? A perfect mother sometimes has no better influence on her children than a lonely mother. Because an over-perfect mother often infringes on the child's boundaries and limits the child's subjective ability, in the long run, the child will not only be unable to form the ability to solve problems, but also form the habit of dependence and form an independent personality.

According to psychology, a good enough mother should be a mother with a score of 60, which is between a perfect mother and a bad mother.

The difference between these three types of mothers is that bad mother will not appear when the child feels the greatest fear and despair, and the perfect mother will take the child away because of the fear that the child has not yet felt. And a good enough 60-point mother is to help her children at the worst time.

In fact, many people understand this truth. After all, children's lives are their own decisions, and we can only help them, not dominate their lives. However, in reality, it is difficult for us to control our own borders. If you are not careful, you will easily cross the line and take care of too much.

? Yu's mother in the documentary "After Zero" series is such a mother. She also knows that as a mother, she should give her children space and boundaries, but it is difficult to control her desire to do more.

It can be said that she has paid a lot for the growth of little Quincy.

In order to let his children receive the best education, he moved to Huilongguan in the suburbs of Beijing, so that Quincy could receive the education of Ba Xueyuan with advanced parenting education ideas from an early age. To this end, even caused the separation of husband and wife.

? In order to insist on breastfeeding, my mother runs between work and kindergarten. After Xi Kun went to primary school, in order to take better care of Xi Kun, her mother quit her job and became a full-time mother.

? Mother Xi Kun follows the educational theory of protecting children's nature and respecting children's choices, which is also the educational concept advocated by Ba Xueyuan. Kun, who is lively and active, is fully respected and cared for in Ba Academy.

? 20 10 Kun, who entered primary school in September, doesn't seem to adapt to the regular primary school classroom as quickly as other children. The classroom in his consciousness is still a free and happy environment in the Ba Xue Garden. His confusion and confusion are obvious in his sentence "Mom will help", and he hopes to get mom's help. On second thought, my mother finally quit her job to accompany Kun.

? Obviously, Xi Kun pays more attention to the exploration of things than people, and his mother's full respect and understanding make Xi Kun very devoted and fond of scientific and technological experiments. To this end, his mother even set up a studio to let him explore better. His ideal of becoming a scientist was also recognized by his mother. Besides scientific experiments, magic is also Quincy's hobby, but Quincy, who is more and more fascinated by magic, still makes his mother worry about his future. After all, magic is not necessarily a good career to support the family.

? In order to make Quincy communicate more with people and pay more attention to people, his mother gave him a language training class like his little friend very early, but after two years of study, his little friend has been upgraded to an advanced class, and Quincy still stands still and has no interest in learning after his little friend left.

? In the last summer vacation of primary school, his mother signed him up for an English summer camp so that he could communicate more with his peers.

? Whether in class or summer camp, Kun still prefers to be alone. He is at a loss in the hot game, refuses the kindness and proximity of others, and lies that he is uncomfortable and wants to stay alone in the dormitory. .....

His mother won him a chance to perform magic in the summer camp, but his nervousness made him want to give up. So his mother rushed to the summer camp to help him overcome his nervousness and finally let him stand on the stage.

Mom is still struggling with the degree between management and no matter. Although it seems to us that she has paid a lot, she thinks that she is not a very good mother and should pass, but her score will not be very high.

? How to solve this love equation is really difficult to grasp.