents will not punish him. They just made him realize the consequences of his choice and his mistakes. Parents educate their children in this way, which not only respects their choices, but also makes them realize that their choices are sometimes insufficient. This story illustrates with vivid examples the differences between the three ways of interaction between adults and children, and how effective positive discipline is.
The author also said: Only parents maintain their children's dignity, respect their children and have a firm attitude. Children will understand that their bad behavior will not only fail to get what they want, but also bring harm to themselves. This will encourage them to change their behavior while maintaining their self-esteem. I feel the same way here. Only with the encouragement and help of parents behind the children will they realize their mistakes, and then the children will unplug their bad habits from the root.
Although I haven't finished reading this book, I have realized that I have the habit of losing my temper at ordinary times, and I will try my best to let myself learn to control and restrain myself in the future. If you can't, ask everyone for help.