Parents' role in life is always strict, whether it is father or mother, we are all faced with this. In many families, the elders are basically doting on their children, because with the improvement of living conditions, every family has changed.
However, in the face of all kinds of things, the elders headed by their children are just looking forward to it. Treating this change is also something that every family needs to pay attention to. Is the mother educating her children in the right way? Should children be angry and spoiled? If there is a person at home who is against his education, how to avoid it?
We always think that the important role in the family must be the father, but in today's life, the mother is the "red face" in the family, responsible for all the affairs in the family, and she has also become an important responsibility in the family.
Like many people, Ma Bao will complain that another member of his family will stand up against his own practice when educating his children. For such a long time, the child has an object to rely on.
After that, whenever the child does something wrong, he will go to the "dependent", which may be his father or his grandparents. Of course, every family is different.
The so-called growth of children is based on family education. If you want to educate your children into people with correct ideas, you must first grasp the role of "positioning" in the family, otherwise it will be counterproductive.
We often say that a person's education begins at home, is more important than school, and is wider than society. Everyone's growth path can't be separated from the encouragement and spur of people around him. Just like before, at the entrance of the kindergarten, every mother can always be heard spitting at each other, talking about family, career and, most importantly, children.
Every parent is talking about how their children are doing recently, but the most fatal thing is their education, such as grandpa's "protecting calves" and dad's "doing nothing".
But even if you complain, it is inevitable, because the social and economic pressure makes the one-child family have to hand over their children to their parents for discipline. This is the fact, and contradictions continue to arise.
In modern society, it is basically normal for parents to help take care of their children, but for mothers, it is also an annoyance for parents to spoil their children too much. In most families, it is normal for grandpa to come out to protect his grandson.
Sometimes, when you listen to the story of "protecting calves", you will think of your own scene. Although every family has its own problems, any family will have a "calf care", but this has also become a difficult problem in educating children in Ma Bao.
Parents will also discuss with others how to solve this problem. I remember a parent told me that her son had just entered primary school and was very uncomfortable. When he first came back, he could still finish his homework, but after a while, the child became lazy.
Every day, the children clamor for candy and watch TV when they get home. Ma Bao wanted to cure the children of their illness and let them study hard, but when the children were about to compromise, Grandpa broke the "defense line".
Grandpa's behavior made Ma Bao very angry. As soon as the child cried, grandpa quickly coaxed him up and turned on the TV for him. After that, Ma Bao went to communicate with the child's grandfather. Who knows that my father-in-law is getting more and more excited, saying that he has done nothing wrong.
Say, "What's wrong with watching TV for a while? How old is the child, you don't care if the child cries, you can stand it, I can't stand it! " Ma Bao replied, "You have confused this concept. Children can't get used to it, you know? " ? But my father-in-law still thinks there is nothing wrong.
Whenever this happens, my father-in-law will break his own way of education, which will inevitably make Ma Bao very embarrassed, because blindly indulging himself will make the children more and more presumptuous, knowing that no matter what happens, someone will lean on him behind his back.
This will lower the bottom line for children and make it difficult for Ma Bao to do so. On the one hand, parents-in-law, on the other hand, their own children. She hopes that her children can "distinguish right from wrong", but they can't argue with their parents-in-law because of this.
But no one can resist, the details of life will do harm to children, and incorrect ideological education will make children go astray in their later lives. It is not that it is wrong to spoil, but it must be wrong to spoil too much.
When children are young, we must give them a correct concept, especially when they are in primary school. If the child's concept deviates in the critical period of concept, his personality may also undergo earth-shaking changes.
The elders have always loved their children. As the younger generation, they can't be active. And as a wife, it is easy to cause contradictions. Therefore, in the face of her parents-in-law, Ma Bao can neither conflict with her parents nor relax her vigilance on children's education.
What should Grandpa do to "protect the calf"?
1. live separately from the elders
Living separately is the best way to solve the fundamental problem. If you want to live together and have no children, there will be contradictions. The concepts and living habits of the older generation are very different from ours. Friction is certain, and it will also arouse contradictions in the unsatisfactory life.
Even if you don't live with your parents and live with friends, there will be contradictions in your living habits, but your peers will be more likely to integrate. If we live with our parents, their interference is inevitable, because they have doubts about our way of life, which is normal.
Nowadays, no matter whether young people buy things or eat and drink, their elders will not be particularly used to it. They buy and consume in large quantities and don't know how to be frugal. There is a gap in education between their children.
Therefore, if you can live apart, you should never be together. Take care of your children if you have the ability and time, and don't bother your elders. But if there is really no way, try to integrate, or discuss with your husband and let him guide your parents.
Communicate with children
A good way of education will certainly make children listen to their own words, communicate with them seriously about right and wrong, let them know clearly how much grandparents love them, and tell them what to do in the future. In addition, husband and wife must reach an agreed goal.
On the issue of educating children, husband and wife should have a common understanding. In this family, we should keep the same voice, communicate well where the child did something wrong, and tell her the correct way and idea, and finally achieve a good child.
abstract
There is always a "black and white" face at home. Everyone treats children in different ways and has different ideas. Therefore, in the face of some things, it is best to communicate in time. When the child is noisy, let the child know that this is wrong. In the face of the doting of elders, we should also communicate well.