Sometimes we give, whether to colleagues or students, people who care often feel that they know what the interests of the people we care about are. In fact, they will easily decide what these benefits are. Never listen carefully to the new life of the people they care about. The continuation of this compulsive consciousness is really a great tragedy of traditional education. You will find out how the so-called caring behavior brings obvious pain to the lives of people who are concerned. Some behaviors are recognized as caring, but in fact, the harmful effects of those behaviors on the specific people concerned and even the whole generation in the future are just covered up.
Yes, before I read this book, I thought I was particularly concerned about my children, my students and my family. However, my concern may be a burden to others, just like the underachievers in the class. They need not only simple care, a greeting, but also what they really need. In addition to moral encouragement, practical actions are needed to help them find out the reasons for their poor grades.
Constructivism in most schools mentioned in the book doesn't surprise me at all. I thought about it, but it hasn't risen to the theoretical level yet. Children never need indoctrination, and no child likes to practice repeatedly. Repetitive things can't be of any help to in-depth investigation and study. However, our current teaching mode is to train students in the same direction. In addition to coping with exam-oriented education, their unique personality and potential are constantly exhausted, and urban students may still have the conditions to attend various special classes. But as a front-line teacher in rural areas, I deeply know that the gap between children is getting bigger and bigger, and the work of teachers is monotonous and boring. What this kind of education lacks is concern for students and teachers.
Caring means a relationship, and its most basic form is the contact or contact between two people. Caring is the deepest desire, caring is a temporary pity, caring is all the troubles, worries and pains in the world, and we live in caring all the time. Is the most real existence in life. I think caring is the existence of happiness, caring for others, making others feel happy, being cared for by others, and realizing happiness by themselves. Concern is not only between people, but also between people and knowledge, between people and nature, and even between people and the world. It's just that some things give us a slow response, so slow that you don't even realize that they care about you. Just like the relationship between people and the environment, the ecosystem we know, if people love and care about the environment, the environment will give people greater returns, fresh air, lingering birds and flowers, and a peaceful atmosphere.
I was very moved after reading this book. Care begins with self-care, so that people around you can feel care and let care pass on to each other.