This is an old saying that children are poor and daughters are rich, and its origin cannot be tested. But it has always been regarded as a parenting bible by some parents. Let the son suffer and let him learn to struggle. As for my daughter, of course I will give her the best possible, so as not to be cheated away by a big piece of candy. It sounds like this at first glance, but there is no scientific basis. So is this statement really correct?

A pair of children, a family of four, friends are also winners in life after marriage. But in his home, I found that the treatment of sons and daughters is really different. One lives like a princess, the other like a beggar. When asked about friends, he said an old saying, poor children are raised by rich daughters. I have to give my daughter the best, so that I won't be confused by some small favors when choosing the right husband. As for his son, he has to learn to struggle since he was a child. How can a child struggle without pain?

First, why not advocate that boys are poor and girls are rich? 1. There is no scientific basis to support it.

Looking through the research results of parenting books and children's psychology, we can't find the scientific basis for the concept that boys are poor and girls are rich. It can be seen that this established concept is more in people's perceptual knowledge, and then summarized and spread to this day. Maybe some daughters of poor families can't resist the temptation to be cheated away by a candy when they grow up, or the sons of rich families have been extravagant since childhood and lost their families. Then, as soon as everyone talked about it, they came to the conclusion that men are easy to go bad when they have money, and women are easy to be cheated when they have no money, so they should raise their children poor and their daughters rich. This perceptual knowledge comes from the extreme summary of extreme cases, which obviously has no scientific basis.

2. The concept of the development of the times should also be updated.

In the older generation, the division of roles between men and women is relatively clear, with men in charge and women in charge. Men are the main creators of wealth, and a little hardship will also help men bear the burden of family in the future. Women are relatively passive and obedient in marriage and love, and they are the enjoyment and dominator of wealth. It is also a defensive measure to let girls see the world when they are young. However, with the development of the times and the rise of women's role status, women begin to be independent, and it is particularly important to have independent economic ability. The wave of consumerism has led to excessive consumption, and the support of both the poor and the rich is facing greater risks.

2. Poor education and rich education are both extreme educational concepts.

Whether poor or rich, it is an overcorrected educational concept, which is not conducive to cultivating children's correct view of money. Boys also need moderate material satisfaction, and girls should understand that money is hard to come by. If girls can't be economically independent in the future, it will be difficult to be independent and will cause problems in today's society. Both the poor and the rich have an extreme view of money, and equality between men and women is the general trend. It is obviously not advisable to educate men and women with extreme differences in money. It will make children have completely different ideas about money, conflict in the process of communication, and form a deformed view of money.

Second, what harm will this concept bring? 1. Boys will be too frugal and even stingy.

Long-term bad education for boys will have a negative impact on the development of children's concept of money. It will make children pay too much attention to money, and even the necessary basic consumption or value investment will be too restrained, which will easily make children stingy, which is not conducive to their future development.

2. Girls become extravagant and unrestrained.

While girls have been enjoying a good life, it is difficult to understand the hard-won money. When shopping desire is not restrained, girls will get lost in the tide of excessive consumption. In this era of rapid development of e-commerce, girls' shopping desire is also easily aroused by advertisements. If they are careless, they will overspend and don't know how to arrange their money reasonably, which will also have a great negative impact on their future growth.

3. It is not conducive to establishing a correct view of money.

Poor support and rich support are both extreme views on money. So that boys and girls have an incorrect understanding of money. Because of long-term lack of material satisfaction, boys will become weak in the face of money, and even take risks for money. Girls have no specific concept of money, which is not conducive to the cultivation of children's independent personality.

Poor support and rich support are harmful to children. It will make children have different problems when facing money. Boys are too thrifty to save value investment, which in turn affects the development of life. Girls who are too extravagant will eventually fall into a dilemma because they don't know how to consume rationally. Cultivating children's correct view of money plays an important role in their future development.

Third, how to let children establish a correct view of money? 1. Meet children's moderate material needs and value investment. When children are not financially independent, what parents should do is to meet children's moderate material needs and do what they can according to their family situation. Parents should encourage their children to study and invest, instead of blindly raising their children in poverty and wealth. Proper spending is the best view of money.

2. Let children understand that getting money requires legal labor.

Children grow up to about 6 years old and have a preliminary understanding of money. At this time, parents can pay attention to telling their children that it takes sweat to get money. In life, they can also guide children to get a certain reward by paying labor, give them a certain amount of money, and let them learn to use money reasonably. A gentleman makes money in a proper way.

More importantly, spiritual prosperity.

On the basis of meeting children's moderate material needs, parents should pay attention to guiding material life to become the basis of life, guiding children to adapt to various lives, and exercising their adaptability, instead of paying too much attention to material needs. Spiritual abundance and happiness are the source of realizing the value of life. Let children have stronger adaptability, live in a five-star hotel and sleep in a wooden bed. We don't advocate deliberate hardship, but we shouldn't enjoy it too much. The difference between people is not material enjoyment, but spiritual independence and difference.

Educating children is a process of thinking, and slogans and dogmatism should be avoided. Too superstitious about some golden rules will make children form a deformed concept. Respect the reasonable needs of children, and raising the poor and raising the rich is the embodiment of overcorrection. Let children form a reasonable view of money, just as the ancestors said, a gentleman loves money, takes it properly and uses it properly, so that children can face money correctly, so as to grasp this double-edged sword well.