First, the fish tank rule: the growth of the soul needs freedom.
In a company, several small fish have been kept in a fish tank for several years, and they are still so small, so everyone thinks that this fish is such a small head.
One day, the fish tank broke down, because I couldn't find it at the moment, so I put it in the yard pond. I didn't expect these fish to grow so big crazily.
Fish need free growth space, especially people. We often help children make choices, choose schools, choose clothes, choose toys and so on. We often help children answer.
Therefore, children have no choice and no thinking. So he has no innovative thinking and will not try too much. You can let him learn a lot of knowledge, but you can't let him draw inferences from others and make him have a better imagination.
Second, strengthen the law.
People's habits are cultivated, whether consciously or unconsciously. Facts have proved that a good habit will lead people to success or have a good attitude.
There is a whale experiment. Scientists put a glass wall in the water, and whales and objects were put aside. At first, the whale hit the glass, and then it finally found it impossible.
So, after a while, I stopped playing. Later, scientists pulled down the glass wall. However, whales still move only on their own side like those whales with glass walls.
Like this story, people's behavior is fixed after a period of time or some repeated experiences, forming a habit. Research shows that 2 1 day is enough to form a habit.
Of course, if you want to change a habit, it is closely related to the time when the habit was formed. Change will be more difficult and take more time. So pay attention to the details of children and pay attention to guidance. A good habit is a fortune, and he will enjoy it all his life.
Third, the Rosenthal effect: positive expectations for children.
Rosenthal was an American psychologist in the 20th century, and Pygmalion was the protagonist of ancient Greek mythology. This effect refers to the effect that a positive expectation brings positive results.
In Pygmalion mythology, he is the king of Severus and a sculptor. He fell in love with a statue as beautiful as himself, and he hoped that she would accept him. His persistent love touched the goddess of love, so the statue survived and became the king's wife.
So there is today's Saif Lu Si people. Myths make people laugh after all. However, Rosenthal's experiment produced this effect.
He gave positive and negative comments to two groups of students who were randomly combined. Later, it was really such a positive or negative result. Positive expectation is actually an external support.
In people's minds, family and friends are the core of this support force, and their expected support is also more shaping. When you are frustrated, both children and adults are very much looking forward to this power.
On the other hand, without this positive expectation and support, he will become negative or depressed after setbacks.
Fourth, the law of natural punishment: children bear their own mistakes.
Rousseau thinks that the punishment of children is the natural result of his mistakes. This is a natural punishment. In our words: everyone is responsible for his own actions, and your fault cannot be borne by others.
Another aspect of this method is: sometimes, let the children try it themselves. If he thinks it's better to wear less, let him stay cold. What he experienced personally is often more profound than what we preached to him.
John forgot to bring food again and again, and his mother said it many times. When he forgot, she was afraid that John was hungry and sent it to him. One day, my mother learned about the natural punishment law. She told John not to forget to bring food to school today. My mother is very busy today. If you forget, you can only starve yourself.
John agreed, but he still forgot to bring his meal. He called his mother and touched her proudly, but she decided to leave him. So John was hungry all afternoon. At home, John was angry, but his mother still ignored him. Later, he finally managed not to forget.
Fifth, path dependence: form good habits from childhood.
People's habits are just like walking. If you choose a path, people will follow it. This is "path dependence". Good habits, like roads, will affect a child's life.
An elephant can only be tied with a thin rope; A baby elephant needs two chains; This is a compulsory habit. Good habits are a good way of thinking, but what you can think of doesn't mean you can do it.
Once upon a time, a poor man found a way to turn stone into gold in a book. He searched for the golden stone day after day and year after year according to the method in the book.
In order to distinguish the stones he was looking for, he threw all the ordinary stones into the sea. One day, he met a stone that turned gold, and he threw it into the sea. When I came to my senses, I couldn't find it.
The power of habit is powerful, so education is to cultivate a good habit. It is difficult for a lazy person to study hard.
Sixth, the law of diminishing talent: early education of children.
The cultivation of children's potential follows the law of decreasing talent, that is, children's talent decreases with age, and the more education they receive, the less their innate potential is exerted. Today, with the popularization of national education in China, there are fewer and fewer excellent craftsmen.
Experienced fishermen say that there are fewer people who are good at swimming and casting nets as in the past, because today's children are all in their teens, and water kungfu must be practiced from the age of ten, which shows that although Brazil is not rich, there are many football talents.
Many experts believe that if you don't start practicing the piano at the age of five and the violin at the age of three, you can't reach a high level. In other words, if there is no ability to cultivate children during the development period, the potential will decrease.